jl lin, I don't care how you responded to the situation. You're super proud of yourself for ignoring these things. Whatever. I'm just straight up horrified that a doctor (much less more than one doctor) would do this to you. For God's sake.
I am sorry you are horrified. They were not horrifying experiences. Females often hold the power in male/female social dynamics.
Often enough it's like this: "If you command wisely, you'll be obeyed cheerfully."--Fuller
It certainly is not always true. But often it's true enough. Why get all bent out of shape? I have had patients and people say all kinds of bizarre things to me or others on the team. You learn not to get reactive and deal with things in a more objective fashion.