I noticed that this thread was still getting responses after I'd stopped posting so I checked it out of curiosity.
It seems that most of you have the impression that I feel that I was in the complete right and that my mindset is "The bitch was asking to be slapped"
This is false. I know that slapping her was the wrong thing to do. My various posts attempting to give background information were just trying to shed some light as to why I slapped her. If you were in my place, would you come to this forum simply saying "I slapped a girl twice. Help me" or would you give background info? Deep inside, I feel like getting suspended was not the right decision for my school to make.
I work hard in all my classes, volunteer in a research lab, and have leadership positions in other campus clubs and a fraternity. I am a good person that when pushed in the past, made the wrong decisions.
As for your blackmail question, this pertains exactly to the 2nd slapping situation. I haven't been "getting up to any other things". If you read my first post, the only trouble I've ever made at this school has been between this girl and me. Read before you post.
Anyways, after she'd reported me, I asked her if she could take my side in the school hearing that would come and possibly have the charges dropped. She agreed to do so, but forced me to do many things for her such as allowing her to live in my apartment when none of my roommates and I wanted her around, forcing me to tutor her in organic chemistry because she was getting F's and I was getting A's, forcing me to take her to my all my fraternity events, forcing me to introduce her to my PI of my lab so she could obtain the same position I had gotten for myself, getting insanely jealous when she saw me talking to other girls and going to lunch with them, etc.
Whenever I refused to do these things for her, she would just rescind her willingness to help me in the upcoming hearing for the slap and threaten to write an email on the spot to the school to "doom" me. Thus, I would immediately agree to do everything and anything she wanted.
This is also why I did not leave the relationship as others have asked. I simply COULD NOT. I was TRAPPED because if I left, she would not have taken my side and dropped the charges. Because I so desperately wanted to get into medical school, I believed that she would help me if I did all these things for her and endured all this emotional and mental abuse.
The sad thing is, when the time came along. She turned her back on me anyway and did not drop the charges. Basically, she used me for everything and double crossed me in the end. This is why I yelled at her and was accused a third time of being violent. I didn't even lay a finger on her the third time, but yelling at her to move her things out of my apartment and get out of my life was enough to be considered violent.
I did not want to post this online and I've probably said way too much about myself now, but this is the picture that people need to see. At the end of the day, I have learned that I need to control my emotions better and as mentioned before, am in anger management counseling with a psychiatrist. I know what I did was wrong and I"m sorry for that. I hope this clarifies everything. I can not go into any more details
