Anyone else in a dedicated relationship, married or not, and having problems trying to decide residency locales with your partner? I just want to know how other people are planning to address these problems. Info on me: M4 now, spouse is non-medical, grew up around where I am in medical school. We are trying to decide how far away we should be applying. I live in the midwest and there are a few programs in the south/southwest I am really interested in shooting for. However, these programs are >18 hour drives from her parents back home. I know the right thing to do is to rank higher the places near her parents but it kills me to skip out on programs I might really fit into. Is this process really a sore point for any other couples? How are you figuring this all out?