Actually, the story goes like this...two guys are fighting about a bad topic, and bam, when the third person steps in they start punching him....
Anyway, enough education, guys, let's step right to the point.
By way of intro, I am an Indian-born, raised American guy. If you have a background like mine, you love to talk about your transformation more than anything else, because, as I see it, your love for your country grows more than anything else as you grow up. That is to say, I love both the US and its culture, and treat India as a wonderful home.
speaking of the discussion, i was rather surprised to see a wonderful attitude from a colleague who ventured to boldly ask how to make small talk to an indian man. Had he persisted with this boldly and not resorted to a farcical internet board -- yes, that's this website -- for help, i would have hoped for a better solution.
As it is, life is nothing but a play as the bard opined.....
Anyway, my comments are as follows:
Arranged marriage or not, your opinion of India is drastically different from mine. Growing up there, I have witnessed arranged marriage both defended and praised. So, let us talk about it briefly. I myself have attended several marriages and almost all were arranged affairs.
Since you are unfamiliar with this process, PM me and I'l fill you in as I can.
But for now, please believe that there is no lack of love in between the couple before and after the marriage. There is plenty of time to correspond, talk, meet and decide to get hitched. Often, people break up, remarry and so on.
So, can you fault the biggest democracy in the world for trying to bring a certain order to its civilization? Maybe not!
As an aside, I enjoy receiving arranged marriage offers all the time. Despite the fact that I am dating and have done so for a while. Yeah, she is hot...and nope, no pictures
Although you may find it strange, a lot of western people get introduced by parents, church members, friends -- guys, this is your arranged marriage! If you didn't meet your SO in a bar, then, I am considering yours an arranged affair. (btw, i met mine through a job, so, hmm.. i guess it doesn't count now, does it?)
Also, for the primary response: I am very happy that you decided to talk to your Indian friend. He is probably a little shy. And scared of the American view of his lifestyle, which may consist of eating Indian food while watching Indian TV and discussing life w/ Indian friends.
You, as a friend, should spare him your bs of how things can be different, and simply spend time with him and discuss American affairs. He or she, as a general case, should be more than happy to bring his knowledge and questions, and perhaps even suggestions to the table.
If all else fails, just go to an Indian restuarant, and watch as your friend starts opening up very quickly.... just remember, dont say i didn't warn you about this
best of luck to the OP, and may you never post here again unless you come back with positive news - or we're branding you a troll, as initiall suspected.