Against my better judgement I'll carefully wade in.
I agree with
@Law2Doc on most of the points after scanning through this thread. So people don't misinterpret.
#1 Unwanted physical touching or threats of physical contact is unacceptable in any setting.
#2 Quid pro quo is never acceptable.
I don't think that those are in dispute by anyone. What I think that people are missing are other aspects of this.
#1 Shadowing is not mentorship. It is not a power relationship. It is not something that generates a LOR. If you are using terms/phrases like these, I'm sorry, it is simply not accurate. There is no formal relationship between someone shadowing and a physician. People should still be respectful, courteous and not assault one another, but that should go without saying. In the same way that someone shouldn't touch another's hair, students shouldn't be loud, disruptive or rude. There is more often than not an age gap. But, other than that, they are not an employer, teacher, mentor, etc. They are someone that agreed to let a student see what they do every day.
#2 Getting asked out is not harassment. It is not being hit on. When I read the original post, it screamed, "Someone who is unattractive to me asked me out." I showed it to my wife sitting on the plane next to me and she made two comments, #1 it is normal for people who meet each other at work to start dating, why would it me weird for someone in a non-professional relationship with someone to ask you out? #2 This would not have been an issue if they were closer in age and attractive, sounds like they are ageist.
#3 People in healthcare often date within healthcare. One of our residents just got married to a scrub tech that he met in the OR. One of our attendings married another attending that she met when she was an MS3. Another resident married a senior resident, etc. It keeps going and going. As much as people like to say, "don't **** where you sleep" the reality is that if you aren't pathological/overtly dramatic, most relationships, even if they end don't have to be catastrophic at the work place. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't be cautious, but to blanket reject the possibility, especially for other people is a bit silly.
#4 People change stories on forums all the time. This is why for effective communication you generally put all the information that you can in the first post, rather than modifying the story as you go. It is hard to fault people misunderstanding things when you need to make major clarifications or the story shifts drastically many posts in. There is a big difference between a physician asking out a shadow and a physician invading someone's personal space.