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All this talk about taking sexual harassment and retaliation by physicians by not writing good LORs or giving bad grades makes me think that medicine is full of *****s. I wonder why no one has had the balls to become a whistle-blower. You could record it all with a hidden camera and then blow the lid off that place after you've left. I'm sure some large news agency would run with it to and try to make the story seem as if its happening every, which it is. It would be the perfect time too since the general public isn't on good terms with the field of medicine. I'm down to be a whistler-blower. Who's with me?!


LOL @ op.
 
circulus vitios said:
Really?

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I knew it! The avatar looks really familiar to Heart Evangelista, but then I got it wrong. It's Maja Salvador on the left and Kim Chui on the right. Both of them are actress' from the Philippines.
 
Who ya gonna call? Troll Busters

circulus vitios = Bill Murray of Troll Busting

He ain't afraid of no trolls.
 
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Maja Salvador is FINE!

Thanks OP, I had never heard of her. At least something good came out of this thread.
 
ILikeDrugs said:
All this talk about taking sexual harassment and retaliation by physicians by not writing good LORs or giving bad grades makes me think that medicine is full of *****s. I wonder why no one has had the balls to become a whistle-blower. You could record it all with a hidden camera and then blow the lid off that place after you've left. I'm sure some large news agency would run with it to and try to make the story seem as if its happening every, which it is. It would be the perfect time too since the general public isn't on good terms with the field of medicine. I'm down to be a whistler-blower. Who's with me?!


LOL @ op.
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If you did all of that and showed it to the hospital administrators, even they would want to sweep it under the rug. Surgeons are the ones who bring $$$$ into a hospital and will be more highly protected by those who benefit from their work. And you're right about the general public's attitude towards medicine -- but these are medical students facing the harassment, and TBH the general public probably doesn't care too much about them either. Have to agree with alwaysaangel on this one.

I think the only quick way to get action is with the threat of serious lawsuits. But I doubt med students preparing for residency have the time or money to go through with that...
 
tabascosauce said:
I am a male. The female gynecologist i was shadowing was very nice to me. after a typical day of seeing patients with her, she was like man itd be so nice to see a penish rather than all the vaginas. i got :scared:. i replied, 'i see one everyday particularly when i just wake up and go to the bathroom' shes was like :scared:. then i realized what i said and got :scared:. for a good two minutes we were like :scared::scared:. i havent spoken to her to this day.
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no idea if this is true or not but somehow i can totally see this exchange happening accidentally. maybe all the smileys just get me. but maybe it's because i'm used to surgeon-talk 🙂
 
@OP
I think you should stop complaining and appreciate the shadowing experience available to you as a female, it's not as easy for the rest of us. Unless he actually touches you just get used to his weird talk and benefit from the experience.
 
Perimeter said:
@OP
I think you should stop complaining and appreciate the shadowing experience available to you as a female, it's not as easy for the rest of us. Unless he actually touches you just get used to his weird talk and benefit from the experience.
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No reason to continue offering advice. It's already been established OP is a troll, pretending to be somebody he or she is NOT. read back a few posts, where they were caught in a lie about actually being the beautiful girl in their avatar (the photo is actually of an asian actress/ singer).
 
Internet. Serious business.

I love it.
 
She could be hot IRL even if her avatar is not really her. 🙂

I would just take the harrassment as a compliment. If it goes beyond one comment then I would certainly break it off and seek someone else. My HS physics teacher once tried to make the moves on me. It was the most uncomfortable situation. I can understand how violated someone feels when people make sexual comments.
 
Gee, Shinee hasn't made a single post on this forum since being outed as pretending to be the beautiful girl in "her" avatar.
 
What an epic thread.

What detective work!

(Anyone else notice that the OP is no where to be found after the unveiling??) :laugh:


(UGH! DocJL...you beat me to it!)
 
Ah, all you have to do is sign up with a new account. 😀
 
DocJL said:
Gee, Shinee hasn't made a single post on this forum since being outed as pretending to be the beautiful girl in "her" avatar.
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Sign up for a different account. Become someone else. A man...a woman...you know.
 
StudyShy said:
Sign up for a different account. Become someone else. A man...a woman...you know.
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Will I get more babes if I sign back up and pretend to be a neurosurgeon???😉

or maybe I can claim to be the trauma surgeon that was hitting on shinee??? yeah that sounds like fun.....
 
The only person who actually has a photo of themselves as the avatar is complaining that someone commented on her looks? I don't buy it
 
HBSlim said:
He was probably just trying to be funny or give you a compliment and it came off as kind of 🙄. If he makes you uncomfortable though there's no reason to shadow him.
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This....
 
OP- You need to toughen up a bit. As a woman, and especially an attractive one, you are going to get some of this the rest of your life. But it is not just going to be from faculty and staff but also from patients. Not to mention, they are going to call you nurse until you want to pull your hair out.

Take it as a compliment and be grateful to recieve a compliment. There aren't many of those around in medical school...
 
Forthegood said:
OP- You need to toughen up a bit. As a woman, and especially an attractive one, you are going to get some of this the rest of your life. But it is not just going to be from faculty and staff but also from patients. Not to mention, they are going to call you nurse until you want to pull your hair out.

Take it as a compliment and be grateful to recieve a compliment. There aren't many of those around in medical school...
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good advice 👍

but OP was determined to be a troll a few days ago.
 
DocJL said:
Will I get more babes if I sign back up and pretend to be a neurosurgeon???😉

or maybe I can claim to be the trauma surgeon that was hitting on shinee??? yeah that sounds like fun.....
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I need a "work husband." 🙂
 
alwaysaangel said:
Congrats you met a trauma surgeon. No wait, I'm sorry, I mean you met a surgeon.

I hate to say it, but get used to it. You'll get it again for 2 months in med school.

On the bright side, if you dodge the sexual harassment then you will ultimately get a good grade with very little pimping or high expectation (on your surgery rotation). I guess out of this he will probably write you a really nice letter without expecting any signs of actual intelligence from you.

Sexism...alive and well in all surgical specialties.
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You generalize too much. And I'm biased. Some of the most professional doctors that I have interacted with were surgeons. Maybe it's a regional thing, but a comment like that at my school could lead to someone losing their job.
 
Sexism and racism serve as sustenance for the weak. It will always exist in our society.
 
lawl at girls.

always thinking that guys are hitting on them when we joke around.


just plain lawl.
 
Men: Please don't go into a professional environment thinking these off hand jokes are ok. If you think a lady is pretty KEEP THE COMMENTS TO YOURSELF. Half the docs I know are old fat trolls. It grosses women out to hear comments from an ugly/fat/short/nerdy/awkward/unattractive man. You never know when you could be walking into a trap. There is a b*tch out there who is documenting EVERYTHING you say, what time you said it, and who you said it to. It's a trap. Always remain professional.
 
lazymed said:
You generalize too much. And I'm biased. Some of the most professional doctors that I have interacted with were surgeons. Maybe it's a regional thing, but a comment like that at my school could lead to someone losing their job.
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sure, in theory. But who would be the person doing the firing? One thing that you have to remember, that while med school classes are cliquey, medical departments and administrations are worse. The behavior of any established faculty member is going to be known about and tolerated by the department head. Why would a complaint from a lowly medical student matter?

Medical faculty protect their own. Until you have an MD by your name, you are little more than sh-t.
 
Laboratorian said:
Men: Please don't go into a professional environment thinking these off hand jokes are ok. If you think a lady is pretty KEEP THE COMMENTS TO YOURSELF. Half the docs I know are old fat trolls. It grosses women out to hear comments from an ugly/fat/short/nerdy/awkward/unattractive man. You never know when you could be walking into a trap. There is a b*tch out there who is documenting EVERYTHING you say, what time you said it, and who you said it to. It's a trap. Always remain professional.
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I would agree if you said it would be wrong to say something actually derogatory to a coworker in a professional environment.

If it is wrong for a man to say to a female "you look very pretty today" in a professional environment - sorry, but she needs to remove the stick from her femininistic, pseudo-professional ass.

Also you are implying that it is "wrong" primarily because it would gross out the female due to half the docs being "old fat trolls".... So it would be more acceptable if the young doc [that looks reminiscent of a male model] says it? The whole thing is encompassed by shallowness, double standards and insecurity. 👎
 
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frazier said:
i would agree if you said it would be wrong to say something actually derogatory to a coworker in a professional environment.

If it is wrong for a man to say to a female "you look very pretty today" in a professional environment - sorry, but she needs to remove the stick from her femininistic, pseudo-professional ass.

Also you are implying that it is "wrong" primarily because it would gross out the female due to half the docs being "old fat trolls".... So it would be more acceptable if the young doc [that looks reminiscent of a male model] says it? The whole thing is encompassed by shallowness, double standards and insecurity. 👎
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+1
 
WingedOx said:
sure, in theory. But who would be the person doing the firing? One thing that you have to remember, that while med school classes are cliquey, medical departments and administrations are worse. The behavior of any established faculty member is going to be known about and tolerated by the department head. Why would a complaint from a lowly medical student matter?

Medical faculty protect their own. Until you have an MD by your name, you are little more than sh-t.
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Sure. I guess it is the culture at our school though. A ten-yeared professor of a subspecialty-surgery sent out a mass email apologizing for making an "insensitive" comment during a social gathering for students at his house. This comment was not aimed at anyone, but could be offensive to women if you twisted it. Well, someone twisted it enough, and the administration had the surgeon apologize.

Sexual harassment? that would never fly.
 
lazymed said:
Sure. I guess it is the culture at our school though. A ten-yeared professor of a subspecialty-surgery sent out a mass email apologizing for making an "insensitive" comment during a social gathering for students at his house. This comment was not aimed at anyone, but could be offensive to women if you twisted it. Well, someone twisted it enough, and the administration had the surgeon apologize.

Sexual harassment? that would never fly.
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Tenured?
 
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