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So, I am a married 25 y.o. man working as an inpatient psychiatric social worker. I have been researching for the past 2 years about switching careers into the world of medicine. This includes: RN, NP, PA, and MD/DO. Mostly I was torn between thoughts of PA vs MD/DO like so many others on the web. Though I was originally leaning towards PA, I have made a significant shift towards the MD/DO route as I began to understand more of the comparisons and contrasts of each. However, I am still open minded as far as where I'll end up professionally. Furthermore, I have completed applications for formal post-bacs to start this summer/fall and am looking forward to that eye opening experience. With that said, my concern is more on the social spectrum.
My wife and I have been married just over a year and of course have had the conversations of starting a family in the future; she being 2 years older than I and concerned for her "biological clock." Because she, myself, and my friends can visually see me as an MD/DO rather than a mid-level, the topic of sacrifices necessary to make this happen are daunting to say the least as is voiced daily on the multitude of forums found on SDN. More specifically, in order for us to have me go through medical school, she would presumedly be the bread winner for us working as an RN, a job she doesn't quite care for (at least at the facility/specialty she's at now), but really wants to be a stay at home mother - and I want to foster that to fruition any means possible. Personally, my family will/ough to always come first (as much as possible) and thus want to be less selfish if I need be to pursue the 10 year path to attendinghood and become a mid-level pracitioner (PA).
My question: Are there any creative ideas to achieve both goals/expectations of getting my MD and having my wife be a mostly stay at home mom when the kids are younger than school age? One thing that has come to mind is the HPSP (military) to not only pay for the schools tuition, but to receive a small stipend to help with income. Or I suppose take out an excessive amount of student loans to cover tuition and living expenses? I know having family close by to support and/or watch children while she works is an optimal idea but unrealistic considering the lack of medical schools and post-bacs local to my hometown. Even more so and separately: insurance. 1. If I were to get the HPSP, does the military provide insurance while in school? 2. Does the school provide insurance for student and dependents? 3. Or is out of pocket for either medical services or insurance the only route for said situation?
I know that by far I am no alone with these inquiries and would love some feedback on ideas that did work, didn't work, or ideas that may work. And for the record, my wife is very supportive regardless of what I choose, but as mentioned before, I don't mind being less selfish in my pursuit if I can be supportive in hers.
Thanks for reading my vent.
My wife and I have been married just over a year and of course have had the conversations of starting a family in the future; she being 2 years older than I and concerned for her "biological clock." Because she, myself, and my friends can visually see me as an MD/DO rather than a mid-level, the topic of sacrifices necessary to make this happen are daunting to say the least as is voiced daily on the multitude of forums found on SDN. More specifically, in order for us to have me go through medical school, she would presumedly be the bread winner for us working as an RN, a job she doesn't quite care for (at least at the facility/specialty she's at now), but really wants to be a stay at home mother - and I want to foster that to fruition any means possible. Personally, my family will/ough to always come first (as much as possible) and thus want to be less selfish if I need be to pursue the 10 year path to attendinghood and become a mid-level pracitioner (PA).
My question: Are there any creative ideas to achieve both goals/expectations of getting my MD and having my wife be a mostly stay at home mom when the kids are younger than school age? One thing that has come to mind is the HPSP (military) to not only pay for the schools tuition, but to receive a small stipend to help with income. Or I suppose take out an excessive amount of student loans to cover tuition and living expenses? I know having family close by to support and/or watch children while she works is an optimal idea but unrealistic considering the lack of medical schools and post-bacs local to my hometown. Even more so and separately: insurance. 1. If I were to get the HPSP, does the military provide insurance while in school? 2. Does the school provide insurance for student and dependents? 3. Or is out of pocket for either medical services or insurance the only route for said situation?
I know that by far I am no alone with these inquiries and would love some feedback on ideas that did work, didn't work, or ideas that may work. And for the record, my wife is very supportive regardless of what I choose, but as mentioned before, I don't mind being less selfish in my pursuit if I can be supportive in hers.
Thanks for reading my vent.