Envious person harassment

[chipsandchocolate111]

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Hey everyone!

This is a new account for privacy concerns. A little back story: I got into medical school this past cycle and once I added my school to Facebook, I received a message from a number that has been harassing me for a long time (unknown person as of now but I am working with police). This person has obviously seen this status update and threatened to make it their life long mission for me to get kicked out of school or whatever. These threats along with several others. Should I take this seriously? What should I do? I previously reported this number to my local precinct for harassment but it remains a closed case because the individual is unknown.

Thanks everyone for responses in advance!

 

[M&L]

Hey everyone!

This is a new account for privacy concerns. A little back story: I got into medical school this past cycle and once I added my school to Facebook, I received a message from a number that has been harassing me for a long time (unknown person as of now but I am working with police). This person has obviously seen this status update and threatened to make it their life long mission for me to get kicked out of school or whatever. These threats along with several others. Should I take this seriously? What should I do? I previously reported this number to my local precinct for harassment but it remains a closed case because the individual is unknown.

Thanks everyone for responses in advance!

oh wow.... i am so sorry...... this sounds horrible!!!

1. how long has this been going on?
2. do they are messaging you on cell phone? or messenger? How much personal information do they have?
3. Did you make all your information private on facebook?
4. does your house have a security system or secured entrance? do you live alone? (we dont have to know this, but this is just for you to consider)


this might be a crazy and /or delusional person out to destroy you, or it might be just someone trying to cause you stress..... The problem is that you really wont know it until they do something, or until you identify who that is.

what you could do to protect yourself:
1) make a very very long list of everyone you clashed with: your exes, even if they are seemingly doing fine and are your friends, ppl you were partners with in college who got a bad grade and could have blamed it on you, people you might have bullied or mistreated in middle school or high school, people "whose place you took" in whatever thing (such as basketball team, cheerleading, some other competition, research position, whatever). Anyone you could have fired or caused to be fired. Anyone whose girlfriend or boyfriend you "took away". If you are in long term relationship - consider asking your partner if they have crazy exes. Anyone in your religious organization who might hate you for whatever reason. Anyone who you studied or worked with who also tried getting into medical school and failed. Anyone you rejected sexually or as a friend. if you are wealthy and utilized additional financial resources to get in (tutoring, went to very good school, etc), it might be someone who lives modestly and failed. If you live modestly, it might be someone wealthy who failed to get in. If you are an immigrant, did someone paid especial attention to you "not deserving to be here"? you get my point. Are your parents famous or known in your community? Any of your family hated for something (it might be related to them)? Have you ever cheated and not discovered? (PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER ANY OF THESE PRIVATE QUESTIONS HERE. I am just trying to guide your thought process). Are you exceptionally good looking (prom queen/king, etc? (someone could have hated you for it). Or, maybe do you have some disfigurements that someone unstable might consider to be "inferior" to them? (there are a lot of sick ppl out there). FInally, do you belong to a strict religious group that might frown upon your going to medical school for some reason?

when you make this list, think VERY CAREFULLY who could stay on this list... and if you narrow it down, maybe show it to the police?

2) freeze all your credit reports!!!! it is free and it will protect your credit!!!! (if you dont know how to do it, PM me).

3) make a copy of your house key ,car key, and copy of your important documents, and give it to your parents/partner/ whoever else you trust .

4) think very hard, what could they dig up from your history that you want to keep buried.... Anything illegal? someone that could be frowned upon? have you made any racist or sexist statements (dont answer that, but if you did - think about how you can protect yourself. i am not here to judge, i am just encouraging you to think about what can be used against you).

finally, - keep your nose clean. WHen you go out never leave your drink unattended, accept drinks only from a bartender (even if you are with friends. you never know). Never leave your purse anywhere. Change all your passwords, and do NOT save them on your computer. write them down on a piece of paper and keep it safe. Change your passwords weekly if you have to.

ok, i cannot think of anything else at the moment...

 

[chipsandchocolate111]

oh wow.... i am so sorry...... this sounds horrible!!!

1. how long has this been going on?
2. do they are messaging you on cell phone? or messenger? How much personal information do they have?
3. Did you make all your information private on facebook?
4. does your house have a security system or secured entrance? do you live alone? (we dont have to know this, but this is just for you to consider)


this might be a crazy and /or delusional person out to destroy you, or it might be just someone trying to cause you stress..... The problem is that you really wont know it until they do something, or until you identify who that is.

what you could do to protect yourself:
1) make a very very long list of everyone you clashed with: your exes, even if they are seemingly doing fine and are your friends, ppl you were partners with in college who got a bad grade and could have blamed it on you, people you might have bullied or mistreated in middle school or high school, people "whose place you took" in whatever thing (such as basketball team, cheerleading, some other competition, research position, whatever). Anyone you could have fired or caused to be fired. Anyone whose girlfriend or boyfriend you "took away". If you are in long term relationship - consider asking your partner if they have crazy exes. Anyone in your religious organization who might hate you for whatever reason. Anyone who you studied or worked with who also tried getting into medical school and failed. Anyone you rejected sexually or as a friend. if you are wealthy and utilized additional financial resources to get in (tutoring, went to very good school, etc), it might be someone who lives modestly and failed. If you live modestly, it might be someone wealthy who failed to get in. If you are an immigrant, did someone paid especial attention to you "not deserving to be here"? you get my point. Are your parents famous or known in your community? Any of your family hated for something (it might be related to them)? Have you ever cheated and not discovered? (PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER ANY OF THESE PRIVATE QUESTIONS HERE. I am just trying to guide your thought process). Are you exceptionally good looking (prom queen/king, etc? (someone could have hated you for it). Or, maybe do you have some disfigurements that someone unstable might consider to be "inferior" to them? (there are a lot of sick ppl out there). FInally, do you belong to a strict religious group that might frown upon your going to medical school for some reason?

when you make this list, think VERY CAREFULLY who could stay on this list... and if you narrow it down, maybe show it to the police?

2) freeze all your credit reports!!!! it is free and it will protect your credit!!!! (if you dont know how to do it, PM me).

3) make a copy of your house key ,car key, and copy of your important documents, and give it to your parents/partner/ whoever else you trust .

4) think very hard, what could they dig up from your history that you want to keep buried.... Anything illegal? someone that could be frowned upon? have you made any racist or sexist statements (dont answer that, but if you did - think about how you can protect yourself. i am not here to judge, i am just encouraging you to think about what can be used against you).

finally, - keep your nose clean. WHen you go out never leave your drink unattended, accept drinks only from a bartender (even if you are with friends. you never know). Never leave your purse anywhere. Change all your passwords, and do NOT save them on your computer. write them down on a piece of paper and keep it safe. Change your passwords weekly if you have to.

ok, i cannot think of anything else at the moment...

Thank you so much for your time and response! It really calmed me down! This indeed is a horrible situation that I don’t wish anyone to endure. I made a list of people and will send to the police. My only concern is will slanderous comments written about me to the medical school accomplish anything ? I have no skeletons in my closet. Thanks again!

 

[M&L]

Thank you so much for your time and response! It really calmed me down! This indeed is a horrible situation that I don’t wish anyone to endure. I made a list of people and will send to the police. My only concern is will slanderous comments written about me to the medical school accomplish anything ? I have no skeletons in my closet. Thanks again!

as long as you did nothing wrong , and do what I wrote (freezing your credit !!!!),especially considering that you already talked to the police , I think you should be ok . Just be very careful .

so are they messaging you on your phone ?
also, how long ago did it start? Were there any major life events around that time ?

 

[chipsandchocolate111]

as long as you did nothing wrong , and do what I wrote (freezing your credit !!!!),especially considering that you already talked to the police , I think you should be ok . Just be very careful .

so are they messaging you on your phone ?
also, how long ago did it start? Were there any major life events around that time ?

Doing exactly as you said. Can I private message you ?

 

[Mass Effect]

oh wow.... i am so sorry...... this sounds horrible!!!

1. how long has this been going on?
2. do they are messaging you on cell phone? or messenger? How much personal information do they have?
3. Did you make all your information private on facebook?
4. does your house have a security system or secured entrance? do you live alone? (we dont have to know this, but this is just for you to consider)


this might be a crazy and /or delusional person out to destroy you, or it might be just someone trying to cause you stress..... The problem is that you really wont know it until they do something, or until you identify who that is.

what you could do to protect yourself:
1) make a very very long list of everyone you clashed with: your exes, even if they are seemingly doing fine and are your friends, ppl you were partners with in college who got a bad grade and could have blamed it on you, people you might have bullied or mistreated in middle school or high school, people "whose place you took" in whatever thing (such as basketball team, cheerleading, some other competition, research position, whatever). Anyone you could have fired or caused to be fired. Anyone whose girlfriend or boyfriend you "took away". If you are in long term relationship - consider asking your partner if they have crazy exes. Anyone in your religious organization who might hate you for whatever reason. Anyone who you studied or worked with who also tried getting into medical school and failed. Anyone you rejected sexually or as a friend. if you are wealthy and utilized additional financial resources to get in (tutoring, went to very good school, etc), it might be someone who lives modestly and failed. If you live modestly, it might be someone wealthy who failed to get in. If you are an immigrant, did someone paid especial attention to you "not deserving to be here"? you get my point. Are your parents famous or known in your community? Any of your family hated for something (it might be related to them)? Have you ever cheated and not discovered? (PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER ANY OF THESE PRIVATE QUESTIONS HERE. I am just trying to guide your thought process). Are you exceptionally good looking (prom queen/king, etc? (someone could have hated you for it). Or, maybe do you have some disfigurements that someone unstable might consider to be "inferior" to them? (there are a lot of sick ppl out there). FInally, do you belong to a strict religious group that might frown upon your going to medical school for some reason?

when you make this list, think VERY CAREFULLY who could stay on this list... and if you narrow it down, maybe show it to the police?

2) freeze all your credit reports!!!! it is free and it will protect your credit!!!! (if you dont know how to do it, PM me).

3) make a copy of your house key ,car key, and copy of your important documents, and give it to your parents/partner/ whoever else you trust .

4) think very hard, what could they dig up from your history that you want to keep buried.... Anything illegal? someone that could be frowned upon? have you made any racist or sexist statements (dont answer that, but if you did - think about how you can protect yourself. i am not here to judge, i am just encouraging you to think about what can be used against you).

finally, - keep your nose clean. WHen you go out never leave your drink unattended, accept drinks only from a bartender (even if you are with friends. you never know). Never leave your purse anywhere. Change all your passwords, and do NOT save them on your computer. write them down on a piece of paper and keep it safe. Change your passwords weekly if you have to.

ok, i cannot think of anything else at the moment...

This is all very good advice for anyone finding themselves in this situation. You never know when you might have pissed off a sociopath.

 

[Tenk]

In addition to contacting the authorities and even the school, I’d probably just delete all my social media accounts for a year or two and get a new phone number. You basically need to hit reset. If you do make a social media account in the future, make it as private as possible, fake name and no viewable pictures of yourself. Sorry this happened.

 

[chipsandchocolate111]

In addition to contacting the authorities and even the school, I’d probably just delete all my social media accounts for a year or two and get a new phone number. You basically need to hit reset. If you do make a social media account in the future, make it as private as possible, fake name and no viewable pictures of yourself. Sorry this happened.

Should I contact the school? What should I write? Thank you. I really don’t want to delete my social media accounts because it’s a great way to catch up with friends and such, but I guess I kind of have to now... 🙁

 

[NotAProgDirector]

Sharing this information with school officials might be a reasonable next step, if you're comfortable sharing. If this was one of my residents, I'd want to know. First, for support. Second, in case I actually get some sort of complaint, I have a frame of reference. Most likely the person involved is just making noise and nothing will come of this. Esp if you have nothing to hide.

 

[NotAProgDirector]

Should I contact the school? What should I write? Thank you. I really don’t want to delete my social media accounts because it’s a great way to catch up with friends and such, but I guess I kind of have to now... 🙁

Don't write. Make an appointment, talk to a student associate dean (or someone in the office)

 

[chipsandchocolate111]

Don't write. Make an appointment, talk to a student associate dean (or someone in the office)

Ok. Thank you.

 

[Tenk]

Should I contact the school? What should I write? Thank you. I really don’t want to delete my social media accounts because it’s a great way to catch up with friends and such, but I guess I kind of have to now... 🙁

In person, not in writing. Things can be taken out of context in email.

Schools deal with this kind of stuff all the time so it’s not completely ludicrous unfortunately.

 

[wxman]

Delete your social media. I’ve seen way too many careers tainted by unfortunate circumstances on social media. Doesn’t matter about the blame.

 

[M&L]

Doing exactly as you said. Can I private message you ?

absolutely. my first career was in finance, and i did accounting for a while, i will be happy to talk you through steps you need to do to protect your credit from all this (and the reason i am stressing the importance of protecting credit is because nowadays it is, unfortunately, the easiest thing to damage if someone steals your identity or wants to do something sketchy with your name).

 

[M&L]

In addition to contacting the authorities and even the school, I’d probably just delete all my social media accounts for a year or two and get a new phone number. You basically need to hit reset. If you do make a social media account in the future, make it as private as possible, fake name and no viewable pictures of yourself. Sorry this happened.

actually i would discourage the OP from deleting the social media while they are still figuring out who did it. it might be easier to trace the identity from active account. Plus, if the OP deletes the social media, 1) the person might think that they are onto him/her and disappear, 2) they might escalate.

but as soon as they figure out who did it, or cyber crimes give the ok, deleting might not be a bad idea. the thing is right now it LITERALLY can be anyone, including someone who is actually close to OP in real life.... (not try to make you uncomfortable, just saying). Dont delete unless police tells you its ok.

 

[Mad Jack]

actually i would discourage the OP from deleting the social media while they are still figuring out who did it. it might be easier to trace the identity from active account. Plus, if the OP deletes the social media, 1) the person might think that they are onto him/her and disappear, 2) they might escalate.

but as soon as they figure out who did it, or cyber crimes give the ok, deleting might not be a bad idea. the thing is right now it LITERALLY can be anyone, including someone who is actually close to OP in real life.... (not try to make you uncomfortable, just saying). Dont delete unless police tells you its ok.

It's also possible this is an ex or something that specifically wants to make their life worse. Deleting social media will play into that sense of control and give them what they want, possibly emboldening them further

 

[LunaOri]

I agree with those who recommended speaking with someone at your school to let them know you have a stalker/harasser. It is imperative for them to know this, because the stalker may escalate to impersonating you and sending offensive messages or even trying to withdraw you from school. Give your school the contact information for whomever is handling your complaint at the police department, so that they can forward any material they receive from the stalker. Also ask to see anything they receive; the wording might give you a clue to the stalker's identity.

 

[1992MariahCarey]

Hey, first off, I’m very sorry that you’re dealing with this! If I’ve understood correctly, you have the number of the person harassing you. I would start by saving the contact by some name, let’s try “mystery”, and downloading snapchat or going into your Snapchat account if you have one. From here, you will have the option add friends from contacts. Here you will usually be able to see this persons username / bitmoji if they have a snapchat and this may give you some insight as to who they are. Hopefully this helps and good luck!

 

[chipsandchocolate111]

Hey, first off, I’m very sorry that you’re dealing with this! If I’ve understood correctly, you have the number of the person harassing you. I would start by saving the contact by some name, let’s try “mystery”, and downloading snapchat or going into your Snapchat account if you have one. From here, you will have the option add friends from contacts. Here you will usually be able to see this persons username / bitmoji if they have a snapchat and this may give you some insight as to who they are. Hopefully this helps and good luck!

Thanks for the info. Unfortunately, this individual is using a google voice account which is practically untraceable without subpoena..

 

[DarkHorizon]

Just delete your social media. If there’s something to worry about that you think your school should know, let your dean of student affairs know.

Reminds me of a guy who’s ex called the PD after he matched to tell them he was a horrible person. PD said “hmm, we’ll look into that.” Lol.