Help me please!

[MrTwinkie99]

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The problem is that i am incredibly shy and I am pretty sure this will bring me problems down the road seeing as I am pursuing pharmacy. Can anyone give me some tips on how to 'break out of my shell' so to speak or at least get comfortable talking to strangers.

 

[ValeRx]

Stop playing WoW all day and leave your room.

 

[DASicari]

Have you tried taking a public speaking class offered at your college?

 

[aplif3]

Are you also shy and quiet around your friends as well?
If that's the case, start with your friends and start talking about everything. It should get you comfortable with how to carry on a conversation and how to interact while talking to someone. From there, you can gradually start to improve your shyness.

 

[WhiteSnows]

I suggest you start reading book like how to communicate with other people. This may help you.

 

[pavouaxiong]

I used to be extremely shy. But I got the hang of talking to strangers once I landed a job that requires it. My boss always makes me answer the phone and talk care of all the customers. Now I am not scare to talk to others.

Perhaps you should get a customer service oriented job so you can break your shell.

 

[app4x]

The problem is that i am incredibly shy and I am pretty sure this will bring me problems down the road seeing as I am pursuing pharmacy. Can anyone give me some tips on how to 'break out of my shell' so to speak or at least get comfortable talking to strangers.

based on your username, i believe you are a guy. how come ur still shy.
get to the crowd and start conversation

 

[DoctorRx1986]

I'm a 23 year old guy and very timid as well...been like this my entire life. However, there is some hope and you can improve somewhat. I believe you won't be fully able to alter your personality, but you can definitely modify certain aspects of it. I certainly have over the first year of pharmacy school. Once you're in professional school, being a little more outspoken will come more naturally to you, as it will be required during IPPE/rotations and in communication with your peers. Also, when you enter pharmacy school and realize everyone else is extroverted and making friends more easily and you're staying behind, you will in one way or another speak up a bit more and make some friends of your own; hence, your shyness will diminish somewhat.

That's what happened to me. I'm about to be a P2 and I've made more friends in pharmacy school than I've ever had in all my education. However, as a result of my shyness and overall personality, I find that I associate much more effectively with older individuals...mostly people in their late 20s and in their 30s and don't share much in common with youth my age. However, all of this is still part of the survival process. I'm going out-of-state to school and no longer live with my parents. I'm on my own and I'm practically forced into opening up a bit more or risk isolation. Additionally, if you're an overachiever and have a very strong foundation from what you're learning in school, you will excel as an intern when it comes to consulting with patients under the pharmacist's supervision. I find that if I really know what I'm talking about and feel 100% confidence in what I'm discussing or explaining, I lose all inhibitions. So, you will feel great consulting with patients even if you're shy once you realize you know your stuff and can convey the information to the public. I'm going to start my IPPE intern hours during second year, but I know I will thrive when it comes to this type of stuff. Now, if you ask me about chit chat/small talk, I'm out...

The point is, you don't have much to worry about. You will adapt as needed whether you want to or not. 👍

 

[pcproduct]

Stop playing WoW all day and leave your room.

^^
This guy is probably generalizing a bit, but it is the truth. I didn't begin to break out of my shell until I totally quit the online game I used to play for HOURS and went to college.

 

[koercive]

This may change your life : http://www.toastmasters.org/

break out of your shell. take that first leap and do something you would never do. start a conversation with a random girl at a department store (build rapport with your surroundings, environment, what she's doing). something of that nature. your heart may be pumping as if you are skydiving for the first time, but you will slowly become less shy.

 

[MrTwinkie99]

I'm a 23 year old guy and very timid as well...been like this my entire life. However, there is some hope and you can improve somewhat. I believe you won't be fully able to alter your personality, but you can definitely modify certain aspects of it. I certainly have over the first year of pharmacy school. Once you're in professional school, being a little more outspoken will come more naturally to you, as it will be required during IPPE/rotations and in communication with your peers. Also, when you enter pharmacy school and realize everyone else is extroverted and making friends more easily and you're staying behind, you will in one way or another speak up a bit more and make some friends of your own; hence, your shyness will diminish somewhat.

That's what happened to me. I'm about to be a P2 and I've made more friends in pharmacy school than I've ever had in all my education. However, as a result of my shyness and overall personality, I find that I associate much more effectively with older individuals...mostly people in their late 20s and in their 30s and don't share much in common with youth my age. However, all of this is still part of the survival process. I'm going out-of-state to school and no longer live with my parents. I'm on my own and I'm practically forced into opening up a bit more or risk isolation. Additionally, if you're an overachiever and have a very strong foundation from what you're learning in school, you will excel as an intern when it comes to consulting with patients under the pharmacist's supervision. I find that if I really know what I'm talking about and feel 100% confidence in what I'm discussing or explaining, I lose all inhibitions. So, you will feel great consulting with patients even if you're shy once you realize you know your stuff and can convey the information to the public. I'm going to start my IPPE intern hours during second year, but I know I will thrive when it comes to this type of stuff. Now, if you ask me about chit chat/small talk, I'm out...

The point is, you don't have much to worry about. You will adapt as needed whether you want to or not. 👍

Thanks a lot I also wasn't looking to completely change my personality but more just improve that one aspect of it. And FYI I don't even play much video games. I am going to be kind of off-topic but I heard that shyness is much more frowned upon in guys than girls and that it is easier for shy girls to make friends because it is perceived as a less 'negative personality trait'. Is that true?

 

[DoctorRx1986]

Thanks a lot I also wasn't looking to completely change my personality but more just improve that one aspect of it. And FYI I don't even play much video games. I am going to be kind of off-topic but I heard that shyness is much more frowned upon in guys than girls and that it is easier for shy girls to make friends because it is perceived as a less 'negative personality trait'. Is that true?

In my opinion, shyness is usually frowned upon equally in both genders. However, considering I don't always conform to the norm and follow society's standards, I believing in simply being yourself as long as you and your actions are not detrimental to others. Simple as that. Who cares what other people think if you're shy? Do other people pay your mortgage, car payments, etc? Doubt it; therefore, you have no obligation to them. Live your own life. For example, I don't drink alcohol. I'm 23 and have never had a drop of alcohol. Almost everyone my age drinks, gets wasted, etc... I don't. You'd think people would disrespect me, but I'm actually well respected and am not coerced into drinking. It's my choice. This is an example of not living by what society says is "cool" or "normal" and I'm not hurting anyone. So, just be yourself and the shyness will improve with time. Further, associate with like minded people. You'll be better able to connect and befriend those of similar personality, interests, intelligence, and goals.

 

[app4x]

The problem is that i am incredibly shy and I am pretty sure this will bring me problems down the road seeing as I am pursuing pharmacy. Can anyone give me some tips on how to 'break out of my shell' so to speak or at least get comfortable talking to strangers.

first of all,
dont message a private message to me and complain about what i wrote. it is my opinion, just to help u improve your shyness. i do not intend to mock u or anything like that. this is a forum and everyone is free to express their opinions. if u still angry about my opinion then just ignore it.
alrite, have a great day everyone and mr. Twinkie.

 

[charfdorn]

first of all,
dont message a private message to me and complain about what i wrote. it is my opinion, just to help u improve your shyness. i do not intend to mock u or anything like that. this is a forum and everyone is free to express their opinions. if u still angry about my opinion then just ignore it.
alrite, have a great day everyone and mr. Twinkie.

You should have sent this back as a PM. We don't need to hear about it, and I personally don't care about what's going on between the two of you.

 

[charfdorn]

Thanks a lot I also wasn't looking to completely change my personality but more just improve that one aspect of it. And FYI I don't even play much video games. I am going to be kind of off-topic but I heard that shyness is much more frowned upon in guys than girls and that it is easier for shy girls to make friends because it is perceived as a less 'negative personality trait'. Is that true?

That sounds right to me. A shy girl (especially if she's pretty) will get people doing the icebreaking for her. A shy guy will fade into the background.

Practice makes perfect on this one. Find the most comfortable setting you can in which you are currently shy. This might be with your friends, or with classmates you don't know, or with the guy taking your order at McD's. Build on that. Also, you can try practicing potential interview questions with a friend or relative. You need to become more comfortable sharing more of yourself, and the only way to do that is gradually. Hope that helps!

 

[IrishHammer]

Stop playing WoW all day and leave your room.

🤣😆

To the OP-how you overcome your shyness all depends on why you're so shy to begin with. People can be shy for different reasons. Find out what caused you to be shy when you were growing up, and take the necessary steps to remedy the situation. Make new friends, go out and do things, try to be social, and if it's because of an image issue, do something to fix what you don't like about yourself.

 

[MrTwinkie99]

Thanks everyone for all your honest answers even though some of you were just pissing around ... I am glad I found this site. I am going to try to get out of my comfort zone and hopefully I will gradually get used to putting myself out there and then it should become second nature.

 

[diastole]

Have you considered volunteering in a position where you have to deal with the public? Maybe you can answer phones for your favorite cause or work an information booth at a hospital. You can choose to work just a few hours a week and ease into it. I think it will give you confidence to know that you can deal with the public when you become a pharmacist. The type of communication skills you need for that are different than what you need to make friends or go out on dates. In the work setting, you need to be clear and knowledgeable when talking to patients. With dates and friends, you have to be interesting. Nobody cares if the pharmacist is interesting as long as they convey the proper information. You can be good with patients and still be shy in other situations. If you volunteer, you might just find that you are worrying for nothing.

 

[koercive]

have you taken speech class yet? use that to your advantage of getting used to speaking to others.


my speech teacher highly recommended everyone to participate in toastmasters. they have regional meeting groups all over the US. it seriously puts in a situation where you will have to break out of your shell and become a better speaker (which will help you increase your self-confidence). many famous people (CEOs, etc.) have been previous members of toastmembers.

 

[MrTwinkie99]

have you taken speech class yet? use that to your advantage of getting used to speaking to others.


my speech teacher highly recommended everyone to participate in toastmasters. they have regional meeting groups all over the US. it seriously puts in a situation where you will have to break out of your shell and become a better speaker (which will help you increase your self-confidence). many famous people (CEOs, etc.) have been previous members of toastmembers.

I am currently looking into that thanks for the information. 👍

 

[ValeRx]

Thanks everyone for all your honest answers even though some of you were just pissing around ... I am glad I found this site. I am going to try to get out of my comfort zone and hopefully I will gradually get used to putting myself out there and then it should become second nature.

I wasn't pissing around. Get off the computer and leave moms basement. Also, ignore the people that told you to go read a book. This will just perpetuate the situation. Sounds like you already spend too much time with your face in a book/screen.

 

[charfdorn]

Thanks everyone for all your honest answers even though some of you were just pissing around ... I am glad I found this site. I am going to try to get out of my comfort zone and hopefully I will gradually get used to putting myself out there and then it should become second nature.

No, it probably won't become second nature. But it will get easier.