I think we both agree that class mobility is beneficial for society and that everyone should have equal opportunities and resources. Your analogy is an example of SES-based affirmative action, and your argument is that since culture, which is associated with race, is a form of SES, race-based preferences are appropriate.
I understand your argument, but I disagree with your assumption that race is a proxy for SES. For example, would an ORM from a working-class family have a higher SES than a URM from a family of physicians? It's too reductive.
I also disagree that, even if we accept your premise that certain racial groups are more culturally adapted to succeed, this means we should discriminate against them. It is very different to come from a high-income province with access to prep courses than to come from a household which values education and achievement, and that shaping one's aspirations and career path.
And I will point out, intentionally or not, this statement is a form of implicit bias/racism--implying that Asian Americans (which is a broad term to begin with) are generally deficient in soft skills. While it would be off-topic to delve into the reasons behind this stereotype, it is telling that the two users liked who liked your post are supposed advocates for diversity equity and inclusion.
Hmmmm where do we start? So first, I didn't add the caveat of equal opportunities and resources because that's not what class mobility is about. Class mobility gives one class more resources to compensate for its inherent disadvantages, it is Medicaid of resource distribution. You do it because it gives you more bang for your buck.
The second point you're making is also problematic. Race is certainly a predictor for SES in the United States (so a proxy, no?). The example you give is possible but just unlikely at a population level. In other words, I'm saying there are much more lower SES URM than both High SES URM and low/mid SES ORM, which is why the resources are not distributed equally. Like Medicaid.
The third point is really something I want you to listen to. You're saying that valuing education and achievements leads to a better shaping of one's aspirations and career path. The reality is backward. I'm saying, and the literature agrees with me, that a higher SES leads to valuing one's education more (because you know you'll get a better job that pays more, which doesn't happen if you're poor) and therefore leads to a better shaping of one's aspiration and career path. Ironically, I come from a high SES URM, and boy did my mom not let me play with friends and I had to study all the time. Why? She knew it would lead to a better future. Kinda like a stereotypical Asian-American/Indian parent, wouldn't you say?
Finally, on your last point. I was stating that you were anxious and lacked self-esteem (which you didn't address). If you are such a great candidate an URM will not beat, you to a spot that you were not competing for anyways (if DEI was present). Therefore, your competitors are other members of the ORM, so your worry is moot. Additionally, I was stating that in my experience when coaching Asian Americans (because you are Asian American) for soft skills (I coach other people of course), they come across as you do in this whole post. I'm addressing my experience with this subset of people, who are not all falling within my experience, but what matters is that you do fall within that experience in this post. The issue is that you don't feel you might be competitive for the subspecialty you want, and it manifests as this odd logical argument against DEI and ORMs. This is what I meant that you like you use logic to hide behind what either u don't know you're feeling, or you don't want to accept your feeling. That is why you cherry-pick the points you address, while I address your whole post.
I will say I'm not trying to be personal here, there are just my observations and experiences of dealing with these kinds of concerns from people like you.
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