Getting Married the Xmas Before Step 1

[OTheHorror]

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Hey guys...I really need some advice. My girlfriend and I live two states away from each other, and have been dating for about two years, one of which has been long-distance.

My girlfriend (fiance, pending me finding a good deal on a ring) really wants to get married in about 6 months, during this summer between MS1 and MS2; my parents think it's best that we wait until the summer after Step 1, or summer 06'.

My girlfriend said that she would be willing to wait until Xmas 05', so she could save some money and we'd be in a better financial situation for her going back to school after we are married (she still needs 2 yrs before she gets her 4 yr degree).

This is really taking a toll on our relationship, and I want to know if it is possible to be married (after not ever having lived together) during the Xmas before Step 1 and still be able to study for Step 1 and do decently???

Please advise. Thanks.

 

[tlew12778]

What's her rush?

Are your parents contributing to the wedding expenses? BC if they are, then I think they might have a say.

My personal feeling is that there will always be something that will be impending. If not step 1, then step 2 or the csa. Then after that, the match. It really depends on how involved you want to be in the planning process and when and if you have time to take off for the HM (if you take one).

 

[cytoborg]

I got married 1 month prior to taking the Step 1 and did fine. Fine, mind you, not fantastic, but I got what I needed to get the interviews I wanted. I wouldn't necessarily recommend doing it, but it is do-able if you have to.

 

[jmckenna]

It's all in your time management. We got married the summer in between MS1 and MS2, as did a whole lot of people. Others have gotten married over Christmas breaks, during time off in clinical years, at about every other time. Just about any time frame is possible if you're willing to work at it. Just make sure your fiancee knows that you will need time to yourself to study and such - hopefully you'll stave off the "unhelpful groom" fights that way. 🙂

 

[jamie]

i'm not going to touch the not living together before getting married thing -- that's a whole other website.

personally, i think getting married (presumably) 6 months before step 1 would be a great time to get married. i imagine most people don't start studying until after christmas of second year, at most (i refused to even think about it until then, and i didn't REALLY start studying till may). to be honest, i'm not sure why you would be reluctant to get married at this point in time relative to step 2. i second the statement that med students get married during all sorts of breaks in school -- i got married early in my fourth year, which means i planned a wedding during my third year. sure, you have to be organized and have good time management skills, but welcome to the real world.

that's nice that your parents want you to wait to get married. mine think i should do my residency in my hometown and start popping out the grandchildren. but, thankfully, my husband and i can make our own decisions based on what is right for us.