No, not getting special treatment (via the attractive card) doesn't equate to failing at life.
Concerning your second point, good news: the looks department aren't a dichotomy, rather a spectrum. So just because you don't get complimented for your looks doesn't mean that you're "pretty uggo" (although it might if you do, in fact, happen to be pretty uggo), more likely it means that you are perhaps just average a la the typical bell-curve. Hey, being average and not having heads turn when you walk by is better than being uggo and causing eyes to be shielded.
PS: average guys don't get compliments, average girls on the other hand still get compliments (don't be fooled by this inequality across the sexes). Also, what type of school/surroundings do you have where people are "complimented for being hot" 10/20x per day? Sounds like high school or myspace...