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Hi everyone, I'm a year into my pediatrics residency now and due to a multitude of reasons, I'm really unhappy with medicine and I just need some advice or perspective. I'm uncomfortable talking to anyone in my program about this.
If I wasn't in so much debt >200K and had any viable alternative, I would have left months ago. Right now, I have no idea how else I could pay off my loans and I don't know what I want to do anymore.
Long story short, I just don't find any sense of fulfillment from this job. Once in a blue moon I'll have a meaningful encounter with a patient, but I'm realizing 90% of medicine is rounding, secretarial work, and sitting behind a computer. I know most jobs have some aspect of this, but at those jobs, at least I can clock out at 5 or 6 and enjoy life outside of work.
On top of that, I've been struggling as a resident all year. I am having to make up rotations and they tacked on a few extra months to my residency as a result. Depending on how I perform, they might add more time, so it's made the work even more stressful.
My spouse has also moved across state, and I am unable to follow them. Between the long grueling hours, constantly finding myself struggling more than the other residents and having the pressure to perform well or else having more time tacked onto my residency, losing my passion for this field, and being separated from my spouse I've felt incredibly burnt out.
I'm also seeing friends my age in tech, and finance with 40-50 hour work weeks, with weekends and holidays, travelling with their loves ones, making good salaries without loans and I'm really regretting my choice to pursue medicine, especially pediatrics where my salary won't be much more than a PAs when all is said and done. I've had more than one attending telling pre-meds not to pursue medicine or pediatrics too, which has discouraged me more.
I see my co-residents who seem so passionate about this job, and no matter how tough, they still are happy with their decision but that's not me.
I know that financially and lifestyle wise, medicine is a horrible decision, and one should only do it if they love it. Unfortunately, I don't love it anymore. I just want to quit, have a job with normal hours, and be with my spouse. I have 2 more years to go, but every day it's a struggle to go into work...I just feel like I'm wasting my time at this point since I don't plan to practice pediatrics.
I want to quit, or switch to a non-clinical area of medicine that might allow me to have more regular hours. Or if I do work long hours, at least allow me to make a better salary than a general pediatrician now.
I know getting to be with my spouse and have that support would be a huge help for me, and I wanted to switch to a place closer to them but due to my failed rotations and finishing intern year late, I doubt any program would take me.
Every long floor or ICU block, and every night shift where I miss talking to my family or my partner hurts more now because my hearts just not in it. The sacrifices aren't worth it anymore and I'm tired of making them. I want to be there for my spouse and my family, they're my biggest priority. The only benefit of this job is that there's stability and comfort in it, but I'm seeing how well my non-medical friends are doing and how much time they have for their loved ones, while I see so many attendings who seem stretched thin and I just don't feel medicine is worth it anymore.
The thought of sticking it out 2 more years like this, working long hours for a job I have zero passion for and being separated from my loved ones is killing me...but I don't know what I can do. There's no plan B.
If I don't care for the job, my take home pay with my loans is gonna be average at best, and I'll work tough hours, then how can I justify this?
The few things keeping a fire under me is that I need a job and an income with my loans. I do have a lot to be grateful for, my program is very supportive and I like the people and I have a wonderful family and spouse. So I’m content with everything outside of medicine, but I don’t enjoy this job anymore.
If I don't have a way to leave, what can I say to convince myself this will be worth the sacrifices I'm making now? I don't see many tangible lifestyle or salary benefits to becoming a doctor that other fields wouldn't allow.
If I wasn't in so much debt >200K and had any viable alternative, I would have left months ago. Right now, I have no idea how else I could pay off my loans and I don't know what I want to do anymore.
Long story short, I just don't find any sense of fulfillment from this job. Once in a blue moon I'll have a meaningful encounter with a patient, but I'm realizing 90% of medicine is rounding, secretarial work, and sitting behind a computer. I know most jobs have some aspect of this, but at those jobs, at least I can clock out at 5 or 6 and enjoy life outside of work.
On top of that, I've been struggling as a resident all year. I am having to make up rotations and they tacked on a few extra months to my residency as a result. Depending on how I perform, they might add more time, so it's made the work even more stressful.
My spouse has also moved across state, and I am unable to follow them. Between the long grueling hours, constantly finding myself struggling more than the other residents and having the pressure to perform well or else having more time tacked onto my residency, losing my passion for this field, and being separated from my spouse I've felt incredibly burnt out.
I'm also seeing friends my age in tech, and finance with 40-50 hour work weeks, with weekends and holidays, travelling with their loves ones, making good salaries without loans and I'm really regretting my choice to pursue medicine, especially pediatrics where my salary won't be much more than a PAs when all is said and done. I've had more than one attending telling pre-meds not to pursue medicine or pediatrics too, which has discouraged me more.
I see my co-residents who seem so passionate about this job, and no matter how tough, they still are happy with their decision but that's not me.
I know that financially and lifestyle wise, medicine is a horrible decision, and one should only do it if they love it. Unfortunately, I don't love it anymore. I just want to quit, have a job with normal hours, and be with my spouse. I have 2 more years to go, but every day it's a struggle to go into work...I just feel like I'm wasting my time at this point since I don't plan to practice pediatrics.
I want to quit, or switch to a non-clinical area of medicine that might allow me to have more regular hours. Or if I do work long hours, at least allow me to make a better salary than a general pediatrician now.
I know getting to be with my spouse and have that support would be a huge help for me, and I wanted to switch to a place closer to them but due to my failed rotations and finishing intern year late, I doubt any program would take me.
Every long floor or ICU block, and every night shift where I miss talking to my family or my partner hurts more now because my hearts just not in it. The sacrifices aren't worth it anymore and I'm tired of making them. I want to be there for my spouse and my family, they're my biggest priority. The only benefit of this job is that there's stability and comfort in it, but I'm seeing how well my non-medical friends are doing and how much time they have for their loved ones, while I see so many attendings who seem stretched thin and I just don't feel medicine is worth it anymore.
The thought of sticking it out 2 more years like this, working long hours for a job I have zero passion for and being separated from my loved ones is killing me...but I don't know what I can do. There's no plan B.
If I don't care for the job, my take home pay with my loans is gonna be average at best, and I'll work tough hours, then how can I justify this?
The few things keeping a fire under me is that I need a job and an income with my loans. I do have a lot to be grateful for, my program is very supportive and I like the people and I have a wonderful family and spouse. So I’m content with everything outside of medicine, but I don’t enjoy this job anymore.
If I don't have a way to leave, what can I say to convince myself this will be worth the sacrifices I'm making now? I don't see many tangible lifestyle or salary benefits to becoming a doctor that other fields wouldn't allow.
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