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And it's hitting me a little harder than I thought it would, even though I guess I expected it because of a soso interview and it being a reach school. 🙁 And obvi now i am starting to doubt all my other interviews.

Now i have to to call the parents to tell them the bad news.

Anyways, how do you guys take your mind off these things?
 
There are always reports of people not getting into lower ranked schools but getting into higher ranked schools. Different schools want different thing. This rejection only applies to that specific school and no other. 👍
 
You've got multiple interviews? Then you are probably a pretty strong candidate. I wouldn't worry too much. I personally wouldn't have even called the 'rents, just forget about it.

Also for interviews I see it as a level playing field for everyone there. I think they are just looking for someone who "fits."
 
Infinitydrop said:
And it's hitting me a little harder than I thought it would, even though I guess I expected it because of a soso interview and it being a reach school. 🙁 And obvi now i am starting to doubt all my other interviews.

Now i have to to call the parents to tell them the bad news.

Anyways, how do you guys take your mind off these things?
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Don't take it personally! You just didn't have the characteristics that the school was looking for, but it doesn't mean you will not move on to get even better acceptances and become a great doctor!

I got a few WL/rejections from lower ranked schools too - most recently Albert Einstein - but then I got into UMich, so it shows how random and subjective this process is.

Relax becuase there is nothing you can do at this point... its all up to the adcoms!
 
I mean people get post-interview rejections, you're not the only one. Once you're accepted into another school, you're not going to care so much. Good luck.
 
I got multiple interviews (3) and I'm fairly average, stats-wise. Just got wait-listed at my top choices, after the interviews went really *well.* So...yeah. A little unexpected and it's bumming me out too 🙁 I'm listening to music and doing some cleaning and thanking God for taking me this far--I submitted my applications later in the cycle and didn't even think I'd have a chance, so I'm just grateful for whatever I get at this point; interviews, wait-lists, whatever. I've got my 3rd interview lined up for next month so I'm prepping for that, to make it my best interview yet! Third time's a charm, right? lol.
 
hmmm...I think my messy room is about to become sparkingly clean tonight, might as well channel it to something productive

This was my top choice school as well. It seemed like a school that did a lot of WL, so I guess getting Rejected showed me that I wasn't even close.
Still waiting for that fateful acceptance anywhere.
 
Also, slightly bummed because my ex just got accepted to dental school, and he only applied to 5 schools, had one interview, and was accepted a week later. and is rubbing it in my face.
 
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Cant really give you any advice because I was never in this specific situation.

But I can tell you that I dont "worry" about things. I look to improve and ensure that the same thing doesnt happen again.

What was iffy in the interview? Did I not express myself well? How do I ... blah blah
 
Infinitydrop said:
Also, slightly bummed because my ex just got accepted to dental school, and he only applied to 5 schools, had one interview, and was accepted a week later. and is rubbing it in my face.
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I'm a fan of the "smug high road" approach. It's too easy to denigrate his future profession when involved in an argument so instead congratulate him and act like it's no big deal. "Congrats. I've never heard of their dental school. Is it any good?" "Yeah!! I LOVE IT!" "oh, cool. Well I've never heard of it..."

Objective: totally don't care and passive-aggressively devalue his accomplishment, lol



(disclaimer: I do not actually think dentists are lesser beings, but am still able to find the running joke in The Hangover funny)
 
LoL, I wish that would work. But he got into Tufts, and I live in MA so I can't pull the I havn't heard of it speech. I wish med schools accepted 70% of people who interviewed. Its super ironic, because I always bugged him about messing for his GPA for stupid things and now it looks like he just might get the final laugh.
 
I was on your ex's side of a similar conflict, and it feels really good to come out on top. If you hassled him a lot for his grades and stuff, I can see why he's giving you grief. That said, I hope you get in. I wouldn't wish applying to med school more than once on anyone.
 
Infinitydrop said:
LoL, I wish that would work. But he got into Tufts, and I live in MA so I can't pull the I havn't heard of it speech. I wish med schools accepted 70% of people who interviewed. Its super ironic, because I always bugged him about messing for his GPA for stupid things and now it looks like he just might get the final laugh.
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Darn. Keep your chin up, get into medical school (which you will), and then your revenge will happen every time someone asks him if he's "a real doctor" :laugh:
 
Infinitydrop said:
And it's hitting me a little harder than I thought it would, even though I guess I expected it because of a soso interview and it being a reach school. 🙁 And obvi now i am starting to doubt all my other interviews.

Now i have to to call the parents to tell them the bad news.

Anyways, how do you guys take your mind off these things?
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May I ask what was your scores and GPA like, and which school you manquered?
 
Infinitydrop said:
LoL, I wish that would work. But he got into Tufts, and I live in MA so I can't pull the I havn't heard of it speech. I wish med schools accepted 70% of people who interviewed. Its super ironic, because I always bugged him about messing for his GPA for stupid things and now it looks like he just might get the final laugh.
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Stay strong. I'm sure you'll pull through in the end!
 
Infinitydrop said:
Also, slightly bummed because my ex just got accepted to dental school, and he only applied to 5 schools, had one interview, and was accepted a week later. and is rubbing it in my face.
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i mean . . . that seems kinda dick. really? are you sure this is the boyfriend you need? 🙄

anyway, i feel ya. my first interview was at my state school. not to use the word 'safety' but yes i did think my chances were the best there. post interview, i heard nothing while other people were getting accepted there left and right. i still havent heard anything, so while its not technically a rejection yet, i have a feeling thats where it's headed (i dont think they reject anyone post interview until may.) in any case, it REALLY undermined my confidence, especially because i felt like the interview went great. but i pushed on and to my amazement i got accepted at both of the other two schools i interviewed at after that. so now i kind of feel like if my state school didn't want me, it was their loss. :shrug:

just try not to take it personally. easier said than done, i know, but i think that in general when you have multiple interviews, chances are high that you'll get at least one acceptance. hang in there.
 
MilkmanAl said:
I was on your ex's side of a similar conflict, and it feels really good to come out on top. If you hassled him a lot for his grades and stuff, I can see why he's giving you grief. That said, I hope you get in. I wouldn't wish applying to med school more than once on anyone.
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I only hassled because i cared. And I didn't just bug him, I actually made every effort to help him study before tests, read his papers, and wake him up and drag him to the library. I really hope you don't do the same to someone else. Trust me, it already hurts bad enough.
 
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My first reject was from Mayo, which increased my comfort level with rejections bcos I always never expected anything else from them...:laugh::laugh:

U'll win some and lose some, that the name of the game. Like someone said above don't take it personally. U'll hopefully get better news in time.

Have u been accepted? If so, brush the rejections off ur shoulder...
 
Sorry to hear. I am also in a bit of a post-interview decision depression so I know how you feel. It sucks.

I hope you hear some good news from your other schools.
 
Infinitydrop said:
I only hassled because i cared. And I didn't just bug him, I actually made every effort to help him study before tests, read his papers, and wake him up and drag him to the library. I really hope you don't do the same to someone else. Trust me, it already hurts bad enough.
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I never rubbed my acceptance in her face, but I definitely took a smug sense of satisfaction away from the experience. I'm not trying to turn this into life lesson hour, but unless you (in the general sense) are married and your well-being rests on your spouse's success, let him/her do whatever he/she wants. You can't live others' lives for them, no matter how much you may want to or know your way is right. Pushing is just going to foster resistance, most of the time.

Anyway, as others have said, don't get discouraged. If you've had other interviews, chances are you'll pull out an acceptance.
 
Zona Pellucida said:
Sorry to hear. I am also in a bit of a post-interview decision depression so I know how you feel. It sucks.

I hope you hear some good news from your other schools.
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At least you got wailisted, you you can keep the hope alive.

Also, I hate this abstract idea of "fit" It's as if there's somthing intristicly wrong with you.
 
Infinitydrop said:
LoL, I wish that would work. But he got into Tufts, and I live in MA so I can't pull the I havn't heard of it speech. I wish med schools accepted 70% of people who interviewed. Its super ironic, because I always bugged him about messing for his GPA for stupid things and now it looks like he just might get the final laugh.
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Getting into medical school is significantly more difficult than getting into dental school. Look at the GPA averages for dental school....

Not trying to put anyone down, but he really shouldn't be comparing the two, b/c one is much easier. So if I were in your position, I would rub that in his face. Plus according to my dad (who has been doing a lot of researching for dental school rankings to find a good dentist, said Tufts is not as good of a dental school as a medical school/undergrad).

There I gave you some ammo. Don't feel bad, you will make it!!!
 
Infinitydrop said:
I only hassled because i cared. And I didn't just bug him, I actually made every effort to help him study before tests, read his papers, and wake him up and drag him to the library. I really hope you don't do the same to someone else. Trust me, it already hurts bad enough.
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I hear you completely. You're not the only one who's had to drag her slacker bf into studying and caring about his future--because *you* genuinely cared and perhaps found it easier to picture a future with him if he had something more than an administrative assistant job lined up for himself after school. My ex was a political science major, though, and after graduating with sub-par grades in that you're pretty much doomed unless you start a huge brand new civil rights movement or something lol. Don't worry about him; focus on yourself. Once you get into med school his dental school acceptance won't look like such a big deal, and with multiple interviews you're obviously good enough to get in somewhere (at least that's the logic i'm using to bring up my own spirits, lol).
 
Marcus Brody said:
You've got multiple interviews? Then you are probably a pretty strong candidate. I wouldn't worry too much. I personally wouldn't have even called the 'rents, just forget about it.

Also for interviews I see it as a level playing field for everyone there. I think they are just looking for someone who "fits."
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That's what I thought, too, until one of the schools told me that my interview went great, but my grades earlier in college were their main concern. I thought that if my grades were a concern, they wouldn't offer me an interview in the first place! *face palms* Go figure!
 
IDoIt4Love said:
That's what I thought, too, until one of the schools told me that my interview went great, but my grades earlier in college were their main concern. I thought that if my grades were a concern, they wouldn't offer me an interview in the first place! *face palms* Go figure!
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My grades from freshman year were brought up to at ALL of my interviews. I just told them that I was a different student then than I am now. I talked about my upward trend.

One school interviewer even said if I didn't get in, I should do a SMP. I got waitlisted at that school. But then at my other interviews, we talked about my gpa and I was accepted.... They wouldn't invite you if your gpa was too low for their school. They just want to see that the experience changed you in some way and that you have become a really good student now (gained maturity, time management skills, or wat not).
 
We broke up in large part because his slackerness. I think the reason he applied to so little dental schools was because then he could blame that if he didn't get in. But once again toally ironic if he ends up a dentist someday while I am still reapplying to med school.

Anyways, THANK YOU everyone for your quick responses. I actually feel a lot better now. That cloud of utter depressive self doubting self hatingness has somewhat cleared out, and I am more hopeful again for rest of the cycle.
 
I know where you're at, OP. 2 of my first 3 post-interview decisions were rejections, including one where I thought I had a great interview and was among the first group of interviewees for the year. It hit me really hard and I was pretty upset about it for a while, but you get over it.

Good luck with the rest of your cycle.
 
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Don't feel bad about a rejection, it just means it wasn't a right fit. If they didn't think you were a correct fit for them, then you can also assume they're not a good fit for you.

and to show that I understand..

my first rejection was from my undergrad's med school where I did research and where some of my LORs came from AND it was on my birthday ( of course I only realized later that it was on my birthday because I only found out i was rejected like five weeks later). But anyways, my thoughts were....well at least I'm not waiting on this school!

something better will come along. I promise!

And as for calling the parentals....my parents are the ones who call me when I get a rejection/waitlist/letter because they're the ones who open it....
 
The first time I applied to medical school I received 3 interview invites and was rejected from all 3 schools. Upon learning of my final rejection, my ex called me to gloat about getting into law school. And once I told her I had been rejected from the last one, she reminded me of how I called her worthless (in a fit of frustration) after we'd broken up, and how this must be God's way of paying me back for that.

(to make a long story short, it was nearly impossible to break up with HER and SHE BROKE UP WITH ME "for religious differences" and started dating other guys, which shows how screwed up the situation was)

Reliving that makes me glad I haven't had to discuss bad past relationships in medical school interviews, because I think that brings out the worst in everyone.

Anyway, this really annoyed me because of how incredibly easy it is to get into law school. She didn't even have to go to a single interview and had a far lower GPA than me. It's okay though, and I'm over the whole experience now. She's even doing really well in law school and I think she'll do pretty well as a lawyer. I've applied again to medical school with so far slightly better results.

But I think I'm keeping it in the back of my head that it would be easy to get into law school should I be rejected from all the schools for a second time 🙂

Just recently I was rejected from one school I was expecting a rejection from and one school I was expecting a waitlist from. I think I'm going to keep telling my parents I haven't heard anything until I hear good news. At this point I just don't want to have to tell them twice in a row I was rejected.
 
IDoIt4Love said:
I hear you completely. You're not the only one who's had to drag her slacker bf into studying and caring about his future--because *you* genuinely cared and perhaps found it easier to picture a future with him if he had something more than an administrative assistant job lined up for himself after school.
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I will never understand why girls do this. It's very puzzling.
 
Infinitydrop said:
My scores and grades are fine, my interview skills not so good as it turns out, I have said such dumb things that I later smack myself for. Just got axed by pitt.
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Clear your brain, dump anything emotionally prevents you doing good at the interviews, you don't need them, right! Hopefully, we're gonna hear good news from you soon.
 
ceng2doc said:
Clear your brain, dump anything emotionally prevents you doing good at the interviews, you don't need them, right! Hopefully, we're gonna hear good news from you soon.
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That is good advice! I need to do this for tomorrow myself... no acceptance and no rejections for me yet... Heck, I am on "hold" at like 5 schools... hoping for a positive out come...
 
flip26 said:
This is a cruel, and ridiculously lengthy, process.

Hang in there.
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+1

When I think of the admissions process (including classwork, MCAT, etc.), I think of myself swimming in a deep pool with a cinderblock chained to my leg. I'm flailing and struggling hard to stay afloat. The adcom is sitting on an adirondack, smoking a cigar, and saying "why are you spashing so much?"

The thought makes me happy.
 
alibai3ah said:
My grades from freshman year were brought up to at ALL of my interviews. I just told them that I was a different student then than I am now. I talked about my upward trend.

One school interviewer even said if I didn't get in, I should do a SMP. I got waitlisted at that school. But then at my other interviews, we talked about my gpa and I was accepted.... They wouldn't invite you if your gpa was too low for their school. They just want to see that the experience changed you in some way and that you have become a really good student now (gained maturity, time management skills, or wat not).
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See, Ali, that's the thing. I've had a really strong upward trend, my grades were never even brought up as an issue in either of my interviews, and yet one of the schools is citing early grades as an issue. I just can't understand these people!
 
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