Tell you what, if I referred a patient with the referral saying "Please extract teeth 1,16,17,32" and the patient comes back with all four of them, I'd want a serious explanation from you and unless it's "I'd probably kill the patient" I'd be pretty unhappy. It's a prescription when written like that, not a consultation. You have to think of your referring dentist who may have put a lot of time and energy into a treatment plan and the decision to refer the patient.
Now if I wrote a referral that said, "Please evaluate 1,16,17,32 for extraction" and that were the case, it'd be different. Usually if one is kinda nuts-o crazy, they'll come back with a note "Extraction of 1,16,17 unremarkable, however, discussed possible sequelae of extraction of #32 and mutual agreement to watch this tooth decided".
It bothers me when young oral surgeons get so huffy over this stuff. The surgeons who I work with in practice that are well established won't usually turn away a good 3rd extraction case and will perform with great skill, without consequence, and often times return a satisfied patient.