Feeling isolated

[danny134r534]

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I moved for the US for residency alone and am now in PGY2 of a medium to large community IM program. I have no local connections in the place I’m in at all or in the US at all. My wife is still stuck abroad as she has been waiting for her visa and we only see each other every few months for a week or two at a time. I am from the Uk but of Asian origin. The loneliness has been very deep. Unfortunately I haven’t been able to click with any of my co residents and I’ve now noticed that cliques have started to form. Often dinners and things are planned without me being invited and I feel I just don’t fit in with the other IMGs from Asia or South America but also the local people have their own connections. I spend weekends and evenings alone speaking to my family and wife back home. It’s extremely isolating and I’ve been feeling like this for a year and a half now. I have always had difficulty making friends easily and have a narrow set of hobbies but I never expected it to be this hard. My wife arrives in a few months depending on her visa status but dont want to rely on her as my only source of support, it seems most in residency do find atleast a couple of local connections but sadly not the case for me

 

[GoSpursGo]

I’m sorry it’s been such a struggle for you. This may not help, but you’re not alone—at these large programs, it’s impossible for everyone to “click” with everyone else, and just because you haven’t made connections it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

some people find their connections outside of their residency classmates. Do you have any way to make connections outside of residency?