Arguments with spouse about residency locale?

[DrBodacious]

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You need to make the decision, not her. But you need to consider it from the viewpoint of what is best for both of you, not just yourself. It is a blend of the benefits of a "better fit" program and being close to in-laws.

On one extreme, if you are 10 min from her parents, but are in a malignant program (where you never see your wife) with a bad reputation and lower chances of getting the training and fellowship opportunities that you want, it will hurt you both in the long run.

On the other hand, if you know your wife can't handle being away from home and that is where you match, it is going to be a problem. That being said, most spouses can adapt, especially if it is temporary for 3-5 yrs.

 

[BobbyB]

Yes, mothers spend 9 months carrying their child and finally deliver them after hours upon hours from their bajingo. You're darn right there is inequality when it comes to custody.

child custody is an arrangement based on the best interests for the child, not a form of reparations for a mother carrying a fetus to term.

 

[BobbyB]

Men also usually do not put aside their career aspirations and stay at home 100% to take care of the kids. Women do it MUCH more often, even now.

if Ark pointed that out, you guys would be all over him about how he lives in the 1950s and is out of touch with reality

 

[DermViser]

if Ark pointed that out, you guys would be all over him about how he lives in the 1950s and is out of touch with reality

#1 - Ark would have never said that, #2 context matters - The context which you obviously missed is that women sacrifice their career and money aspirations a lot more for the happiness of their husband and kids. Female physicians are MUCH more likely to work part time than men.