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i have really tough times ..those horrible moments dramatically affecting my motivation and enthusiasm and most importantly my study..how can i prevent my private circumstances from affecting me academically??
dont u have such frustration?? 🙁

 

[neoncandle]

Everyone gets frustrated sometimes. Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do in medical school (like all the time).

 

[Psycho Doctor]

i have really tough times ..those horrible moments dramatically affecting my motivation and enthusiasm and most importantly my study..how can i prevent my private circumstances from affecting me academically??
dont u have such frustration?? 🙁

just focus; i know at times it's really hard but you got to block the problems out of your head while you study or read your med school books. set goals, small ones for a given day, afternoon, hour. as you accomplish these smaller goals you'll find yourself getting more enthusiastic and motivated because you'll become more driven to accomplish something and as you begin to succeed you'll want to do more.

furthermore whenever you are really feeling down, go visit some sick children, the elderly, the homeless, help in a soup kitchen; helping someone worse off than you does amazing things to one's psyche, and makes you feel better.

all the best and God bless...

 

[katiekate]

i have really tough times ..those horrible moments dramatically affecting my motivation and enthusiasm and most importantly my study..how can i prevent my private circumstances from affecting me academically??
dont u have such frustration?? 🙁

The frustration of loosing motivation affected me frequently in undergrad. The coping mechanism I developed was to make a very structured schedule for several days at a time. The schedule included study time for each subject, relaxing time (reading, TV, shopping, movies), exercise, and 30min of just me time. The 'me' time was spent writing in a journal all my frustrations and everything that was bothering me at the moment. It helped to get all of the thoughts out of my head so I could spend that brainpower on studying.

The other posts about setting small goals is a great idea. These goals are as small as 'reading 10 pages in path during dinner' or 'learn 2 muscle groups by Tuesday night'. Write the goals down and make a very specific plan of how you're going to finish them. Then, put the goals somewhere you look everyday. On the mirror in your bathroom, the fridge, TV, etc. Do the subjects you loath first. That way you'll look forward to the subjects you really enjoy - it'll be like dessert after having to eat lima beans (assuming you don't like lima beans).

Also, start/join a small study group with ppl you trust and like to spend time with. Study together once or twice a week and motivate each other when you're really frustrated and stressed.

Make sure you take some time for yourself to de-compress after tests and hard study sessions. Don't be too hard on yourself if you slip up. Just 'suck-it up' and try to move on to the next task.
good luck. I know it sometimes feels impossible to finish the most mundane tasks.

 

[Jonah32]

i have really tough times ..those horrible moments dramatically affecting my motivation and enthusiasm and most importantly my study..how can i prevent my private circumstances from affecting me academically??
dont u have such frustration?? 🙁

I have the same problem. I can not remember how many times I broke down when I was preparing for my first ever finals. It was truly one of the lowest points of my life. I had to give up loads of my family times to study. Yea, and to most people, the 1st semester is supposed to be a breeze but it certainly wasn't the case for me!

 

[LuckyBambooGirl]

You will be fine. When I a feeling frustrated and overwhelmed, I just remind myself that with patience and persistance, I will get through medical school. Like the other poster said, set reasonable goals and when you accomplish them, reward yourself. Make sure the goals are reasonable though--at first, the goals I set tended to be things like "I will never get behind, not even by a few lectures" or "I will study all four lectures we had today, plus review all the lectures I studied last night, plus preview tomorrow's." Goals like that will only frustrate you more. I still struggle not to make the goals impossible, but I am getting better and am much happier now than I was at the beginning of medical school. Now my goals are things like "I will study for x amount of time without playing on the internet or goofing off, and then I can watch House." Do make time to exercise. In my opinion, exercising, making time to do fun relaxing things, and learning not to be so hard on your self is much better than anti-anxiety medication (unless however your anxiety is so bad that you can't function or you have an actual anxiety disorder). You need to learn to cope with med school and your personal life, not just cover your problems up with medication. I had horrible problems with anxiety when I started medical school and I still struggle with it sometimes, but I am learning to cope better and I have become a stronger person because of it.

 

[divertete]

One of my siblings had cancer last year, and it was extremely difficult for me. I would break down crying over the smallest things, or nothing at all, and everything was much worse because I could not be there with my family while all this was going on. At the time I really felt like I had priorities in my life, and that school wasn't exactly at the top of the list. I felt like I shouldn't burden my classmates with my troubles because they had their own problems to worry about -- this was my biggest mistake. Once I found someone I could vent to I got a lot of the problems off my chest and was able to focus much better on school. I also saw a counselor once a week, just to have an extra person to talk to. Best of luck, and know that things will (eventually) get better.