It's not always possible to foresee complications with pregnancy...
Furthermore, your entire diatribe rests on the assumption that an "unborn child" is just that - a child, i.e. a human being - but that's the entire point under discussion. What you call selfism is, to others, a desire for freedom/privacy. Why SHOULDN'T I reserve the right to do as I please with my own body PROVIDED I AM DOING NO HARM TO OTHERS? I understand you will say this last premise - the unharmfulness one - is violated in the case of abortion, but it rests on you to show me that an embryo/fetus/whatevere is a "someone" to begin with. Until this is done, it's somewhat selfish of YOU to constrain the way that I behave just to satisfy your biased sense of justice.
Lastly, not all people who have intercourse are trying to get pregnant, just as not all people who smoke are trying to get cancer. Should lung cancer patients with a history of smoking be denied treatment? inb4ahumanbabyisnotacancer
Again, as I replied before to someone else, I said IF the mother knew she couldn't handle it (age, for example whether too young/old).
The bolded part: I think at the end of it all, that's the argument. While some still go back and forth about whether it's okay to kill an unborn the underlying thing here is, is it a someone. I'm not going to lie, I don't know how to PROVE to you that it is with out getting all emotional about it. Maybe I'm too tired to think of a good example, but I'll let us agree to disagree for now. Although honestly, after a few months, there is clearly a baby in there, for you to still deny it as a person is just ridiculous.
The smoking thing, oh God. Okay, no they shouldn't be denied treatment. A small, small part of me wishes so but as someone who aspires to work in the pulmonary fields I wouldn't (though I would give a stern talk pre-treatment....). But that still shows how irresponsible people are. You KNOW smoking can lead to cancer, just like you KNOW that unprotected sex (if it wasn't rape blablabla) can lead to pregnancy. Going through with it anyways until the last minute asking for a way out is what I've been taught my whole life as irresponsible.
But before you say it, yes I also KNOW that eating McD's and not working out, can lead to obesity. And if I were to get obese from it, and then get diabetes, one of the first words thrown my way will be 'irresponsible' even if I decide to take the easy way out with surgery.
Either way, with the last two examples, it's affecting the self and not others (although smoking does affect others....), with abortion you are directly stopping a life.
Whether it's alive at the time of abortion, or in the process.
1. It takes two people to make the child, and the woman might not always have been willing.
2. It WILL hurt the mother. It will hurt her socially, physically, psychologically, financially, and professionally.
Even if the fetus is a person with all the rights thereof, including the right to life, fetuses--like other people--don't always have the right to what is needed to sustain life. For example, I have the right not to be killed, and I might even have the right to food, shelter, and basic medical care, but that doesn't mean I have the right to one of your kidneys, even if I will die without it. Pregnancy is an extreme burden, especially in our society. Even if the fetus is a person with a right to life, it may not have a right to use the mother's body, especially in cases of nonconsensual sex.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Defense_of_Abortion
1. Again, with the rape thing. For the last time, I'm not for rape. You can't be serious right now. I'd like to think I've made it clear by now that there are exceptions and this is one of them.
2. Abortion can also hurt a woman physically, psychologically, and sometimes socially (Not many women walk around bragging about their abortions for a reason...). And I don't think it "hurts" professionally or financially. 'Hurt' is the wrong word. Every family is 'hurt' by an addition of a child because it is added costs. Overpopulation is a big deal, because it 'hurts' the economy for all these children to be born. It "Adds a responsibility", "makes things more difficult", it's "a bump in the road", but it's not oh-so-end-of-the-world (unless, I say again, it's rape/unhealthy blabla) that it should be killed.
Oh and the Wikipedia link, good read! I like to understand in a calm manner why people are pro-choice, besides the usual phrases people yell or write on signs. My objection is the "Responsibility" one. And the responses, in my opinion, are quite weak.