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Hi - Been a while.
TLDR: Take Nocturnist position in My home city [details below] vs wait for California license to come in and see if I can find a gig in LA. Long term relationship ended 9m ago and extremely low likelihood of compatible partner where Im currently living. Also maybe in midlife existential crisis, albeit one that has led to tremendous personal growth.
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Have been practicing as a hospitalist for a little over 3y and about 9m ago joined a concierge group as well.
Living in an older community. Im 40. For personal reasons I'm looking to move.
I truly appreciate what I have now, great neighbors and an easy job though one I cant see doing indefinitely HERE. However, I want to move forward, I feel a driving need to move forward but have some fear.
Currently I'm being offered a nocturnist job. the med director: 285k base + 50k bonuses easy to get [supposedly]. 7on/7off. 8pm to 6am. 8-10 admits a night. Supposedly minimal floor call but need to specify further.
The questions/issues Im struggling with:
I strongly suspect nocturnist medicine is much more my style clinically than Day rounding [much less admin/social bs]. BUT I have no experience switching between night and day cycle- not since residency at least and those were often random 24h shifts, murderous.
Apologies in advance if these are a mix of existential and logical questions. I'm working on it.
1. Most Concerned that due to night to day switching work-life balance will not be possible— Preventing me from dating and establishing a meaningful relationship and community.
2. Concerned I dont know how to safely, effectively and sustainably switch between nights and days without causing harm to my health. Im 40.
3. Lastly, I wonder, esoterically/annoyingly, if California is spiritually, intellectually and culturally more expansive than Miami and therefore may help foster more personal growth and romantic connection opportunities.
So, should I wait where Im at until my California license comes thru in the next few months and find a job there -- my cousins, who Im close with are all in LA.
I know its much more expensive and of course thats an issue but at this stage in my life my primary concern is continued self growth [which can of course occur anywhere], building more connection to community and cultivating a real and long term relationship.
I appreciate the time of my fellow doctors. Apologies for kind of dumping this non clinical issue on here. I have to make a call within the week. I have been working hard to clear my head and make a strong call but I'm feeling a bit vulnerable here.
TLDR: Take Nocturnist position in My home city [details below] vs wait for California license to come in and see if I can find a gig in LA. Long term relationship ended 9m ago and extremely low likelihood of compatible partner where Im currently living. Also maybe in midlife existential crisis, albeit one that has led to tremendous personal growth.
Main:
Have been practicing as a hospitalist for a little over 3y and about 9m ago joined a concierge group as well.
Living in an older community. Im 40. For personal reasons I'm looking to move.
I truly appreciate what I have now, great neighbors and an easy job though one I cant see doing indefinitely HERE. However, I want to move forward, I feel a driving need to move forward but have some fear.
Currently I'm being offered a nocturnist job. the med director: 285k base + 50k bonuses easy to get [supposedly]. 7on/7off. 8pm to 6am. 8-10 admits a night. Supposedly minimal floor call but need to specify further.
The questions/issues Im struggling with:
I strongly suspect nocturnist medicine is much more my style clinically than Day rounding [much less admin/social bs]. BUT I have no experience switching between night and day cycle- not since residency at least and those were often random 24h shifts, murderous.
Apologies in advance if these are a mix of existential and logical questions. I'm working on it.
1. Most Concerned that due to night to day switching work-life balance will not be possible— Preventing me from dating and establishing a meaningful relationship and community.
2. Concerned I dont know how to safely, effectively and sustainably switch between nights and days without causing harm to my health. Im 40.
3. Lastly, I wonder, esoterically/annoyingly, if California is spiritually, intellectually and culturally more expansive than Miami and therefore may help foster more personal growth and romantic connection opportunities.
So, should I wait where Im at until my California license comes thru in the next few months and find a job there -- my cousins, who Im close with are all in LA.
I know its much more expensive and of course thats an issue but at this stage in my life my primary concern is continued self growth [which can of course occur anywhere], building more connection to community and cultivating a real and long term relationship.
I appreciate the time of my fellow doctors. Apologies for kind of dumping this non clinical issue on here. I have to make a call within the week. I have been working hard to clear my head and make a strong call but I'm feeling a bit vulnerable here.
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