- Joined
- Dec 29, 2011
- Messages
- 3,492
- Reaction score
- 962
I just wanna say kudos to Cara for her well worded post. That's just exactly about how I see things. Sometimes, you can get a glimpse of what it's like to be in the out group, and I can empathize, but its not like the actual experience of it. I do like to think I'm good at extrapolating because of the experiences I've had. Several experiences I've had taught me that its not enough to "walk in someone else's shoes." Sometimes the only way to fully understand is to live it.
I absolutely agree. I must admit, when we are in discussions like this (talking about things like oppression), I don't think that everyone always keeps that in mind - as that applies to everyone involved in the discussion.
I'm not sure what everyone else's experience has been like, but I don't think that these discussions are as useful when people start to try to quantify their level of oppression (e.g., "I'm quadruple-oppressed, because I'm a lesbian black female atheist"). I mean, at least for me, I listen and acknowledge the systemic oppression. But what seems to come along with that is a silencing/minimizing of any barriers I (as a hetero white male Christian) may or may not have come across. I think it is hugely important to talk at length about systemic oppression. But as bell hooks always put it - these movements ought to be inclusive and aimed towards ending all oppression. What's the point of just picking and choosing?
Awhile back I might have mentioned this, but I recall leaving a diversity training where people were talking a lot about how oppressed they were. I walked out with an African-American female colleague who bid me farewell (as she was vacationing in Europe for the summer with her parents), hopped in her BMW, and took off. It was a lasting image for me as I had become accustomed to being called an oppressor/privileged, but couldn't help but make comparisons (e.g., as someone who was waiting for public transportation, and working two jobs over the summer to make enough money to send some home to help my single parent out). Obviously the point is that SES circumstances were hugely different between me and this woman, and any barriers that perhaps were there for me and not for her couldn't be discussed (remember, I'm a white hetero male Christian).
Now, I'll go spend many more days at events like this one addressing systemic oppression of minorities. But I can't help but think that an inclusive attitude and an acknowledgement of the widespread barriers that are out there wouldn't be helpful to the cause - because picking/choosing/quantifying does not seem to accomplish a lot. When we talk about "privilege" it can be difficult to accept the term, especially when someone tells me that I was born with a silver spoon (figuratively) and they (literally) have silver spoons in their kitchen drawer at home. I am perfectly capable of looking beyond this comparison and acknowledging systemic oppression, but I am not sure that others always take the "walk a mile in their shoes" concept to heart. Which makes terms like "privilege" interesting to discuss, IMO.
Last edited: