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I wonder what percentage of divorce occurs during medical school and during residency, and I wonder how they compare to the normal public's rate of divorce.
I got divorced during residency and I feel that my medical training played a large role in this outcome.
I missed out on important events, meetings, and dinners because of training (especially during residency) and when I did get to go to such events I was often tired and not as interactive as I normally would be. This placed a stress on my relationship and my ex-wife felt neglected or less important than my career. When I was exhausted, I was also not so "forgiving" of mistakes and I was quicker to anger.
I also believe that my medical training reduced the amount I was able to care for and interact with my child which placed additional stress on the relationship. Sometimes when I was spending time with him it was in emergent situations when I would have to bring him to the hospital to round with me, or even to the L&D dept and color pictures as I did a delivery. The stresses of finding babysitters or having them call in the morning to say they aren't coming, or to quit suddenly the morning you need them places huge stresses on a stressful situation.
I would think this is a common situation - a nonmedical spouse feeling neglected, having to carry more home/child responsibility, and the edgeness that occurs when someone is overworked resulting in a "parting of ways."
I got divorced during residency and I feel that my medical training played a large role in this outcome.
I missed out on important events, meetings, and dinners because of training (especially during residency) and when I did get to go to such events I was often tired and not as interactive as I normally would be. This placed a stress on my relationship and my ex-wife felt neglected or less important than my career. When I was exhausted, I was also not so "forgiving" of mistakes and I was quicker to anger.
I also believe that my medical training reduced the amount I was able to care for and interact with my child which placed additional stress on the relationship. Sometimes when I was spending time with him it was in emergent situations when I would have to bring him to the hospital to round with me, or even to the L&D dept and color pictures as I did a delivery. The stresses of finding babysitters or having them call in the morning to say they aren't coming, or to quit suddenly the morning you need them places huge stresses on a stressful situation.
I would think this is a common situation - a nonmedical spouse feeling neglected, having to carry more home/child responsibility, and the edgeness that occurs when someone is overworked resulting in a "parting of ways."