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I'm about to dump some exposition about **** that's been going on in my current journey through dental school
My entire life up to this point I remember always tryharding to get As in everything. It didn't always work but that was the explicit goal going into any class. There were a lot of reasons for this, a major one being I wanted to keep doors open for me in the future. I kept this mindset all throughout middle school, high school, and undergrad. Now I feel like it's getting in the way of my life in dental school. I do want to keep doors open for myself in case I want to specialize but I don't know if it's worth it to do so when I have not been exposed to any specialty in any real capacity.
A part of me says to keep grinding. To stay indoors doing anki or looking over notes. To try to get into a specialty program and be more than a GP. But it's only a month in and I am already so tired. I could do this in undergrad but the current pace of exams, practicals, quizzes, etc is far beyond what I've experienced up until now. I've been doing well in school but I don't know how long I can keep it up. I either need to let go of being an A student or be destroyed. But I don't know how to let go.
I feel like I have nothing going for me outside of my academics. I am not good looking, I don't have a lot of friends, I don't have a girlfriend, etc. All I've ever been able to do well is score well on tests. I know that Cs get degrees and that I will be a dentist regardless of whether I graduate first in my class or last but that doesn't really make me feel any better about being a mediocre student for the next four years. I feel proud when I do well on exams but there's also a certain safety in it. If I do well in class I never have to worry about people looking down on me for being a bad student. It's not even parental pressure driving me. My parents don't care about my grades so long as I graduate with my DDS. My mom specifically told me that she no longer expects perfection and that she'd be proud of me regardless. At this point "gunning" is just part of my identity.
Anyone come into school with a "I'm gonna be/need to be an A student for specialty apps or personal pride reasons" and then let go of it? Please share your story. Thanks for coming to my ted talk
My entire life up to this point I remember always tryharding to get As in everything. It didn't always work but that was the explicit goal going into any class. There were a lot of reasons for this, a major one being I wanted to keep doors open for me in the future. I kept this mindset all throughout middle school, high school, and undergrad. Now I feel like it's getting in the way of my life in dental school. I do want to keep doors open for myself in case I want to specialize but I don't know if it's worth it to do so when I have not been exposed to any specialty in any real capacity.
A part of me says to keep grinding. To stay indoors doing anki or looking over notes. To try to get into a specialty program and be more than a GP. But it's only a month in and I am already so tired. I could do this in undergrad but the current pace of exams, practicals, quizzes, etc is far beyond what I've experienced up until now. I've been doing well in school but I don't know how long I can keep it up. I either need to let go of being an A student or be destroyed. But I don't know how to let go.
I feel like I have nothing going for me outside of my academics. I am not good looking, I don't have a lot of friends, I don't have a girlfriend, etc. All I've ever been able to do well is score well on tests. I know that Cs get degrees and that I will be a dentist regardless of whether I graduate first in my class or last but that doesn't really make me feel any better about being a mediocre student for the next four years. I feel proud when I do well on exams but there's also a certain safety in it. If I do well in class I never have to worry about people looking down on me for being a bad student. It's not even parental pressure driving me. My parents don't care about my grades so long as I graduate with my DDS. My mom specifically told me that she no longer expects perfection and that she'd be proud of me regardless. At this point "gunning" is just part of my identity.
Anyone come into school with a "I'm gonna be/need to be an A student for specialty apps or personal pride reasons" and then let go of it? Please share your story. Thanks for coming to my ted talk