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If one parent and two of your sisters had severe addiction problems (two of the three are still in that black hole all these years later, around 12 years to be exact) and the other parent was mentally ill but could still work, all while you were growing up, does that count as disadvantaged?
It certainly has shaped my thought process and who I am as a person..
To elaborate a bit: My dad sometimes made some good money because his profession pays pretty well, but he was always contracted so jobs were rather unreliable. He was sometimes unemployed for 6 months out of the year, and when you are a family of 6, that's incredibly stressful. My mom worked but didn't make much. When drug abuse problems are added to that mix, you end up with enormous financial problems.
Both of my parents had some college education but neither of them have a degree, so technically I am a first generation graduate. I lived at home my freshman year of college and then moved in with my best friend for two years. She started getting really sick about 8 months after we got a house; later we found out she has had undiagnosed Lyme's disease for 'longer than 5 years'. My grades plummeted junior year of college due to taking care of her while we waited out our lease because neither of us had the money to break it and move back home. This is all while I was working 35+ hours a week as a waitress to support myself and do whatever I could to help her. The whole reason to bring up my family's financial issues is to state that while I was in college, my parents couldn't help me monetarily. I used loans to pay for school and worked to have money to live and to help my sick friend. Her parents weren't in any better of a financial situation, but they did what they could to keep a roof over our heads and get her adequate medical attention. I moved in with my boyfriend when our lease was up and she moved home.
I don't know if I sound whiny or if I come off as just trying to explain how I grew up and things that have happened in life. I just need to know if I should include this on the primary application or in a secondary or not at all.
It certainly has shaped my thought process and who I am as a person..
To elaborate a bit: My dad sometimes made some good money because his profession pays pretty well, but he was always contracted so jobs were rather unreliable. He was sometimes unemployed for 6 months out of the year, and when you are a family of 6, that's incredibly stressful. My mom worked but didn't make much. When drug abuse problems are added to that mix, you end up with enormous financial problems.
Both of my parents had some college education but neither of them have a degree, so technically I am a first generation graduate. I lived at home my freshman year of college and then moved in with my best friend for two years. She started getting really sick about 8 months after we got a house; later we found out she has had undiagnosed Lyme's disease for 'longer than 5 years'. My grades plummeted junior year of college due to taking care of her while we waited out our lease because neither of us had the money to break it and move back home. This is all while I was working 35+ hours a week as a waitress to support myself and do whatever I could to help her. The whole reason to bring up my family's financial issues is to state that while I was in college, my parents couldn't help me monetarily. I used loans to pay for school and worked to have money to live and to help my sick friend. Her parents weren't in any better of a financial situation, but they did what they could to keep a roof over our heads and get her adequate medical attention. I moved in with my boyfriend when our lease was up and she moved home.
I don't know if I sound whiny or if I come off as just trying to explain how I grew up and things that have happened in life. I just need to know if I should include this on the primary application or in a secondary or not at all.