Average age of marriage for physicians

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kgpremed11 said:
Id just be grossed out at the girls my mom would pick. She'd probably pick some ultra religious, super dumb, "I wanna just stay home an have babies" type. I know they say men value looks above all, but that just isn't true for me, If I can't hold a decent conversation with you its not going to work. Also im not religious at all.
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So a woman has to be "ultra religious" and "super dumb" to prefer raising her children instead of outsourcing their well-being to someone else? That's a pretty juvenile opinion, bro.
 
mzarrowsmith said:
So a woman has to be "ultra religious" and "super dumb" to prefer raising her children instead of outsourcing their well-being to someone else? That's a pretty juvenile opinion, bro.
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Please do not go into medicine, your reasoning is horrible. I did not say being religious had anything to do with wanting children, I just stated these qualities, completly independent of one another, would be qualities my mom would pick in a woman she wanted me to marry.
 
LovelyBRass said:
This is what annoys people about arranged marriage... that you do it as a last resort instead of developing the skills, understanding, and maturity to find someone on your own.

Otoh, arranged marriage can be great in that you don't have to bother with dating (and therefore heartbreak), you're guaranteed to be with someone that meets superficial standards (attractiveness, salary), and you'll be with someone that your family approves of right off the bat! It's really not too different from your mom introducing you to someone - after all, who wants the best for you more than she does? In the modern era, it's not like the two people getting married meet AT the wedding or something. Plus, I think people who have arranged marriages have more traditional values and I would imagine are less inclined to get divorced (though I have zero stats to back that up). I don't think I would personally do it in the traditional sense since my last so was truly wonderful in ways my parents would never be able to seek out, but I can understand why people would choose this.
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So, because I study Berg's Biochem instead of getting faded at a club listening to Levels or whatever...that means that I'm "immature"? I guess half of SDN meets that criteria!

Look, developing social skills takes time and work. Since I'm going to medical school, and residency after that, I won't have time or energy to do anything outside medicine and my bodybuilding routine (4-5 hrs/week). Hell, in residency I might even have to give up my beloved bodybuilding routine.

So, when am I supposed to find the time to practice PUA or whatever they call it? I have some friends who are big into that stuff, and they practice at bars and clubs every week. I won't have that kind of time, especially when I go to residency.





To answer your other question, people in arranged marriages rarely divorce, but most of that is because divorce is culturally taboo.

We don't have much data comparing the two, except that 74% of educated Indians favor arranged marriage.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/Enter...rranged-marriages-Survey/Article1-922376.aspx


If we look at Indian immigrant marriages, there is no difference between the happiness of arranged and choice married couples.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22897093



I've read other stuff saying that in arranged marriages, feelings of commitment increase over time, whereas in love marriages the opposite happens, but I'm too lazy to find those.
 
kgpremed11 said:
Please do not go into medicine, your reasoning is horrible. I did not say being religious had anything to do with wanting children, I just stated these qualities, completly independent of one another, would be qualities my mom would pick in a woman she wanted me to marry.
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u mad at ur mom bro?
 
mzarrowsmith said:
u mad at ur mom bro?
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Did I ever say I was mad at my mom? We have different opinions in what makes a good wife. Dude seriously If you can't comprehend a simple statement, you'd probably be better in a field like envionmental services.
 
HughMyron said:
So, because I study Berg's Biochem instead of getting faded at a club listening to Levels or whatever...that means that I'm "immature"? I guess half of SDN meets that criteria!

Look, developing social skills takes time and work. Since I'm going to medical school, and residency after that, I won't have time or energy to do anything outside medicine and my bodybuilding routine (4-5 hrs/week). Hell, in residency I might even have to give up my beloved bodybuilding routine.

So, when am I supposed to find the time to practice PUA or whatever they call it? I have some friends who are big into that stuff, and they practice at bars and clubs every week. I won't have that kind of time, especially when I go to residency.





To answer your other question, people in arranged marriages rarely divorce, but most of that is because divorce is culturally taboo.

We don't have much data comparing the two, except that 74% of educated Indians favor arranged marriage.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/Enter...rranged-marriages-Survey/Article1-922376.aspx


If we look at Indian immigrant marriages, there is no difference between the happiness of arranged and choice married couples.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22897093



I've read other stuff saying that in arranged marriages, feelings of commitment increase over time, whereas in love marriages the opposite happens, but I'm too lazy to find those.
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It takes a few hours on a friday/saturday night. Undergrad of all places should be a joke to pull this off. If you exercise 4-5hrs/week, and go to school and study, that leaves lots of time on those two days.

I know it may not be applicable in your case(due to arranged marriage), but for people who have this mindset, you can find one day in the week to meet people.
 
KnuxNole said:
It takes a few hours on a friday/saturday night. Undergrad of all places should be a joke to pull this off. If you exercise 4-5hrs/week, and go to school and study, that leaves lots of time on those two days.

I know it may not be applicable in your case(due to arranged marriage), but for people who have this mindset, you can find one day in the week to meet people.
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What if you're 19...that makes it kinda hard to get into clubs and bars hehe.
 
kgpremed11 said:
Did I ever say I was mad at my mom? We have different opinions in what makes a good wife. Dude seriously If you can't comprehend a simple statement, you'd probably be better in a field like envionmental services.
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I am sorry, Sir. The English is not my first language. Sometimes I have troubles with "understanding" lol. And I also love the environment so I think I would like this field very much.
 
HughMyron said:
So, because I study Berg's Biochem instead of getting faded at a club listening to Levels or whatever...that means that I'm "immature"? I guess half of SDN meets that criteria!

Look, developing social skills takes time and work. Since I'm going to medical school, and residency after that, I won't have time or energy to do anything outside medicine and my bodybuilding routine (4-5 hrs/week). Hell, in residency I might even have to give up my beloved bodybuilding routine.
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Dude I was defending your decision but for other reasons. S'all good though, just keep making excuses for yourself. :corny:
 
LovelyBRass said:
Dude I was defending your decision but for other reasons. S'all good though, just keep making excuses for yourself. :corny:
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It's the Internet, it's hard to divine people's intentions here. I just got annoyed when I thought you implied that I was some sort of immature, childlike subhuman because I couldn't seduce a 9/10 female at a bar.
 
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MelissaThompson said:
It is a cultural thing.

Us Americans = values personality/common interest

Them Asians = values career/family background

Most Koreans meet their spouse through introductions - "introducing" someone is by far the most common way of meeting a mate, whether it is through friends, coworkers, or most common of all, family.
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Just wanted to mention that this isn't really true and kind of comes off as racist. Personality/common interests are important to most cultures in marriage, however, so are material things, and Americans are in no way immune to that. How often do you see a perfect 10 model (male or female) with a good job/life getting married to a high school dropout slob just because they share "common interests"? Material things matter a lot, just Asians are more open to admit it.
 
Stumpyman said:
Just wanted to mention that this isn't really true and kind of comes off as racist. Personality/common interests are important to most cultures in marriage, however, so are material things, and Americans are in no way immune to that. How often do you see a perfect 10 model (male or female) with a good job/life getting married to a high school dropout slob just because they share "common interests"? Material things matter a lot, just Asians are more open to admit it.
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Let me give you an example..

Do you care about what your GF's parents do? Whether they are professors or farmers?

In Korea - your potential GF can be a freaking model - but if her family background is farming - then that is a big black mark!
 
Stumpyman said:
Just wanted to mention that this isn't really true and kind of comes off as racist. Personality/common interests are important to most cultures in marriage, however, so are material things, and Americans are in no way immune to that. How often do you see a perfect 10 model (male or female) with a good job/life getting married to a high school dropout slob just because they share "common interests"? Material things matter a lot, just Asians are more open to admit it.
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I also know a few female docs that have married carpenters/high school teachers/contract workers..

In Korea - the female will always marry up - as in someone with higher salary/higher education - much better finances...etc etc
 
Even females here want to marry up, but it's getting harder when most of the college grads are women. I can't imagine how hard it would be for a female physician to marry up...I mean, only biglaw and ibanking are "above" medicine, and not too many people are in those fields.
 
HughMyron said:
Even females here want to marry up, but it's getting harder when most of the college grads are women. I can't imagine how hard it would be for a female physician to marry up...I mean, only biglaw and ibanking are "above" medicine, and not too many people are in those fields.
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There are TONS of single Asian physicians here in the US... why can't they marry American girls?

In your own words - you got no game - so hard to get anyone above a 6/10
 
I personally want a man that can make me happy - and give me a DECENT living.

I would never marry just for $$
 
HughMyron said:
Even females here want to marry up, but it's getting harder when most of the college grads are women. I can't imagine how hard it would be for a female physician to marry up...I mean, only biglaw and ibanking are "above" medicine, and not too many people are in those fields.
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Marrying up is one of the silliest ideas ever thought of. I understand you want to marry out of poverty, but after that it does not make sense. This is especially true when you’re sacrificing other qualities.
 
MelissaThompson said:
I would take a carpenter that knows how to *ahem* satisfy me over a wealthy banker/doctor/lawyer any day.
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Good to know a lowly carpenter has a shot with you if he knows how to use his tools.
 
MelissaThompson said:
I personally want a man that can make me happy - and give me a DECENT living.

I would never marry just for $$
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meh. you might not be asking what a guy's salary is, but you are going to be a doctor. you won't want to be with a man who is any less driven and successful than you - it's unattractive. you may think you're only going to marry someone who makes you happy, but how much do you have in common with your local blue-collar worker? if you can't have a conversation with him, how happy will you be. i would imagine that your intelligence and emphasis for academic excellence in pursuing medicine at its highest level make it difficult for you to be able to be happy with any joe-schmo.
 
MelissaThompson said:
I personally want a man that can make me happy - and give me a DECENT living.

I would never marry just for $$
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bull ****

MelissaThompson said:
I would take a carpenter that knows how to *ahem* satisfy me over a wealthy banker/doctor/lawyer any day.
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MelissaThompson said:
Let me give you an example..

Do you care about what your GF's parents do? Whether they are professors or farmers?

In Korea - your potential GF can be a freaking model - but if her family background is farming - then that is a big black mark!
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Are you Korean?

MelissaThompson said:
There are TONS of single Asian physicians here in the US... why can't they marry American girls?

In your own words - you got no game - so hard to get anyone above a 6/10
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Source for these "TONS" of single Asian physicians who can't marry American girls? (and that's clearly not true, anyways)
You also do realize that Asians (including south, southeast, eastern) have some of the lowest divorce rates (in the US), right? (And there are plenty of sources for that).

MelissaThompson said:
I personally want a man that can make me happy - and give me a DECENT living.

I would never marry just for $$
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Ok.
 
LovelyBRass said:
meh. you might not be asking what a guy's salary is, but you are going to be a doctor. you won't want to be with a man who is any less driven and successful than you - it's unattractive. you may think you're only going to marry someone who makes you happy, but how much do you have in common with your local blue-collar worker? if you can't have a conversation with him, how happy will you be. i would imagine that your intelligence and emphasis for academic excellence in pursuing medicine at its highest level make it difficult for you to be able to be happy with any joe-schmo.
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Hmmmm, that is an important consideration, even for men. I would like to say that I only care about looks, but I don't think I would be happy with a poorly educated female.

The problem is that I don't want a highly educated one, either. Most of this is because women who prioritize education above everything tend to not pay too much attention to their looks. And lettuce beef cereal, it's hard to look like an LA club girl when you're a surgeon 🙂

It's all about striking the balance.
 
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HughMyron said:
Hmmmm, that is an important consideration, even for men. I would like to say that I only care about looks, but I don't think I would be happy with a poorly educated female.

The problem is that I don't want a highly educated one, either. Most of this is because women who prioritize education above everything tend to not pay too much attention to their looks.

It's all about striking the balance.
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Nope. It's all about finding a woman that looks good without trying to look good. :naughty:
 
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MedPR said:
Nope. It's all about finding a woman that looks good without trying to look good. :naughty:
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Can't find those, the legit 9.5+ material women go for the Ibankers and CEOs.
 
Venom5 said:
so whats ur definition of legit 9.5?
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Lol. There's a reason I used "9.5+" instead of going into detail about everything.

Let's put it this way. Imagine that my idea of a 10 is a petite, auburn haired woman with hazel eyes, an attractive face, a small waist, and moderate-sized breasts and buttocks.

I've just painted a very specific picture. You may like it. But if your idea of a 10 is a tall, dark Brazilian woman with large synthetic breasts (augmented by a mastopexy) and "dat ass," you probably dislike it.

But when I say "10" or "9.5+," things are different. Suddenly, the image in your mind is your idea of a 10, and you can appreciate what I am saying.


So as I've shown, the primary purpose of numerically grading women is for rhetorical effect, not for "hurr durrr misogyny" as some women think.



I'll describe my perfect 10 later, not sure if this is appropriate for pre-allo anyways.
 
HughMyron said:
Lol. There's a reason I used "9.5+" instead of going into detail about everything.

Let's put it this way. Imagine that my idea of a 10 is a petite, auburn haired woman with hazel eyes, an attractive face, a small waist, and moderate-sized breasts and buttocks.

I've just painted a very specific picture. You may like it. But if your idea of a 10 is a tall, dark Brazilian woman with synthetic breasts (augmented by a mastopexy) and "dat ass," you probably dislike it.

But when I say "10" or "9.5+," things are different. Suddenly, the image in your mind is your idea of a 10, and you can appreciate what I am saying.


So as I've shown, the primary purpose of numerically grading women is for rhetorical effect, not for "hurr durrr misogyny" as some women think.



I'll describe my perfect 10 later, not sure if this is appropriate for pre-allo anyways.
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Good list. I shall use the HughMyron Classification for future references. This will definitely make me ace my retake :naughty::naughty:
 
HughMyron said:
Lol. There's a reason I used "9.5+" instead of going into detail about everything.

Let's put it this way. Imagine that my idea of a 10 is a petite, auburn haired woman with hazel eyes, an attractive face, a small waist, and moderate-sized breasts and buttocks.

I've just painted a very specific picture. You may like it. But if your idea of a 10 is a tall, dark Brazilian woman with large synthetic breasts (augmented by a mastopexy) and "dat ass," you probably dislike it.

But when I say "10" or "9.5+," things are different. Suddenly, the image in your mind is your idea of a 10, and you can appreciate what I am saying.


So as I've shown, the primary purpose of numerically grading women is for rhetorical effect, not for "hurr durrr misogyny" as some women think.



I'll describe my perfect 10 later, not sure if this is appropriate for pre-allo anyways.
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damn i think my chrome crashed, can't see pics
 
HughMyron said:
The question was rhetorical rather than interrogative..."game" means different things to different people.
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Game is the ability to attract your 10.
 
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