I've already learned quite a bit from this. I just hope that those that were posting negative thoughts and bashing other people trying to help us will grow up if they want to become physicians.
I've been waiting for awhile to post on this thread because I wanted to think about what (if anything) I had to say. I'm very sorry that you are having this experience, and I sincerely hope you have learned from it. When you began posting, I did not see any sense of remorse from you or any acceptance that, at least to some degree, you had done something wrong. What I saw was more to the effect of either placing blame on other people (the prof and TA, for example) or trying to explain your behavior because other people acted the same way. Lots of people do many things that are illegal and do not get caught; that's a fact of life that is not fair, but maturity comes with being able to face
yourself in the mirror at the end of the day.
Perhaps some remarks were too harsh, but I also think that at least some people were trying to be blunt because your posts did not seem to reflect that you had accepted the gravity of the situation. It almost appeared as if you merely wanted support for your own point of view, rather than an honest assessment of the truth. Honesty is not easy, but it is important. Would I tell someone if I thought they had made a major mistake, if I thought that they knew it was a mistake, and if I thought they were trying to rationalize the mistake? You bet. I'm a mother, I love my kids dearly, and those kids can tell you that, as much as I love them, I absolutely will not be fooled and am never afraid to call things as they are. As my oldest daughter says, "When the eyebrow goes up, take cover!"
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So do I think you messed up? Yes. Do I think that somewhere inside, you realize that? Yes. What do I think you should do? I think you should take some of the very good advice that has been given to you on this board by people who know about the academic policy system. It sounds like you might have at least a chance if you approach this the right way. I don't know much about those areas, so I'll let others help with that. What I do know is that
this moment...how you react to this right now...will determine a lot of things for you. Terrible moments can either destroy or define us; it's up to you to decide which it will be. Accept what has happened, work through whatever measures of recovery you decide upon, and
keep your eyes on the prize. It's not about what people have said or not said that may or may not be harsh; it's about you, trying to recover your life with unshakeable dignity.
You have said that some people need to grow up. Perhaps that's true. I would gently suggest the same thing for you. You have a bit of growing to do, and you are currently in a difficult situation which might, if handled correctly, allow you to mature into an amazing, strong, and humble person whom anyone would admire and be glad to call friend. I sincerely wish you all the best on the journey.