- Joined
- Jan 24, 2012
- Messages
- 97
- Reaction score
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It seems as if people are unable to separate my Profession from my Person, and since becoming a Psychologist I am judged based on people's expectations for what they believe a Psychologist is.
For example, I lost a friend this weekend thanks to this. I hold the value that I do not believe in Marriage. I see it as a raw deal for the men involved, where it becomes a way of inviting the Government into one's home, risking losing half your income, house, and children.
My friend's reaction: "WTF, aren't you a therapist? How can you believe such BS and call yourself a professional?"
My response back: "Help me understand how my specialization in treating mental health should govern my personal values and decisions I make for my own life. I'm not pushing my values on my clients. I try to understand what their values are, and treat their mental health within a context that affirms their guiding principles."
He said: "Well if you were a cop and claimed to not be racist, but at home you make racist comments, how could anyone trust you to do your job if you hold personal values that are antithetical to your career?"
And on and on and on. He isn't talking to me anymore. I've had a number of people who expect me to be the following because I am a psychologist:
Anti-Trump
Pro-Feminism
Logical 100% of the time
Unemotional
Always willing to help ("You spend all week helping people why can't you give me an hour?!")
Six-figure income (LMAO)
"Analyzing" them (usually at first contact)
Etc.
Am I alone in experiencing this? It's extremely obnoxious and had led to a lot of ruptures in my friendships.
For example, I lost a friend this weekend thanks to this. I hold the value that I do not believe in Marriage. I see it as a raw deal for the men involved, where it becomes a way of inviting the Government into one's home, risking losing half your income, house, and children.
My friend's reaction: "WTF, aren't you a therapist? How can you believe such BS and call yourself a professional?"
My response back: "Help me understand how my specialization in treating mental health should govern my personal values and decisions I make for my own life. I'm not pushing my values on my clients. I try to understand what their values are, and treat their mental health within a context that affirms their guiding principles."
He said: "Well if you were a cop and claimed to not be racist, but at home you make racist comments, how could anyone trust you to do your job if you hold personal values that are antithetical to your career?"
And on and on and on. He isn't talking to me anymore. I've had a number of people who expect me to be the following because I am a psychologist:
Anti-Trump
Pro-Feminism
Logical 100% of the time
Unemotional
Always willing to help ("You spend all week helping people why can't you give me an hour?!")
Six-figure income (LMAO)
"Analyzing" them (usually at first contact)
Etc.
Am I alone in experiencing this? It's extremely obnoxious and had led to a lot of ruptures in my friendships.