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I need help! My boyfriend of almost two years has recently started medical school at XYZ Medical School over 100 miles away from where we lived. I have been trying to be very understanding about the all the changes he's undergoing, but he really hasn't been too concerned about how I feel about the whole situation. I have offered to leave my life where I am and move closer (possibly even in with him) to make this work. However, even though we had been living together for almost a year before he went to XYZ he doesn't feel it's Christian to move in together.... PLEASE NOTE, this is NOT a sexually active relationship. I really miss not having him around to talk to and do things with... now the limited time I do see him he only has time to study, which is expected since Doctor's have to know so much to be good at what they do. I try calling on the phone, but again he doesn't have time for me. After several discussions with his parent's they've encouraged me to "Hang in there, it'll all work out eventually. Maybe some of his new friends will also have girlfriends that are going through the same situation and you'll be able to talk to them and support each other." However, how many 3 hour trips are you expected to make to try to make things work? Especially since he doesn't seem to want me to be around to meet any potential friends of his? Is "living together" in an non-sexually active relationship really that bad? I've been trying to find an answer to that and I've read several different Bibles and several websites and all I have seen is "living together" being referred to with sex being a part of it. I don't want this relationship to turn into a constant battle for attention and to be able to spend time together, and that's what I'm watching it turn into before my eyes. What really scares me is losing him because I love him. I don't want to push him even further away than he already is, but I feel we're getting really close to losing what we have because of the distance. Has anyone else been through this before? What can I do? Should I wait a few weeks then approach the idea of moving again? Even if I move it wouldn't be until at least January, then I wouldn't have the chance of moving again until August, and that's only if a really plan ahead. I read somewhere that 60% of couples that live together before they are married then live apart for a while don't get back together. I'm really scared and I feel really........... Duped by Love