Dating atmosphere in med school?

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DoctorofDelight said:
Women and men value and find different things attractive about the opposite sex. Men look for good looks and emotional stability. Women look for good providers so status, sense of humor, and then looks are important for them. Therefore, we focus on improving different things about ourselves to get who we want. How do you not realize that?
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lol I don't think you get what I'm trying to tell you. anyway, you keep working your butt off, make a lot of money so you can find a nice gold digger one day
 
DoctorofDelight said:
Women and men value and find different things attractive about the opposite sex. Men look for good looks and emotional stability. Women look for good providers so status, sense of humor, and then looks are important for them. Therefore, we focus on improving different things about ourselves to get who we want. How do you not realize that?
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To get who we want? You mean like a prize? I did not realize that. Thanks! I shall claim my prize when my status is high enough and my sense of humor is fully developed.
 
boogaloo said:
To get who we want? You mean like a prize? I did not realize that. Thanks! I shall claim my prize when my status is high enough and my sense of humor is fully developed.
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If you just make a little more money, someone will finally want you. But yeah those are definitely the people you'd want to date, the people only interested in you when you make more money. Lol hilarious, these dudes literally set out themselves as the typical provider women go for when they're in their early 30s and want to settle down after their wild years.
 
Here's a newsflash: When you marry someone that only becomes interested in you because of your money, your marriage isn't going to be very fun. After they get access to that money, what incentive do they have to do things you want to do? None.

It's always funny to me when people are like "after I become a doctor, women will be interested in me?" Uh...well why the hell do you think that is? Is that something you want? Because if you want to buy companionship, there's way easier ways to do that than finding some chick that will tolerate you because you make 6 figures.
 
PL198 said:
If you just make a little more money, someone will finally want you. But yeah those are definitely the people you'd want to date, the people only interested in you when you make more money. Lol hilarious, these dudes literally set out themselves as the typical provider women go for when they're in their early 30s and want to settle down after their wild years.
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PL198 said:
Here's a newsflash: When you marry someone that only becomes interested in you because of your money, your marriage isn't going to be very fun. After they get access to that money, what incentive do they have to do things you want to do? None.
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It's okay, man. That's the only way some people can be attractive, which is understandable especially in medicine where your entire "prime" in terms of health and beauty is spent in the books learning a language that relatively few people speak. It's not like that for everyone, but I can see how certain personalities have to resort to money, power, and status to be attractive to women who otherwise would not have even farted in their direction. Talk about putting things on a pedestal. I've dated some very pretty girls, but they were less fun to "be around" than some traditionally less attractive acquaintances. I would much rather find someone I enjoy being around than someone who looks very, very good that I can provide for, but that's just me.
 
boogaloo said:
It's okay, man. That's the only way some people can be attractive, which is understandable especially in medicine where your entire "prime" in terms of health and beauty is spent in the books learning a language that relatively few people speak. It's not like that for everyone, but I can see how certain personalities have to resort to money, power, and status to be attractive to women who otherwise would not have even farted in their direction. Talk about putting things on a pedestal. I've dated some very pretty girls, but they were less fun to "be around" than some traditionally less attractive acquaintances. I would much rather find someone I enjoy being around than someone who looks very, very good that I can provide for, but that's just me.
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you're clearly a misogynist and a terrible person
 
DoctorofDelight said:
I don't get why when you're with a woman who likes you for your looks, you guys are a great couple, but if a woman is with you and admires you for your accomplishments, she's a gold digger and you're a sucker?
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admires you for your accomplishments is a really nice way of saying they like how many 0s are in your paycheck. delude yourself all you want. it's just about money. there's no difference in the admiration for a guy that makes 300k as a plumber by owning his own company than there is for a doctor. you're just trying to justify reasons why you do what you do.
 
DoctorofDelight said:
And yet you'd be okay with a girl only dating a guy for their looks. Why is it worse to date someone for what they've actually done in life instead of what they were born with and cannot change (looks)?
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Not just their looks, it's your overall appeal for things that are actually not related to gold-digging. Ie your behavior, how you carry yourself, etc etc. Avg looking dudes that learned how to talk to girls do 100x better than some dude that looks like a greek god and so he never had to learn how to. That catches up to you real fast when you're older. I just find it funny you're basically setting yourself up where someone is with you for your money.
 
Dylasa said:
Didn't read all 10 pages, and I'm sure someone's already said it, but HOLY **** DON'T DATE SOMEONE YOU GO TO MEDICAL SCHOOL WITH.
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This is the worst advice any person has ever given
 
Dylasa said:
Didn't read all 10 pages, and I'm sure someone's already said it, but HOLY **** DON'T DATE SOMEONE YOU GO TO MEDICAL SCHOOL WITH.
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Sound advice.

I wouldn't even date a medical student unless they had something extra that really made them attractive.
 
jakeislove said:
Sound advice.

I wouldn't even date a medical student unless they had something extra that really made them attractive.
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I disagree
definitely lay with a girl from your class, seeing her constantly day after day will help you build character.
 
Kahreek said:
I disagree
definitely lay with a girl from your class, seeing her constantly day after day will help you build character.
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I wrote "date".

As far as the whole lay with thing goes: America's obesity epidemic didn't see fit to spare medical students.
 
jakeislove said:
I wrote "date".

As far as the whole lay with thing goes: America's obesity epidemic didn't see fit to spare medical students.
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There's less obese girls in my class than I can count on one hand. Med students are surprisingly fit.

I'd never, ever date a girl in my class if I were single though. It's just asking for all sorts of trouble. Plenty of women out there, screw dealing with the drama of dating a classmate.
 
Mad Jack said:
There's less obese girls in my class than I can count on one hand. Med students are surprisingly fit.

I'd never, ever date a girl in my class if I were single though. It's just asking for all sorts of trouble. Plenty of women out there, screw dealing with the drama of dating a classmate.
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Keep thinking with the big head, MJ!
 
only drama if you make it drama. people can break up and have it be fine if they're mature...
 
look in my sig for the funniest quote ever(not the one about MSPE)
 
EMDO2018 said:
yeah
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I would reconsider assuming that people outside of med school are generally not that smart.

Probably not the best way to start off dating someone that wants to do something different with their life.
 
Escalla said:
I would reconsider assuming that people outside of med school are generally not that smart.

Probably not the best way to start off dating someone that wants to do something different with their life.
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veterinary students are usually a good pick, although they are not as smart as their med school counterparts they come close and can be manipulated via cute cat pictures.
 
Kahreek said:
veterinary students are usually a good pick, although they are not as smart as their med school counterparts they come close and can be manipulated via cute cat pictures.
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I wasn't talking about other medical professionals.

Also, we're the ones that end lives, so emotional manipulation with pictures only works on pre-vets. Noob.
 
PL198 said:
only drama if you make it drama. people can break up and have it be fine if they're mature...
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You never know how cray a girl's gonna go until you break up with her.
Kahreek said:
veterinary students are usually a good pick, although they are not as smart as their med school counterparts they come close and can be manipulated via cute cat pictures.
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Vet school is actually far more competitive to get into than medical school. I don't know where you're getting the idea that vet students are less intelligent from.
Escalla said:
Is this really a serious assumption? Lol.

Smh.
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It always blows my mind to read things like what this guy is writing. He's throwing girls in boxes before he's even given them a shot- oh, not a med student, you surely can't understand time constraints! Not a med student, must be bordering on the low end of the IQ scale! When a guy like him goes into the dating scene with preconceived notions like that, it's no wonder he comes away empty handed.

My girlfriend is an artist, yet she totally understands my need to put time into my education, and she is also quite intelligent. Certainly has more common sense than most of my female classmates as well, being in her mid-20s and having more life experience under her belt than the majority of them.
 
PL198 said:
Not just their looks, it's your overall appeal for things that are actually not related to gold-digging. Ie your behavior, how you carry yourself, etc etc. Avg looking dudes that learned how to talk to girls do 100x better than some dude that looks like a greek god and so he never had to learn how to. That catches up to you real fast when you're older. I just find it funny you're basically setting yourself up where someone is with you for your money.
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I am not sure that is correct...
 
thsc said:
Vet school is far more competitive than med school? Is this for real? LOL
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That is not real! I think @Mad Jack was saying that because there are a lot less vet schools than med schools... However, people usually need 3.5+ GPA to get into vet school and they have to take the GRE, which 99.9% med students would call a joke...
 
Escalla said:
I wasn't talking about other medical professionals.

Also, we're the ones that end lives, so emotional manipulation with pictures only works on pre-vets. Noob.
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thanks for the heads up
*deletes lolcat folder*
 
thsc said:
Vet school is far more competitive than med school? Is this for real? LOL
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There are far less seats, far more applicants per seat overall, and very few schools that do not have a strong in-state bias. It is more competitive to get into than med school, hands down. Depending on where you're from you may have as little as a 10% chance of admission, whereas just under half of all applicants to medical school get admitted overall.

As to how they would fare on the MCAT, who is to say. They haven't prepped for it, so we can't really draw any conclusions there. Anyway, the ultimate point is that saying that vet students are less intelligent than med students is very speculative and likely untrue in many cases. Feel free to keep the circle-jerk of "we're med students and thus the best of the best of the best" going though 🙄 most of you aren't nearly as special or bright as you think you are.
 
Mad Jack said:
There are far less seats, far more applicants per seat overall, and very few schools that do not have a strong in-state bias. It is more competitive to get into than med school, hands down. Depending on where you're from you may have as little as a 10% chance of admission, whereas just under half of all applicants to medical school get admitted overall.

As to how they would fare on the MCAT, who is to say. They haven't prepped for it, so we can't really draw any conclusions there. Anyway, the ultimate point is that saying that vet students are less intelligent than med students is very speculative and likely untrue in many cases. Feel free to keep the circle-jerk of "we're med students and thus the best of the best of the best" going though 🙄 most of you aren't nearly as special or bright as you think you are.
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Comparing med school with vet school admission makes no sense at all because they don't not use the same metrics to admit applicants... Do you know the acceptance rate for vet school?

http://education.vetmed.ufl.edu/admissions/dvm-specifics/admission-statistics-by-class/

University of Florida does not seem to be that bad in term of competitiveness to me... Less than a 1000 applicants for over 100 seats...
 
BestDoctorEver said:
Comparing med school with vet school admission makes no sense at all because they don't not use the same metrics to admit applicants... Do you know the acceptance rate for vet school?
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It's really hard to say what the overall acceptance rate for vet school overall is. They don't have a centralized application service, so it's impossible to tell how many duplicate applicants there are, etc. It's pretty well accepted that there are less duplicate apps per student overall (due to the heavy in-state bias of most schools), so overall acceptance rates to each school tend to be higher (most have rates of around 8-12%) since there are less people applying broadly and thus less superfluous apps. Basically, it's impossible to say. And thus, it's also impossible to say where vet students stand in comparison to med students.
 
Mad Jack said:
It always blows my mind to read things like what this guy is writing. He's throwing girls in boxes before he's even given them a shot- oh, not a med student, you surely can't understand time constraints! Not a med student, must be bordering on the low end of the IQ scale! When a guy like him goes into the dating scene with preconceived notions like that, it's no wonder he comes away empty handed.

My girlfriend is an artist, yet she totally understands my need to put time into my education, and she is also quite intelligent. Certainly has more common sense than most of my female classmates as well, being in her mid-20s and having more life experience under her belt than the majority of them.
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It's like a med school bubble. Lol.

I kinda feel for you guys. There seems to be an overwhelming need to argue superiority. Whether that is between professions, MD/DO, med programs, specialties, etc. No one is discounting the rigours of getting into and surviving med school, but it would be wise to try and set aside the need to compete and establish intellectual superiority when entering the dating world. Acknowledging intelligence outside of your profession would be a reasonable first step. 😉
 
Mad Jack said:
It's really hard to say what the overall acceptance rate for vet school overall is. They don't have a centralized application service, so it's impossible to tell how many duplicate applicants there are, etc. It's pretty well accepted that there are less duplicate apps per student overall (due to the heavy in-state bias of most schools), so overall acceptance rates to each school tend to be higher (most have rates of around 8-12%) since there are less people applying broadly and thus less superfluous apps. Basically, it's impossible to say. And thus, it's also impossible to say where vet students stand in comparison to med students.
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The type of people that med school attract 'tend to be' very driven... I have taken classes with pre-vet who are in vet school now and I thought they would have a harder time getting into med school (whether MD or DO)....
 
BestDoctorEver said:
The type of people that med school attract 'tend to be' very driven... I have taken classes with pre-vet who are in vet school now and I thought they would have a harder time getting into med school (whether MD or DO)....
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Driven=/=Intelligent

Much of the drive I seem to see manifested in medical students seems to be derived from prestige obsession and a desire for a big payday, not from any inherent intellectual capacity.
 
Mad Jack said:
Driven=/=Intelligent

Much of the drive I seem to see manifested in medical students seems to be derived from prestige obsession and a desire for a big payday, not from any inherent intellectual capacity.
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I agree with you 100%...
 
People who avoid dating within their class are basically people who can't handle relationships like adults and their ****ty relationships implode. Yall are welcome for the psychoanalysis.
 
Wordead said:
People who avoid dating within their class are basically people who can't handle relationships like adults and their ****ty relationships implode. Yall are welcome for the psychoanalysis.
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🙄 There's a reason people say not to **** where you eat, dip your pen in the company ink, etc etc. Why date in the class when you can easily date outside the class and avoid numerous complications? No matter how mature you are, you never, ever know how the other person will react if things go south, because someone may appear normal on the outside but just go completely bat**** when their relationships fall apart because they never learned to date like an adult. Boundaries, dude.
 
Mad Jack said:
🙄 There's a reason people say not to **** where you eat, dip your pen in the company ink, etc etc. Why date in the class when you can easily date outside the class and avoid numerous complications? No matter how mature you are, you never, ever know how the other person will react if things go south, because someone may appear normal on the outside but just go completely bat**** when their relationships fall apart because they never learned to date like an adult. Boundaries, dude.
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medical school is different than the workplace.
 
Mad Jack said:
🙄 There's a reason people say not to **** where you eat, dip your pen in the company ink, etc etc. Why date in the class when you can easily date outside the class and avoid numerous complications? No matter how mature you are, you never, ever know how the other person will react if things go south, because someone may appear normal on the outside but just go completely bat**** when their relationships fall apart because they never learned to date like an adult. Boundaries, dude.
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Like 40% of marriages start in the workplace. Maybe you should stop taking whatever cosmogirl literature says as gospel. There are plenty of good things about dating in class or workplace. And your downsides are way magnified for random people. Or have you never heard of non med students going ape**** after a breakup?
 
southernIM said:
And everyone who has been through med school knows some ex-couples who can't keep their disgruntled feelings in check when they are in professional settings together.
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These are always fun to watch on clerkships. Even more of a reason to couple with someone either above your class or below your class but not in your class.
 
DermViser said:
These are always fun to watch on clerkships. Even more of a reason to couple with someone either above your class or below your class but not in your class.
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I said this once and everyone freaked out. I don't really see why it's a bad thing at all, you get all the "perks" of dating someone in medical school with regards to them understanding the process without being forced to see them in every single class thing you do.
southernIM said:
It is definitely different than the workplace, but neither is it the same as college/high school.

Med school definitely requires more professional interaction between students than other school settings.

And everyone who has been through med school knows some ex-couples who can't keep their disgruntled feelings in check when they are in professional settings together.
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People act this way after school? Seriously? It seems pretty hard for me to imagine physicians being that immature. I guess the whole ego thing makes each of them think they probably had nothing to do with the split.
 
Wordead said:
Like 40% of marriages start in the workplace. Maybe you should stop taking whatever cosmogirl literature says as gospel. There are plenty of good things about dating in class or workplace. And your downsides are way magnified for random people. Or have you never heard of non med students going ape**** after a breakup?
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Never had to resort to dating in the workplace myself. The thing is, anyone can go ballistic post breakup- but if you work with or are in school with them, you can't get away.

It's fine to date outside your department or year or whatever. But dating a classmate is pretty ******ed- I've already seen enough flings go sour and it's only been a few weeks. Glad I'm in a relationship and don't have to put up with that drama.
 
Mad Jack said:
Never had to resort to dating in the workplace myself. The thing is, anyone can go ballistic post breakup- but if you work with or are in school with them, you can't get away.

It's fine to date outside your department or year or whatever. But dating a classmate is pretty ******ed- I've already seen enough flings go sour and it's only been a few weeks. Glad I'm in a relationship and don't have to put up with that drama.
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no not anyone. that's why you don't date crazy. it's extremely easy to tell who will go psycho post breakup and who won't.
 
Mad Jack said:
Never had to resort to dating in the workplace myself. The thing is, anyone can go ballistic post breakup- but if you work with or are in school with them, you can't get away.

It's fine to date outside your department or year or whatever. But dating a classmate is pretty ******ed- I've already seen enough flings go sour and it's only been a few weeks. Glad I'm in a relationship and don't have to put up with that drama.
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I have noticed you seem to make statements and portray them as fact when they are really just are your opinion. Not even an experienced one in this case as you are in your first couple months of medical school (I believe?). I see no reason that one could not successfully date a fellow classmate. If things go south, then oh well you act mature and get past it. Maybe you're projecting your inner fears and that you know you would act immature and "******ed" after an intra-class breakup. This does not mean others will.
 
Wordead said:
People who avoid dating within their class are basically people who can't handle relationships like adults and their ****ty relationships implode. Yall are welcome for the psychoanalysis.
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What if you would rather not date while in med school? Please diagnose me.
 
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