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so i graduated in December and am accepted to med school in the fall. With all of this free time hanging out with friends and working on relationships I have found that I possibly missed out on some great opportunities for serious relationships in college. I blame my competitive attitude in doing the best possible academically and with extracurriculars in order to give me the best chance for medical school admission. And when i wasn't being serious with school i admit that i acted like a complete jack ass to women and pretty much used them for my benefit. Looking back I am pretty depressed over all of the relationships that had great potential but inevitably I wouldnt take anything serious and screw it up. I am writing this for all of you premeds out there that might be in a similar situation. Dont do what i did. It kind of sucks watching all of your friends get married/be in serious relationships while you seem to be the odd man out.
 
I guess it depends on the individual. I am happily divorced and do not want another husband or serious boyfriend. The more people I meet the more I like my horse.
 
🙂 Morsetlis is always available. He can do tricks too, although I'd prefer not to share what they are.
 
I have a waiting list longer than the UC's.
 
Another one of these threads? Just do stuff you enjoy, relax before med sch starts and look then. 🙂
 
Dude enjoy it man. Being single in college is awesome!
 
It could be worse, dude. You could be Hugh Hefner and have millions of dollars in disposable income and be swimming in naked women every single day of your life.
 
Dude enjoy it man. Being single in college is awesome!

eh, I would have to say that having a girlfriend has many benefits. Aside from the possible nagging you have to endure, the fun to be had in many random rendevouz is worthwhile.

Try match.com ?
 
if you were in a relationship you would be upset about that. timing is everything. sometimes a relationship is good, and other times its terrible. don't put so much pressure on yourself. it just sounds like now, in terms of your timing, you would like a relationship, whereas before it wasn't a good fit. single or not single, there are ups and downs to both.
 
so i graduated in December and am accepted to med school in the fall. With all of this free time hanging out with friends and working on relationships I have found that I possibly missed out on some great opportunities for serious relationships in college. I blame my competitive attitude in doing the best possible academically and with extracurriculars in order to give me the best chance for medical school admission. And when i wasn't being serious with school i admit that i acted like a complete jack ass to women and pretty much used them for my benefit. Looking back I am pretty depressed over all of the relationships that had great potential but inevitably I wouldnt take anything serious and screw it up. I am writing this for all of you premeds out there that might be in a similar situation. Dont do what i did. It kind of sucks watching all of your friends get married/be in serious relationships while you seem to be the odd man out.

Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.
 
Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

epic first post
 
Don't diss part-time nursing degrees. My parents did that and now they make more money than I will until I finish residency (and even then, with all the loans, it'd probably even out).
 
Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

I predict a T in the writing sample of your MCAT. Bravo, good sir.
 
Don't diss part-time nursing degrees. My parents did that and now they make more money than I will until I finish residency (and even then, with all the loans, it'd probably even out).

I'll chalk that interpretation up to shoddy syntax and grammar on my part. No diss to nursing, how anyone gets there, or your parents. 😉
 
I love being single.

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Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

best thing i've read on the site
 
I don't know man, I've got a lot of mixed feelings on this one. I've had one serious relationship while in college, and it just ended not too long ago. I'm all over the board, because I loved the girl, but I often found myself blaming her because I felt that I had so much less time for getting my **** together in preparing for the MCAT and some other things. But at the same time, I could've just been making excuses. She always said, "you make time for what you want to," and I thought, "shut up, you just want more time," haha, but in reality, I think she was right, in a lot of respects. Because looking back, she was an incredible support for a lot of parts of this process, and I don't know what in the world I would've done without her support. Weird and ironic, huh? You never know, the right relationship will add the right balance to your life, accordingly. If you think of it as a time burden kind of inconvenience, you found the wrong addition. The truly magical one will add a mix so that, the time she does "take up" is really time for you to refill on energy and relaxation, which should speed up your ability to focus when you do strap down on other things.....especially if you have a lot in common, then you're really not "giving up" anything.

I'm probably a huge hypocrite, because I'm trying to reignite the relationship right now, and I haven't even gotten an acceptance yet. Meaning? I don't know what's in my future, but I know there will be one, in one shape or another. Sucks to learn in hindsight, but you never know, sometimes it's a really good feeling to know that regardless, that person is going to be there with you every step along the way....that is, if you treat him/her right.

My 2 cents, I could go on forever with this. There is no right or wrong advice here, but I've found that the ABSOLUTE, MOST IMPORTANT THING you can do, is whatever is going to make you happy and successful in life, with a future where you see yourself realistically smiling. To that end, everyone has their own definition. I suggest renting the pursuit of happyness, haha
 
The pursuit of happiness? I've heard that somewhere on an old piece of paper written by men many centuries ago.
 
Being single is good. I don't have time for a boyfriend or a husband. And AbbyNormal I am on the same page with you.

Frankly single is better than a ****ty relationship that's going no where. What's more college is great fun when you're single!
 
Being single has plenty of benefits in college. Sometimes I miss the single days.
 
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Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

👍
 
Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

I wish my first post could have been this awesome.
 
Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

I am going to med school for sure now.
 
And when i wasn't being serious with school i admit that i acted like a complete jack ass to women and pretty much used them for my benefit. Looking back I am pretty depressed over all of the relationships that had great potential but inevitably I wouldnt take anything serious and screw it up. I am writing this for all of you premeds out there that might be in a similar situation. Dont do what i did. It kind of sucks watching all of your friends get married/be in serious relationships while you seem to be the odd man out.

"Experience is a brutal teacher but you learn, my God do you learn."
-C.S. Lewis

Just don't make the same mistakes twice...Best of luck to you 🙂
 
Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.



AMEN!:laugh::laugh::laugh:
 
I don't know man, I've got a lot of mixed feelings on this one. I've had one serious relationship while in college, and it just ended not too long ago. I'm all over the board, because I loved the girl, but I often found myself blaming her because I felt that I had so much less time for getting my **** together in preparing for the MCAT and some other things. But at the same time, I could've just been making excuses. She always said, "you make time for what you want to," and I thought, "shut up, you just want more time," haha, but in reality, I think she was right, in a lot of respects. Because looking back, she was an incredible support for a lot of parts of this process, and I don't know what in the world I would've done without her support. Weird and ironic, huh? You never know, the right relationship will add the right balance to your life, accordingly. If you think of it as a time burden kind of inconvenience, you found the wrong addition. The truly magical one will add a mix so that, the time she does "take up" is really time for you to refill on energy and relaxation, which should speed up your ability to focus when you do strap down on other things.....especially if you have a lot in common, then you're really not "giving up" anything.

I'm probably a huge hypocrite, because I'm trying to reignite the relationship right now, and I haven't even gotten an acceptance yet. Meaning? I don't know what's in my future, but I know there will be one, in one shape or another. Sucks to learn in hindsight, but you never know, sometimes it's a really good feeling to know that regardless, that person is going to be there with you every step along the way....that is, if you treat him/her right.

My 2 cents, I could go on forever with this. There is no right or wrong advice here, but I've found that the ABSOLUTE, MOST IMPORTANT THING you can do, is whatever is going to make you happy and successful in life, with a future where you see yourself realistically smiling. To that end, everyone has their own definition. I suggest renting the pursuit of happyness, haha

Your a man, there are PLENTY of better girls waiting out there for you. You have plenty of time to go through them too...It's not like you have to worry about shriveling eggs and what not! SHEESH people and their relationship problems...😴
 
Your a man, there are PLENTY of better girls waiting out there for you. You have plenty of time to go through them too...It's not like you have to worry about shriveling eggs and what not! SHEESH people and their relationship problems...😴



:eyebrow::lame:

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Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.
i know it's already been pointed out how great this is, but i am pretty sure i have a girl-crush on you. this post is as good as fight club + trainspotting combined. thanks for summing up life and relationships!
 
so i graduated in December and am accepted to med school in the fall. With all of this free time hanging out with friends and working on relationships I have found that I possibly missed out on some great opportunities for serious relationships in college. I blame my competitive attitude in doing the best possible academically and with extracurriculars in order to give me the best chance for medical school admission. And when i wasn't being serious with school i admit that i acted like a complete jack ass to women and pretty much used them for my benefit. Looking back I am pretty depressed over all of the relationships that had great potential but inevitably I wouldnt take anything serious and screw it up. I am writing this for all of you premeds out there that might be in a similar situation. Dont do what i did. It kind of sucks watching all of your friends get married/be in serious relationships while you seem to be the odd man out.

Dude, you did exactly waht you were supposed to do in college. Congrats on making it out without an MRS clinger or love child
 
Don't diss part-time nursing degrees. My parents did that and now they make more money than I will until I finish residency (and even then, with all the loans, it'd probably even out).
What does a PGY1 make?.....40-45K??? Lots of people will be making more money than you till you finish residency🙄
 
Man, I was in the same situation as yours. I was soo competitive and no matter how many times she was telling me to be nice, I didn't listen to her. We broke up after having a huge fight. She was crying and left me. She is in med school now and has a boy friend, and I have nothing so far. so it's 2:0!!!!
 
Alternately, you could have wasted your entire school experience shooting for that C average cuz ****, as long as you pass you graduate.
Then knock up one of those dumb sluts that passes for hot when you're 23, married her cuz "it's the right thing to do", and crank out another cuz...well, it just happened eh? Set on your solid trajectory for a squalid lower middle class existence you stay up late, sitting in your rented living room/office/dining room jerking off to squalid porn to the even cadence of that now 50 lbs overweight bovine corn fed nibblet snoring from the bedroom. Eventually you give up, having never really mustered past half mast anyway, something about the ever present smell of faintly spoiled milk that has become your signature sent. You know better, but you click on that University of Phoenix add in the corner of your screen anyway. The next hour you spend lost in nebulous musing of maybe working on an RN part time after work is as much a meager essay in useless masturbation as your actual attempt at masturbation. when exhaustion finally trumps the discomfort of that hand-me-down mattress you got from her parents when they upgraded, you fall asleep as you do every night, wishing like hell you'd studied more in college.

1. Being married is pretty cool.

2. Being single was pretty cool.

3. Being in a relationship to be in a relationship always sucks.

4. The chicks you banged in college were not victims. They chose to let you treat them however you treated them. If they didn't like it, they'll learn from it as you seem so be doing. Unless you have a guilt fetish, get the **** over it. Treat women better in the future. Treat yourself better in the future.

5. Who gives a **** what your friends are doing. Support the decisions they make in their lives, make your own decisions about yours.

Wow, you should become a writer. How come I can't ever write like this.😳
 
Let me tell you brother, "the grass is always greener", except when the other grass is the hell of being on lockdown. Then the grass looks like you left a kiddy pool on it over the weekend. As a guy in a relationship, I'll tell you...it freakin' sucks.

It's expensive. Valentine's Day cost me $60. Sixty bucks!! Are you friggin' kidding? I could have bought an Xbox game for that much. Or anything, for that matter. Instead, I spent it at some Italian restaurant which is quite literally, money down the toilet.

It's stressful. You constantly have to be thinking, "Oh, maybe I should invite her to this or else she's going to piss." or "Maybe I've been calling her too much." or "Maybe I haven't been calling her enough." You have to analyse every daggone breath you take in fear of hurting some chick's feelings.

You will lose your friends and your dignity. "Hey bud, you want to go to the gym later?" "No man, I'm watching Chocolat over at Stacy's house.." Do you REALLY want to have to say that? There's a statistic I learned in Human Sexuality that as a man ages he loses his friends. SCREW THAT!!!! There's a reason for it: women.

Let me teach you a historical lesson about dating. Now, the obvious one is Adam and Eve but you've likely heard that one before. So this one's a bit more modern:

The Smurfs...a happy, content village, right? One day, their arch-nemesis, Gargamel, creates Smurfette to disrupt the village. She goes into the village and instantly every male Smurf becomes jealous and competitive. She even outright tries to destroy the Smurfs! Eventually she's outed and Papa Smurf mistakingly lets her stick around, but I think the point is made. Relationships are nothing but trouble.

I'm not a misogynist...so please don't take it that way. I'm just saying that if you want to ruin everything you've ever worked for and enjoy yourself significantly less...getting into a relationship with someone who isn't completely right for you is the fastest way to do so.
 
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