Has anyone else encountered this before? How did you respond? Has anyone actually BEEN talked out of vet med by something a specific veterinarian said? Current DVMs- how do you feel about this? Have you ever said this to one of your shadows?
I have
absolutely said something like this to prevets, but in specific situations. I am a zoo vet, and it's not uncommon these days for a prevet to want to do zoo. Zoo med has a lot more exposure these days (TV shows, for example, but vet med in general has these now too) that kids will see early on. Then they grow up wanting to be a zoo vet specifically, and in my experience, have nothing but a TV show or the vet window at Disney World/Nashville/wherever else as to why they want that career. That's not to say a TV show/other is a dumb reason to be interested in a career. Exposure is exposure, and what we do is 'cool' and is almost always assumed to be glamorous. People get really excited by it. But if you are coming to chat with me as a husbandry intern, guest relations/concessions employee, whatever, and saying 'I want to be a zoo vet and my only reason/'experience' is this thing, and I only want to do this to pursue this extremely competitive (and simultaneously poorly paid, and sometimes excessively niche) sector of vet med, I'm going to give you a heavy reality check. In my experience, some of the most outspoken 'haters' of vet med are people who went into the field for a very specific career and did not/have not yet gotten into the sector they wanted to be in (not just zoo, either)
Aside from that, I don't routinely try to dissuade prevets from pursuing the field. When asked, I will give my thoughts, but the truth of the matter is that we can all talk until we are blue in the face and
no one will listen. I don't have a horribly negative opinion of this field, and I am lucky to be debt free since my third year of practice (thanks to partly killing myself with work, partly due to 'lucky' circumstances and having a husband to split costs with). I'm also not in a 'client' facing role currently, if I was I might have different feelings. Even if I did, the onslaught of 'This field is miserable, you'll be crushed by debt, we all hate our lives, etc etc' goes in one ear and out the other. Most of us, myself included, probably had at least one vet try to dissuade us and that obviously didn't work. The financial outlook for the field is not great at the moment - we are experiencing the aftermath of corporations exploding and ballooning in the heat of COVID and now that demand has dropped quite a bit. If we hit a true recession, we will be right back where we were in the 2009-2015ish days where new grads couldn't find jobs. That means absolutely nothing to kids who haven't lived through scary times, were too young to see the fear in their parents' eyes during the last recession, haven't paid their own bills yet, haven't watched their loan balances climb despite monthly payments. Vet med also currently is comprised of white females from middle (or higher) class families (myself included, until my family hit harder times). This is not a dig at anyone, but people from those backgrounds usually don't understand the concepts of debt and loan repayment, financial risk, struggling to make ends meet, etc. Vet med is very much a 'follow your dream, kid!' type of career and being able to pursue a dream with blinders on to the finances is peak privilege imo.
I have had one vet I worked for in my prevet days try to dissuade me. She was a solo vet who owned her own practice, ran things very old school, and worked 6-7 days a week even though she probably didn't have to. She moreso just hated her situation, I think. She was otherwise debt free, and very much went to vet school because her mom was a vet and that was just the path she was laid. Not everyone who goes to vet school actually discovered they wanted to be a vet at some point. IMO the 'vet-by-nepotism' (maybe not the best choice of words, but I'm tired) path is much less common these days but for some, it's all they know because their parents basically raised their family in the clinic working 14 hour days 7 days a week. So long story short, I do agree that context/knowing a bit more about the person trying to dissuade you matters to some extent.
I will say that I am discouraged by how many college-age students I meet that want to be vets, but still have not step foot in a veterinary setting by their sophomore or junior year of undergrad. I know it can be hard to get experience, but I have to wonder how many people get 'trapped' by the concept. By the time they get vet experience and don't like it, they feel they can't get off the ride and still pursue vet school. It's a scary thing to have had a goal for the majority of your life, only to realize it's not for you and you haven't explored anything else (or you want it but never get accepted, and then don't know what you want to do). We probably all know a few classmates/vets that absolutely hate the field, or a few pre-vet undergrad friends that never really figured out an alternative.
Vets who are happy long-term at their clinic don't go into relief generally.
Unrelated to the main topic, but this is absolutely not true. Sure, some people go into relief for the reasons you said, but a lotttt go into it just because they like having the scheduling freedom and you can make bank doing it, if you do it well. Some of the most highly paid vets in this country are doing ER relief (we're talking $450k+ working 12 shifts or less per month). Considering the fact that you don't need any specialty training to do this, it's an extremely attractive option for a lot of vets.