Balancing Pod School with Relationships

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Although my current path is occupational therapy, I somehow always end up looking on the podiatry forum. I was, at one time, strongly considering pod school, but I have a few major reserves. I would love it if you all could answer my questions.
·By the time I would matriculate, I would be a (fairly) newlywed. Does pod school allow you any time to spend with your significant other? If so, how much?
·Is it possible to have a child while in pod school? This is very important, as I would like to have one child by 25 or 26.
·How much time (outside of class) is spent studying?
·Would I have to move for my residency?
 
I am only a first year so take this with a grain of salt...

I am 26 and will turn 27 during my first year and I got married last November. So far, It has had it's ups and downs. Your spouse will have to understand the burden that you are taking on by getting a medical education, but it isn't the end of the world. On the weeks you have tests, you may barely see each other. On the weeks that aren't test heavy, you should be able to spend a fair amount of time together. We don't have children, although there are several classmates between DO/DPM at our school that do and they seem to make it work. Either way, a good portion of your time will be spent either in class or studying. As a matter of fact, I am typing this for a study break from Biochem and I haven't hardly seen my wife this week so far. Getting the knowledge base to heal people takes a lot of time and dedication. As far as having to move for residency, it can depend on where you live/plan to go to school, but I would certainly say you must be willing to go wherever you are selected for. With this said, so far, I have no regrets with my decision to leave a great job/home/family to go to school.

The biggest thing to consider is the 4th year and how it is set up with the school you are looking at. This seems like it will be the toughest time for those of us with spouses/family. I Hope this helps...
 
Every relationship is different. You will find out what works for you. I like to get up early and study 1-2 hours before class. I stay for 1-2 hours after class and go home to BE home. No study. On weekends I will study until 5 on Saturday and a few hours Sunday. This works for us.

Children in pod school? Some classmates have 2 or 3 under the age of 5.

Moving in Residency? It is likely.
 
Although my current path is occupational therapy, I somehow always end up looking on the podiatry forum. I was, at one time, strongly considering pod school, but I have a few major reserves. I would love it if you all could answer my questions.
·By the time I would matriculate, I would be a (fairly) newlywed. Does pod school allow you any time to spend with your significant other? If so, how much?
·Is it possible to have a child while in pod school? This is very important, as I would like to have one child by 25 or 26.
·How much time (outside of class) is spent studying?
·Would I have to move for my residency?

If you want more answers, you should look at the MD/DO thread. The reason being that Pod school and Med school are pretty much exactly the same in terms of time commitment and amount of work.

1. You will not have a lot of time to spend with your spouse. Generally you have classes from 8-2 Monday-Friday the first 2 years. Additionally, do not forget the anatomy labs. Those are 4+ hours long so some days you get out of school 6pm or later.

Then you have rotations and classes the last 2 years and the time commitment is even more. You will likely do on calls and night shifts depending on what rotation you are in. (The schedule is different for each school but generally the same). At my school, you don't even get a summer off. We only get 2 weeks in the summer from 1st year to 2nd year.

2. It is possible to have a child in school but it will be super hard. I have a female friend that had a child in her 2nd year of med school but ended up having to repeat the year since she failed too many exams. If you search the MD/DO thread, you will see that many people decide to have kids the end of their 4th year or the last year of residency. Additionally, there is no national policy on maternity leave so it varies by school. ( Since all residency are funded by the government and you are technically an employee, the maternity leave policy is standardized during residency, hence why some ppl have kids during residency vs during school. )

3. You will spend on average 1-3 hours a day outside of class studying. The hour will vary depending on each person. Just remember this isn't undergrad where a student may be a psych major vs an engineer major. Everyone will have a full load of upper level science courses.

4. You will most likely have to move for residency unless you are going to the Pod schools in NYC, Philly, Miami and California. You will more than likely have to move compared to the MD/DO students since they have more residency locations to choose from, especially since their med school usually has residency programs.


All that being said, you can do it if you really want it. There are several older people in my class. There are also several newlyweds in my brother's medical school class also and are still chugging along.
 
As they say, every relationship is different.

The important thing is that you both understand (as best as is possible, considering you can't really understand until you've been through it) the commitment, and consider yourself on the same team working towards a mutually beneficial goal.

Mine likely won't make it through, but it is what it is. You won't have as much time to work on relationship issues that people in the "real world" have many hours/week to deal with. If you're stable and doing well, then ideally these won't come up, and the main issue will be just trying to have some time together.

Best of luck.
 
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