Disclaimer: I always dread being asked my "medical opinion" by family, and I make it a point to say that I have no "medical opinion" to give. I am only an M2. The only opinion I can give is a personal one and I'd much prefer to give no opinion. But anyway...
My MIL calls my partner last night and wants my opinion about an "eye thing." I know pretty much nothing about eyes, and I really don't want to get involved but I overhear that she had a sudden onset of large unilateral floaters and "flashes of light" when she moves her eye. She says she looked it up and is worried about a retinal detachment. She asks what I think.
I make the mistake of telling her that it does sound a bit concerning and that if she thinks it could be a retinal detachment she should go to the ED because it could be a medical emergency. The only thing I do know about retinal detachment is that you can go blind if it goes undetected/untreated. I don't want to say "don't worry, you are totally fine" and she wakes up blind. I would rather be safe than sorry.
My partner and I end up going to the ED with her. We offered the suggestion of going to the nearby academic L1 trauma center, but its farther than the local community hospital, so she decided to go to the local community hospital. The PA sees her and does a bedside US. PA says they don't see an obvious detachment, but they want an ophthalmology opinion (r/o retinal or vitreous detachments, etc). No ophthalmology on call, so they recommend transfer to nearby academic L1 trauma center or sign out AMA. MIL wants to go home to sleep and considers signing out AMA. She asks my opinion and I say she probably shouldn't sign out AMA and she should do what the ER staff recommends.
Long story short, she goes to nearby academic center via her own vehicle, but community ER says they are aware she is coming. At nearby academic center, it apparently takes like 6 hours to be seen and obviously its miserable for her bc everyone hates being a patient in the ED. This morning, she tells us that the retina is not detached (although I know nothing else about what the ophthalmologist said). She is obviously exhausted from the ordeal and has had a bad experience. I am empathetic because clearly that is very frustrating, but also I'm not willing to join in on complaining about the ER staffs because I know how tough it is on their end (worked in the ED at a L1 trauma center for 3 years).
Now, I feel like the "bad guy" because I "made" her go through this expensive and frustrating experience when the problem was not actually an emergency. No one has blamed me (MIL or partner) but obviously, I feel badly. I don't regret recommending her she go to the ED since she was concerned (god forbid it was a surgical emergency and she didn't go and somehow ended up going blind). However, I now never want to give any kind of opinion to family or friends again. Definitely learned my lesson to just keep my mouth shut.
Sorry for the long winded venting. Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience or has an opinion about the situation/how to navigate family questions in the future.
My MIL calls my partner last night and wants my opinion about an "eye thing." I know pretty much nothing about eyes, and I really don't want to get involved but I overhear that she had a sudden onset of large unilateral floaters and "flashes of light" when she moves her eye. She says she looked it up and is worried about a retinal detachment. She asks what I think.
I make the mistake of telling her that it does sound a bit concerning and that if she thinks it could be a retinal detachment she should go to the ED because it could be a medical emergency. The only thing I do know about retinal detachment is that you can go blind if it goes undetected/untreated. I don't want to say "don't worry, you are totally fine" and she wakes up blind. I would rather be safe than sorry.
My partner and I end up going to the ED with her. We offered the suggestion of going to the nearby academic L1 trauma center, but its farther than the local community hospital, so she decided to go to the local community hospital. The PA sees her and does a bedside US. PA says they don't see an obvious detachment, but they want an ophthalmology opinion (r/o retinal or vitreous detachments, etc). No ophthalmology on call, so they recommend transfer to nearby academic L1 trauma center or sign out AMA. MIL wants to go home to sleep and considers signing out AMA. She asks my opinion and I say she probably shouldn't sign out AMA and she should do what the ER staff recommends.
Long story short, she goes to nearby academic center via her own vehicle, but community ER says they are aware she is coming. At nearby academic center, it apparently takes like 6 hours to be seen and obviously its miserable for her bc everyone hates being a patient in the ED. This morning, she tells us that the retina is not detached (although I know nothing else about what the ophthalmologist said). She is obviously exhausted from the ordeal and has had a bad experience. I am empathetic because clearly that is very frustrating, but also I'm not willing to join in on complaining about the ER staffs because I know how tough it is on their end (worked in the ED at a L1 trauma center for 3 years).
Now, I feel like the "bad guy" because I "made" her go through this expensive and frustrating experience when the problem was not actually an emergency. No one has blamed me (MIL or partner) but obviously, I feel badly. I don't regret recommending her she go to the ED since she was concerned (god forbid it was a surgical emergency and she didn't go and somehow ended up going blind). However, I now never want to give any kind of opinion to family or friends again. Definitely learned my lesson to just keep my mouth shut.
Sorry for the long winded venting. Just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience or has an opinion about the situation/how to navigate family questions in the future.