Alright, so here's the scoop: I'm 23, male, M1, and am engaged with a woman that I've been with for over 4 years and we've been very happy together. She sacrificed a lot for me, including dropping her "career" in order to follow me to medical school. She graduated college and still has plenty potential to do her own thing, but was wanting to do pharmacy so she missed out in taking the exams, getting her app built etc.
Now, the problem is not that I don't love her - I do! She is really a great person and we get along very well, most of the time. But, when we first met we had talked about kids and what we wanted with our future and she said that she DIDNT want kids, which I brushed off as her just taking the "I dont want to be a young mother and ruin our future" type of stance, so cool that was fine. I figured her mind would change down the road.
Recently since our engagement, I have again brought up the idea of kids in the future and she still is adamant about not having kids. It's really bothering me, because I want to carry on a family eventually! Another thing that has been getting to me is that she isn't comfortable with traveling, which is a major thing I love to do - I am the adventurous type and need to go do exciting things. Our 4+ years together has been confined to a mostly academic setting where I've been focused on getting into medical school so there hasn't been much traveling, having fun. That being said, we've lived together most of the 4 years and spend a great deal of time together.
So here comes an urgent issue.... I've met somebody in my medical school class that is coming on to me, more sexually than in an "I want to get to know you" type of way. She is cute and a really interesting person - and seeing pics on FB I can see she loves to travel and is adventurous. I would like to get to know her before I make any decisions that might ruin my current relationship with my fiance. I feel the urge to get to know this person because I feel like maybe we could have something that could lead to a happy relationship.. where maybe kids and a more exciting, adventurous relationship could happen. But my conscience is taking a huge toll on me because I really am a nice person, and I don't want to hurt my fiance. I feel so ****ty, and feel like I should stay with my fiance - but I also feel like that would be cheating myself because I would like a future with kids...
How do I proceed? Any advice?
Now, the problem is not that I don't love her - I do! She is really a great person and we get along very well, most of the time. But, when we first met we had talked about kids and what we wanted with our future and she said that she DIDNT want kids, which I brushed off as her just taking the "I dont want to be a young mother and ruin our future" type of stance, so cool that was fine. I figured her mind would change down the road.
Recently since our engagement, I have again brought up the idea of kids in the future and she still is adamant about not having kids. It's really bothering me, because I want to carry on a family eventually! Another thing that has been getting to me is that she isn't comfortable with traveling, which is a major thing I love to do - I am the adventurous type and need to go do exciting things. Our 4+ years together has been confined to a mostly academic setting where I've been focused on getting into medical school so there hasn't been much traveling, having fun. That being said, we've lived together most of the 4 years and spend a great deal of time together.
So here comes an urgent issue.... I've met somebody in my medical school class that is coming on to me, more sexually than in an "I want to get to know you" type of way. She is cute and a really interesting person - and seeing pics on FB I can see she loves to travel and is adventurous. I would like to get to know her before I make any decisions that might ruin my current relationship with my fiance. I feel the urge to get to know this person because I feel like maybe we could have something that could lead to a happy relationship.. where maybe kids and a more exciting, adventurous relationship could happen. But my conscience is taking a huge toll on me because I really am a nice person, and I don't want to hurt my fiance. I feel so ****ty, and feel like I should stay with my fiance - but I also feel like that would be cheating myself because I would like a future with kids...
How do I proceed? Any advice?