Do u guys get lonely sometimes?

[Dr.Masamichi]

ok, the reason I ask is because I do feel very lonely sometimes when I separate myself from the social world and just focus on the MCAT..Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..I do other things beside studying but sometimes I just feel so left out...Is this how doctor life going to be like? It scares me sometimes...wat u guys think? Anyone looks at this differently?🙂

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[Cataract]

ok, the reason I ask is because I do feel very lonely sometimes when I separate myself from the social world and just focus on the MCAT..Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..I do other things beside studying but sometimes I just feel so left out...Is this how doctor life going to be like? It scares me sometimes...wat u guys think? Anyone looks at this differently?🙂

Haha, yea, I feel the effects of locking myself in a room and studying, too. I'm also doing research this summer so between quiet time in the lab and sitting at this desk, things can get almost suicidal. No way is the life of a doctor like this. Just think of it as paying your dues. Make sure you break once in a while, too. Once you're established, you don't have to worry about a beast like the MCAT.

 

[jochi1543]

Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..

I have no friends. Problem solved.

 

[PreMD86]

If you find yourself getting lonely, just sit on your hand until it falls asleep.
I like to call that "the stranger".

 

[PT to MD]

If you find yourself getting lonely, just sit on your hand until it falls asleep.
I like to call that "the stranger".

OK, that was way too much information. Anyway, yeah, I felt pretty isolated when I was studying. My mom finally suggested I actually schedule an hour or two each day for fun. I mean, I was taking extended breaks, anyways, but feeling very guilty during them. So once I SCHEDULED a couple of hours a day of guiltless time, I could focus better during my study hours because I KNEW I was going to get a break.

I don't think it's going to be that way as a doctor because we will have each other's camaraderie in the field. We'll be working with other nerdos like ourselves and sharing our experiences. MCAT study is a unique time. I'm praying I don't have repeat after I get my scores back on July 18th.

 

[PreMD86]

OK, that was way too much information. .

Way to have a sense of humor.

Anyway, I always make time for an hour of TV a day (scrubs, if you were wondering), and workout at least 3 times a wk.
I think seeing your friends for a few hours once a week during this time is legit and sufficient to relieve the loneliness.

 

[DieselD]

Way to have a sense of humor.

Anyway, I always make time for an hour of TV a day (scrubs, if you were wondering), and workout at least 3 times a wk.
I think seeing your friends for a few hours once a week during this time is legit and sufficient to relieve the loneliness.

Ditto on the scrubs (currently about to start season 3). I watch about 3 episodes a day. Before scrubs, it was family guy. Loneliness for me? Nope, I live with my family (parents, siblings, and my dog), so its hard for that to happen. In fact, i get distracted more often than I would like. 😳

if I lived by myself, I could see it happening.

 

[joshtturaider]

I usually work out 2-3 hours a day with my best friend and hang out with my girlfriend at night. I still manage to get 6-8 hours a day in. I also study at a coffee shop with wireless so there are always people around. I also took a weekend break at the end of June to relax and went fly fishing. I studied very little during this break. I don't think you can lead a happy life without quality relationships around you. One of the reasons that I think I will enjoy being a physician is the patient-physician relationship and contact. I love being around people and interacting with people. If you are a lonely doctor, either you are probably a bad one or a pathologist.

 

[voirlesetoiles]

Be thankful that no one bothers you while you're trying to study. I have had a tough time the past few days with my summer roomate situation. "Turn the music down" is an easy request that most intelligent human beings can comprehend. 🙄

*sigh, I'd rather be lonely and miserable and extremely studious than deal with people right now. A few more days of this and I will snap at her I'm sure. OP, keep focusing and don't worry about social things until your MCAT score arrives. But do take breaks and stay sane.

 

[Nikki2002]

i think working out with a friend is a great thing to do....it will make you feel better after sitting on your ass for 6 hours.

 

[jochi1543]

I usually work out 2-3 hours a day

DAMN! I can barely walk home after 1.5 hours.

 

[BrokenGlass]

ok, the reason I ask is because I do feel very lonely sometimes when I separate myself from the social world and just focus on the MCAT..Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..I do other things beside studying but sometimes I just feel so left out...Is this how doctor life going to be like? It scares me sometimes...wat u guys think? Anyone looks at this differently?🙂

If you lived in a cubicle (like me), being lonely would be the least of your problems.

 

[Ebete]

Lonely? AHHHH I wish!!!! My 3 kids, 4 if you count the husband don't know what the word is!!!! I would LOVE to sit and study for straight hours
Be thankful you have some alone time, during breaks go to the gym or go study at a cafe.

 

[Ankaboot]

Don't lock yourself and study. make time for friends nd doing what you love too. Honestly, It'll make you study harder and feel better.

You can always make new friends to chill out, perhaps another MCAT test-taker who needs similiar breaks, or hang out with a diff person every week. After the test, you can do what you want.

Cheers!

 

[DrMT]

i study with other people taking the mcat. my gf brings me food. and i play bball afterwards at the university rec center.


but yeah, i do get lonely sometimes.

 

[theman120]

yeah we're def just paying our dues, but leave time to chill ..have a few beers and toke up, we're gonna be rich soon, just rip the mcat up

 

[sehnsucht]

ok, the reason I ask is because I do feel very lonely sometimes when I separate myself from the social world and just focus on the MCAT..Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..I do other things beside studying but sometimes I just feel so left out...Is this how doctor life going to be like? It scares me sometimes...wat u guys think? Anyone looks at this differently?🙂

As a person who worked a lot in college, sacrificing the time to get things done is nothing new to me. Sure, it sucks because I can never just veg out when I want to but the goal that I want to attain calls for tasks to be completed if I want to take my ambition a step further. Medicine is not necessarily a lonely field of profession. There are a lot of things you can do to have fun, you just have to plan accordingly because you have a lot on your plate🙂

I grew up around the medical profession and the people I personally know live full, social lives. Just because you are busy seeing patients doesn't mean you can't have a bit of fun on the side.

 

[soobiniya]

sorry to confused u

 

[RoadRunner17]

Me too!! I am really lonely since I decide to do pre-med in my sophomore year. Actually, I lost several precious friends because I don't have time to playing with them. I couldn't make any boyfriend, either. Staying in library make my collegues to see me weirdly. But I was always have patience to overcome loniness. Sigh I believe when MCAT is finished with good score, I will play a lot 24 hours/day.

😕😕

 

[MedChic]

ok, the reason I ask is because I do feel very lonely sometimes when I separate myself from the social world and just focus on the MCAT..Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..I do other things beside studying but sometimes I just feel so left out...Is this how doctor life going to be like? It scares me sometimes...wat u guys think? Anyone looks at this differently?🙂

wow, you mean i'm not the only one sobbing that I have no life?
Hah. Good to know.

 

[GoldenSunGirl88]

I agree. For me, studying for MCATs this summer meant no break in studying since final exams in April and no social life whatsoever, except for my birthday. I also decided to not take a course, so even less human interaction. I make up by facebooking alot (hahahah...), kickboxing and tending my veggie garden. For sure just think of this as a tough challenge to have to face, but no way is the rest of your life gonna be like this!

Also I'm going to Beijing for the Olympics next summer so I'm taking the MCATs a year early. Think of all the things you get to do AFTER the MCATs are over =)

 

[apoptos]

Also I'm going to Beijing for the Olympics next summer ...

Where did you get tickets? I've been hoping to do that too.



As for my loneliness let's see who can top this - I'm torn from Sartre or the script of a Bergman film. 😎 I'll be 34 in a few days. I'm living w/my parents and I never go out, as I have no friends within six hours of driving. I don't exercise, and I've phased out all of my hobbies barring chain-smoking and the occasional substance binge. My post-baccalaureate GPA is not much more impressive than my completely non-science oriented undergraduate GPA (which makes the likelihood of getting in a school within the continental US very, very slim) leading me to constant despair and endless obsessive rumination. As my most recent ex-girlfriend was an emotional shredder I now adhere to my monkish and solitary existence as a troll guards a bridge, relishing the 20+ years of cynicism, social awkwardness and insomnia that have made me the maladjusted, misanthropic emotional cripple I am today. 🙂

 

[PT to MD]

See below.

 

[PT to MD]

Way to have a sense of humor.

Do I detect sarcasm? Just relax...someone had to call you on it!!!

 

[drkryptonight]

I usually work out 2-3 hours a day with my best friend and hang out with my girlfriend at night. I don't think you can lead a happy life without quality relationships around you.

sigh. i wish my bf were here. having him around makes me study better. he quizzes me on stuff when i have tests during the school year. too bad he's like a 1000 miles away and currently upset at me for having mcat emotional breakdowns. apparantly i dont believe in myself and that i can get a 30. well he's right. 🙁

and it doesnt help that he gave the phone to his mom while i was crying and i was mad that he told her what i got on my practice ( i dont want her to think im stupid :/ ) and i hung up on her when she got on the phone. now i feel like an asswipe.

oh and i have strict parents that dont let me out of the house or let me take more than a break to eat my meals. i tried to watch the tv for like 10 min and they turned it off and told me to go upstairs and study. ive been at it since 9:30 this morning... i want to like shoot myself.

makes me upset to when i read my siblings away message who's currently doing her rotations.. how she's out partyign and having drinks. im jealous. i hate having to live up to my sibling. not fair that i worked harder than her and got a higher SAT score than her during highschool and my sibling got into a guarantted med program and i didnt. i got interviewed for 3 guaranted med programs in highschool and didnt get accepted to any.

my life sux. sometiems i feel like if i dont get into medical school... well i dont know what ill do to myself... my hard work all my life has to be worth smething rite??? if its not, i quite at life. better that way.

 

[thechairman]

i watch Scrubs in the off hours when im not studying. for some reason watching that show motivates me study for the MCATs, even though i know my experience in a hospital will never be like JD's.

 

[THINKOFMYFUTURE]

Are you hot? Cuz I can be your new bf!

sigh. i wish my bf were here. having him around makes me study better. he quizzes me on stuff when i have tests during the school year. too bad he's like a 1000 miles away and currently upset at me for having mcat emotional breakdowns. apparantly i dont believe in myself and that i can get a 30. well he's right. 🙁

and it doesnt help that he gave the phone to his mom while i was crying and i was mad that he told her what i got on my practice ( i dont want her to think im stupid :/ ) and i hung up on her when she got on the phone. now i feel like an asswipe.

oh and i have strict parents that dont let me out of the house or let me take more than a break to eat my meals. i tried to watch the tv for like 10 min and they turned it off and told me to go upstairs and study. ive been at it since 9:30 this morning... i want to like shoot myself.

makes me upset to when i read my siblings away message who's currently doing her rotations.. how she's out partyign and having drinks. im jealous. i hate having to live up to my sibling. not fair that i worked harder than her and got a higher SAT score than her during highschool and my sibling got into a guarantted med program and i didnt. i got interviewed for 3 guaranted med programs in highschool and didnt get accepted to any.

my life sux. sometiems i feel like if i dont get into medical school... well i dont know what ill do to myself... my hard work all my life has to be worth smething rite??? if its not, i quite at life. better that way.

 

[drkryptonight]

Are you hot? Cuz I can be your new bf!

that made me smile for the first time today. thanks! 😛
(p.s. i guess im hot from what guys tell me... and the many times my girl friends tell me that there's a guy interested in me. wanna be my sdn bf? lol😍hahah)

 

[voirlesetoiles]

sigh. i wish my bf were here. having him around makes me study better. he quizzes me on stuff when i have tests during the school year.

What a nice bf...

Remember that MCAT is a finite deal, keep the end in sight... it'll be over soon, hang in there.

 

[PreMD86]

sigh. i wish my bf were here. having him around makes me study better. he quizzes me on stuff when i have tests during the school year. too bad he's like a 1000 miles away and currently upset at me for having mcat emotional breakdowns. apparantly i dont believe in myself and that i can get a 30. well he's right. 🙁

and it doesnt help that he gave the phone to his mom while i was crying and i was mad that he told her what i got on my practice ( i dont want her to think im stupid :/ ) and i hung up on her when she got on the phone. now i feel like an asswipe.

oh and i have strict parents that dont let me out of the house or let me take more than a break to eat my meals. i tried to watch the tv for like 10 min and they turned it off and told me to go upstairs and study. ive been at it since 9:30 this morning... i want to like shoot myself.

makes me upset to when i read my siblings away message who's currently doing her rotations.. how she's out partyign and having drinks. im jealous. i hate having to live up to my sibling. not fair that i worked harder than her and got a higher SAT score than her during highschool and my sibling got into a guarantted med program and i didnt. i got interviewed for 3 guaranted med programs in highschool and didnt get accepted to any.

my life sux. sometiems i feel like if i dont get into medical school... well i dont know what ill do to myself... my hard work all my life has to be worth smething rite??? if its not, i quite at life. better that way.

Sorry to hijack the thread, but is medicine really what YOU want to do with your life?
It sounds like you are doing it to please your parents and live up to your siblings, and that you are only gaining misery and bitterness from it.
There are lots of professions that will make your family proud and make you much happier.

If you are doing this for the status/pride/money, then those things will be your shackles for the next 40 years. If you enjoy medicine, it will be the icing on the cake.

 

[drkryptonight]

x

 

[littlealex]

No one can possibly study for 10 hours a day, every day for an entire summer. MCAT doesn't take that much work anyway. If you're actually focusing for 8 hours a day, that is more then enough. That means you study every day from 9am to 6pm (1 hour lunch break), think of it like a job. That means you still get to go out with your friends from 7pm to 12am, get a few drinks at the bar, watch a movie, get the number of that girl you've been eyeing, and still get 8 hours of sleep and wakup at 8am.

If you're feeling bored and lonely, go hang out with your friends. Don't use the MCAT as an excuse to not live your life. You can spare a few hours a day.

 

[UCDavisdude]

If you find yourself getting lonely, just sit on your hand until it falls asleep.
I like to call that "the stranger".

lol, scrubs!!!

 

[UCDavisdude]

i have trouble finding quiet time to myself, thus, the reason why i get most of my productive work done very early and late at night. I live in a big fraternity house with a ton of guys, so it can get pretty noisy pretty much all day. half of the time while im studying, the guys will be in my room playing videogames and drinking, so i just turn on my headphones and do my best. consider yourself fortunate!!!!

 

[Sage880]

ok, the reason I ask is because I do feel very lonely sometimes when I separate myself from the social world and just focus on the MCAT..Anytime, I want to call up some friends to go do something, I feel like I would be wasting precious time to study for the test..I do other things beside studying but sometimes I just feel so left out...Is this how doctor life going to be like? It scares me sometimes...wat u guys think? Anyone looks at this differently?🙂

Well, it gets better for a while. Then it gets way worse... When studying for step 1 I got really obsessed with the test and found it hard to put it out of my mind. If I went out for a night or something I'd start feeling really guilty that I wasn't studying - even if I had been doing like 10 hours straight right before.

The good thing is that it's not all like that. The more the exam matters the more it wears on you. Once you get into medical school you'll feel a huge relief and be much more able to enjoy yourself. You still have to study of course. But I found the year before studying for the MCAT way worse because your whole future depended on it. Lots of tests in medical school but in the end, if you get a pass instead of a high pass, you won't even remember the result a week later.

 

[apoptos]

If you're actually focusing for 8 hours a day, that is more then enough. That means you study every day from 9am to 6pm (1 hour lunch break), think of it like a job.

I do think of it like a job... that's why I focus for 3 hours a day and yawn my way through the motions until I fall asleep.

 

[RedSHIFT]

i spend too much time flirting with the XX's