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So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my university. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
 
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Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my alma mater. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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is she hot?

there, i asked it

but in all seriousness, i think you might be looking too much into it. that's just how some people are in nature. plus, she's a PI..

but really, is she hot? haha
 
eyang22286 said:
is she hot?

there, i asked it

but in all seriousness, i think you might be looking too much into it. that's just how some people are in nature. plus, she's a PI..

but really, is she hot? haha
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Nicole Kidman hot. No really.
 
Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my alma mater. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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My advice is, keep your love life separate from your professional/student life.
 
Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my university. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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Tap it.
 
Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my university. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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There's a lot more than a LOR at stake, here.
 
lol.. i would stay away... good luck with w/e u choose to do..
 
Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my university. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the
position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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Are you sure she wasn't just being nice and kind to you but your vivid imagination made it out to be much more ? :laugh: I can't count how many times have I heard from men that someone was being really flirtatious with them, only to find out the woman was simply being kind and lively.
 
I think getting involved with a PI would be fraught with danger. Post doc-post doc and PhD student-PhD student romances are bad enough and often end badly. You might have been misunderstanding how she was acting, also.
If you think this has potential as a romantic thing, I would try to get into a different lab...that way you don't have to worry about a conflict of interest.
 
Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my university. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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lol

how was she being "flirty"

do you think laughing = flirty?

lol

why the heck would it be beneficial in terms of LORs?

if you're attracted to her, you should be asking her out, not asking her for a reference

*slaps forehead*
 
cougar_01tfk.jpg


?
 
1. Take the job
2. Hit it
3. get steamy LOR
4. ????
5. PROFIT (royalties from the video release)
 
harrothere said:
1. Take the job
2. Hit it
3. get steamy LOR
4. ????
5. PROFIT (royalties from the video release)
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btw somehow i highly doubt that this PI is actually interested in a pre-med.
she might just have been very happy that someone is interested in working for her.

how about you visit her lab again.
and instead of just saying a string of "yes"s, actually hold a conversation, and get a better feel for whats there.
 
medhearter said:
btw somehow i highly doubt that this PI is actually interested in a pre-med.
she might just have been very happy that someone is interested in working for her.

how about you visit her lab again.
and instead of just saying a string of "yes"s, actually hold a conversation, and get a better feel for whats there.
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She is not a typical PI. She doesnt have a PHD. I am positive about her advance, I am mature enough to know when someone is flirting. It was pretty obvious; I dont want to go into the details. I am visiting again, to make sure that the lab is a good fit for me.
 
dragonfly99 said:
I think getting involved with a PI would be fraught with danger. Post doc-post doc and PhD student-PhD student romances are bad enough and often end badly. You might have been misunderstanding how she was acting, also.
If you think this has potential as a romantic thing, I would try to get into a different lab...that way you don't have to worry about a conflict of interest.
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There's no way in hell I plan on "getting involved" with her; not only is that perverted (I mean come on, now) but as you mentioned there would be a huge conflict of interest. God, I cant imagine dating the person I do research with. I have always rejected advances from girls in college so far (not because I'm gay or an a** but cause I have more important things to worry about) and this was only special because I thought her "liking me" would lead to an amazing letter. In other words, I would just be using this to my advantage in a nonphysical way.
 
Arjuna said:
There's no way in hell I plan on "getting involved" with her; not only is that perverted (I mean come on, now) but as you mentioned there would be a huge conflict of interest. God, I cant imagine dating the person I do research with. I have always rejected advances from girls in college so far (not because I'm gay or an a** but cause I have more important things to worry about) and this was only special because I thought her "liking me" would lead to an amazing letter. In other words, I would just be using this to my advantage in a nonphysical way.
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Umm, you sound like a very romantically inexperienced person. You can't possibly have the maturity level to tell if she's actually flirting with the intent for romance if you always shot girls down.

also, the whole "having an relationship jeopardizes ability to do well in school" is the biggest myth ever. a healthy relationship promotes emotional wellbeing of both people and allow you to do better in school.
 
Arjuna said:
There's no way in hell I plan on "getting involved" with her; not only is that perverted (I mean come on, now) but as you mentioned there would be a huge conflict of interest. God, I cant imagine dating the person I do research with. I have always rejected advances from girls in college so far (not because I'm gay or an a** but cause I have more important things to worry about) and this was only special because I thought her "liking me" would lead to an amazing letter. In other words, I would just be using this to my advantage in a nonphysical way.
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hail great brahmacharya king arjuna.



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ofcourse its a good thing for a PI to like you

but make sure you ask her before getting started on the research if she'll be able to write you a reference letter when the time comes, and if she'll be supportive towards.. i donno.. your goals in getting a pub, poster, presentation or what not.

a lot of the times we go with the PI we think likes us (platonically, as people), but then we wished we'd been clearer in the beginning about our goals.
 
also, its somewhat perverted that you titled the thread "attracted to PI?" and mentioned fantasizing about her and then followed up with "i have no intention of getting involved" lol. kinda perverted if you ask me.
 
wait a min. here

if she doesnt have a phd or a md,

you need to hit that


and leave the lab.
 
drizzt3117 said:
cougar_01tfk.jpg


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😆 drizzt FTW!

Arjuna said:
Not exactly in that age range, and single, so no. But, I must admit I couldnt help fantasizing before I slapped myself.
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what? cougars are single. and if she's a PI, she must either be "in that age range" or a child genius or something.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cougar

for the record, the fact that in the OP's post he immediately wondered about the benefits of this situation for his LOR is why i pretended not to be pre-med for 90% of college.
 
I think you're getting flirty/friendly with "i want you" confused. Girls can be like that a lot of times.

Calm down
 
medhearter said:
hail great brahmacharya king arjuna.



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ofcourse its a good thing for a PI to like you

but make sure you ask her before getting started on the research if she'll be able to write you a reference letter when the time comes, and if she'll be supportive towards.. i donno.. your goals in getting a pub, poster, presentation or what not.

a lot of the times we go with the PI we think likes us (platonically, as people), but then we wished we'd been clearer in the beginning about our goals.
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I was only entertaining drizzt. BTW, are you desi? Or did you do a google search on my name? Anyways, if you are cognizant with the Mahabharata, you know it is very unethical and a huge sin to do what some people on this forum are suggesting. Anyways, mythological references aside, the point is, the whole reason I am even considering staying in the lab is the LOR. I need to get into my dream school. I dont care if that results in being a brahmacharya.
 
PI liking you doesn't mean **** but that you are going to be their b*tch and will have a hard time leaving that lab. ask them for a reference letter to another lab, they will make sure they are slow to write it.
 
In order to get a good LOR, I think you need to be more worried about doing your job in the lab then whether or not your PI has a crush on you. I still wonder if you misread some signals, but even if she was flirting, I think she'd be professional enough to not let that kind of thing influence her when she writes you a letter 2 years from now.
 
Arjuna said:
I was only entertaining drizzt. BTW, are you desi? Or did you do a google search on my name? Anyways, if you are cognizant with the Mahabharata, you know it is very unethical and a huge sin to do what some people on this forum are suggesting. Anyways, mythological references aside, the point is, the whole reason I am even considering staying in the lab is the LOR. I need to get into my dream school. I dont care if that results in being a brahmacharya.
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There's nothing wrong with being a brahmacharya.

But I just think you're being incredibly naiive about the way you're perceiving her "signals". You have never held a significant romantic interaction with a female, and you're of the impression that several women have come on to you. I do doubt that this has been the case. Rather, women have likely taken to your shy personality and tried to initiate a jovial interaction, to see if you'd lighten up.

Yes, I am a desi. But I do feel that you'd be a hypocrite to be so righteous especially if you've actually written "attracted to PI?" as the title of this thread.
 
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Do it!!! Especially because she's hot. If I got a job like that I would be happy. If my PI was super HOT! It would just be a bonus, IMO... 😉
 
So lets gather and review. You got a job acceptance, the PI looks like Nicole Kidman but you don't want to hit it because it is "perverted" and you have experience turning down hot girls. Are there any pics of this said PI?
 
Arjuna said:
She is not a typical PI. She doesnt have a PHD. I am positive about her advance, I am mature enough to know when someone is flirting. It was pretty obvious; I dont want to go into the details. I am visiting again, to make sure that the lab is a good fit for me.
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That's what she said.
 
Nicole Kidman without a PhD? Why torture yourself? If it's at least Nicole Kidman before her love affair with botox that made her a frightening emotionless mask, I could understand. But then she'd be more like Naomi Watts, wouldn't she? <3
 
hhmm cougar, This thread is useless without pics
 
lovely-lady..bumps

*was completely unnecessary)
 
Wouldn't "Lab PI attracted to you" be a better thread title?
 
Anne_Bancroft03.jpg



I think this is the PI our OP is talking about.
 
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God, terdferguson, take those pictures out at once!
 
lol... some people said girls are like that.. and I cant agree more..

in my o chem lab, the lab asistant is so friendly to everyone... no one would think she is not flirting and she is crazy hot... + she has a boyfriend 😛... so no she aint flirting.. that's how girls are... same thing with ALL the girls in my english class...lol... they are all the communications major people... non-pre-med-smart people and very friendly... I swear to god this girl always sat next to wherever we went or stayed in my group for all activites semester long... hehe.. good thing I didnt make a move one her...lol.. her bf is a wrestler...hehe... but i had my experiences till then and I knew she was just one o'dem extra friendly chicks..
 
Arjuna said:
I am mature enough to know when someone is flirting. It was pretty obvious; I dont want to go into the details.
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Give us details! Come on, you KNOW you want to tell...
 
Arjuna said:
So last week, during my interview with a lab PI, who is pretty young, I noticed she was being really flirty and stuff. It was pretty awkward for me, and I didnt know how to respond other than smiling and saying yes every other minute. I dont think I have ever seen someone so happy and nervous at the same time, and I kinda felt embarassed. It didnt help that she was from my university. Anyways, do you guys think it is advisable to take the job in this lab, now that I have been offered the position? Could it be beneficial in terms of LORs? Thanks a lot!
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Wait a minute, a young, attractive, flirty Nicole Kidman lookalike who happpns to be a PI (without a Ph.D.) who works at your university and who interviewed you just offered you a job and you want to ask us if you should accept the position in case it could be beneficial to your LOR?


Dear Penthouse, I never thought it would happen to me ... but I have a hard time believeing any of this. Just saying.
 
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