OP, the point that you seem to be missing is that no matter what this girl did or did not do to you, physical violence was not the appropriate response. The fact that your response, repeatedly, has been to say essentially that this girl "deserved it" is nearly as troubling as the physical violence itself. The reason people have been comparing you to other cases is this is CLASSIC batterer thinking and behavior. This doesn't mean you weren't also a victim in this relationship, but in no way does this make your response any better.
Also, your response is essentially that your behavior was okay because she was "psychotic" and "pushed your buttons." Does that mean that when you have a legitimately psychotic patient, it's okay to hit them, too? What about a colleague you have a serious personality conflict with? You're going to respond to me saying sarcastically of course not, but your history, current excuses, and lack of remorse (other than the impact it might have on yourself) say otherwise....and THIS is why med schools will consider you a potential danger to patients and not accept you.
OK, I'll bite. What else have you been getting up to that this girl was able to blackmail you over? Or in other words, you're easy to confess to physical violence, it makes me wonder what else is in your background that was so bad that you were actually trying to hide?
I noticed that this thread was still getting responses after I'd stopped posting so I checked it out of curiosity.
It seems that most of you have the impression that I feel that I was in the complete right and that my mindset is "The bitch was asking to be slapped"
This is false. I know that slapping her was the wrong thing to do. My various posts attempting to give background information were just trying to shed some light as to why I slapped her. If you were in my place, would you come to this forum simply saying "I slapped a girl twice. Help me" or would you give background info? Deep inside, I feel like getting suspended was not the right decision for my school to make.
I work hard in all my classes, volunteer in a research lab, and have leadership positions in other campus clubs and a fraternity. I am a good person that when pushed in the past, made the wrong decisions.
As for your blackmail question, this pertains exactly to the 2nd slapping situation. I haven't been "getting up to any other things". If you read my first post, the only trouble I've ever made at this school has been between this girl and me. Read before you post.
Anyways, after she'd reported me, I asked her if she could take my side in the school hearing that would come and possibly have the charges dropped. She agreed to do so, but forced me to do many things for her such as allowing her to live in my apartment when none of my roommates and I wanted her around, forcing me to tutor her in organic chemistry because she was getting F's and I was getting A's, forcing me to take her to my all my fraternity events, forcing me to introduce her to my PI of my lab so she could obtain the same position I had gotten for myself, getting insanely jealous when she saw me talking to other girls and going to lunch with them, etc.
Whenever I refused to do these things for her, she would just rescind her willingness to help me in the upcoming hearing for the slap and threaten to write an email on the spot to the school to "doom" me. Thus, I would immediately agree to do everything and anything she wanted.
This is also why I did not leave the relationship as others have asked. I simply COULD NOT. I was TRAPPED because if I left, she would not have taken my side and dropped the charges. Because I so desperately wanted to get into medical school, I believed that she would help me if I did all these things for her and endured all this emotional and mental abuse.
The sad thing is, when the time came along. She turned her back on me anyway and did not drop the charges. Basically, she used me for everything and double crossed me in the end. This is why I yelled at her and was accused a third time of being violent. I didn't even lay a finger on her the third time, but yelling at her to move her things out of my apartment and get out of my life was enough to be considered violent.
I did not want to post this online and I've probably said way too much about myself now, but this is the picture that people need to see. At the end of the day, I have learned that I need to control my emotions better and as mentioned before, am in anger management counseling with a psychiatrist. I know what I did was wrong and I"m sorry for that. I hope this clarifies everything. I can not go into any more details
