I'm sorry that you misinterpreted my question as not wanting to work "hard" or commitment myself to whatever I am doing while at work. My question was how much of my patient load follows me home, with the exception of readings (which one should always do to keep up on the field). And, I can become a physician AND have children and I will pick the field that allows me that flexibility and from the physicians that I have spoken with about this, they have very positive things to say, actually these are the first "negative" comments I've heard.
Everyone initially is attracted to a field because of something (initial interest, pt care, continuity, lack of continuity, money, hours, procedures, intellectually challenging, etc) bottom line is I don't plan on doing anything that I can't stand to do, but if the possibility of not having to do tons of work at home around my family is the thing that initially attracts me, then so be it. This is why I will be doing a couple electives, to see if its something I like.
I also realize being a physicians is a "full time" commitment, but you still have a life outside of medicine no matter what your specialty is. Many physicians, including anesthesiologists, seem to find out how to do this. So I will continue to explore other options, but hate to disappoint you, anesthesia is still on my radar.