lonely & missing my bf

[MilkmanAl]

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I actually enjoy the distance because it gives me a lot of time to do my own things! There are always days where I wish he was living closer, but usually, that's only once or twice a month.

Errr...is that really a good thing?

 

[dude1344]

Errr...is that really a good thing?

If both of them are happy, why not? 🙂

I personally wouldn't call my situation "happy" and something that "I prefer", but we've managed to make it work for three years now. If both sides can manage expectations, it is possible to hang in there.

 

[Ilovewater]

Errr...is that really a good thing?

Haha yeah. Of course. Like the above poster says, as long as we're happy right? Every couple is different. It's kind of my way of dealing with the distance, so I don't mope around and think about that all day long. So, I have to make the best of the time I have. We wouldn't have lasted this long if we're both sad and depressed every day haha.

 

[musafirah]

I want to make a film about medical school.

A man sits alone in his apartment studying. He sips some coffee, reads silently, sips more coffee, paces around regurgitating things he just read to the wall, to himself in the mirror, to the plant in the corner... He stares out the window for huge stretches of time, saying nothing, in between reading and picking his nose. He masturbates joylessly once.

running time 90 minutes.

ahahahahaha... epic thanks for that

 

[S6MD]

Did you have a chat with him and determine exactly how that would be?

We chat often.

 

[bomgd3]

This:

 

[jcmcems]

I want to make a film about medical school.

A man sits alone in his apartment studying. He sips some coffee, reads silently, sips more coffee, paces around regurgitating things he just read to the wall, to himself in the mirror, to the plant in the corner... He stares out the window for huge stretches of time, saying nothing, in between reading and picking his nose. He masturbates joylessly once.

running time 90 minutes.

That's a great idea! Let's make it more like a documentary, be true to real life and all, and have it be 89 minutes 35 seconds of masturbating, 25 seconds for everything else.

 

[BloodySurgeon]

We've been doing this for 5 years, and so far, it's been really good! I actually enjoy the distance because it gives me a lot of time to do my own things! There are always days where I wish he was living closer, but usually, that's only once or twice a month. Plus, it's so much more fun and exciting when we get to finally see each other again after 5 or 6 months! You really do make the most of the time you have with each other. =]

I feel the same way, but having read this from someone else I cant help but say how depressing that is. I dont think my relationship could work out after not seeing the person for 6 months. My gf works a lot and has a decent support system, but im sure time takes its toll.

There are people, including doctors, asking my gf out on a day-to-day basis. I trust her with a bottle of tequilla locked in a room with brad pitt, but she likes to go out and she often gets frustrated by the situation we are in. Its definately a roller coster and I can say I have to put more time into the relationship than I would if I lived near her (which is hard for a medical student).

I look at the situation as her being more like a best friend then a gf and because I love her, I dont care to look or try to be with anyone else. How do other people cope with the situation, or air fees.

 

[Buccinator87]

Oh my goodness! You sound just like me! I don't normally reply to these things, but this is legit.

No, I think it's totally normal that you feel depressed. I remember last year (M1 year), I would want to cry at times because I was so lonely. Then, oddly enough, I would dwell so much on my loneliness that was terribly unproductive with my studies. I consequently would have to stay in on the weekends and try to catch up, further exaggerating my loneliness and boredom.

Here's what I found helps out a lot:
1) Be around people throughout the day. I've always been a huge home person before medical school. After class in undergrad, I would always go to my apartment and relax/study with the bf. At medical school, I would continue to go home after class, but of course, no one was there. As much as I hate studying at school, it really does help to be around people. And if I feel like getting away from the dark and dismal lib, I go to a cafe or park where's there's a lot of people around.
2) SKYPE CONSTANTLY! I saw a few other people saying this, but I skype with the bf for hours. A lot of times, we do our homework together, not saying a word. Other times, we'll both be watching a football game together, bonding by yelling at stupid plays and calls. Or he'll take a nap while I'm making dinner, and I just yell at him when he needs to wake up. It's sounds weird, but seriously, doing this, it's like weren't not a 2.5 hr plane ride apart.
3) Any chance to go out, go out with people. Even if you don't know them well, go to a place that serves a little EtOH, and being the wonderful social lubricant that it is, I'm sure you'll be friends in no time.
4) Get involved in a lot of extracurriculars where you don't have time to think about how lonely you are.

I've been dating my bf for four years and he goes to school 1200 miles away from me. Due to our busy schedules, we only see each other every 2-4 months. After I started doing these four things last year, my productivity soared, I was happier, and although my loneliness will never fully go away, it was numbed very well. Simply stated, just keep yourself occupied by being around people and skype! It will all work out!😎

 

[manowar rules]

I want to make a film about medical school.

A man sits alone in his apartment studying. He sips some coffee, reads silently, sips more coffee, paces around regurgitating things he just read to the wall, to himself in the mirror, to the plant in the corner... He stares out the window for huge stretches of time, saying nothing, in between reading and picking his nose. He masturbates joylessly once.

running time 90 minutes.

Holy schnikes, that is one of the funniest things I have ever read. And as a medical student now in a long distance relationship, it hits a bit close to home.

 

[medstudent87]

I want to make a film about medical school.

A man sits alone in his apartment studying. He sips some coffee, reads silently, sips more coffee, paces around regurgitating things he just read to the wall, to himself in the mirror, to the plant in the corner... He stares out the window for huge stretches of time, saying nothing, in between reading and picking his nose. He masturbates joylessly once.

running time 90 minutes.

yea, that's my life in a nutshell (i type this as I sit at my computer, alone, sipping some coffee. guess its time to joylessly jerk it lol)

 

[djmcheme]

You guys really are kidding yourselves. There are some things even the best of relationships can't survive. Med school and distance often fall into that category. Combining the two makes for one hell of a relationship strain. Best of luck to both of you, but sometimes things just don't work, regardless of how much you (and your SO) will them to. I'm honestly not trying to be a downer, but it's smart to have realistic expectations of what's going to happen to your relationship.

Agreed...This relationship is unlikely to last so why suffer? End it and move on. I promise...you will be OK...there is someone else out there and life will go on. Right now you are lonely because you can't stop thinking about your bf. This is holding you back hon. You need to take a step back and re-evaluate things. I am sure if you came into med school un-attached you would have made friends by now and maybe even met a cute guy or two. The blinders you are wearing right now are stunting your growth. You can do this right away and begin the healing process or you can keep moping around and let the situation control you. Eventually this relationship will probably fail but it may not be for another 6 months, 1 year, 2 years etc and all of that time will have been wasted feeling this way.

 

[futuredoctorfoodie]

One month into med school and I'm feeling miserable. The coursework isn't too bad, but I'm really lonely. My boyfriend is working 6 hours away so I only get to see him every 2-3 weeks. I've made "friends" here but no one I feel I can get close to and everytime I'm in my apartment trying to study I get distracted by how bored and alone I am.

How do you deal with a long distance relationship in med school? Everyday I get really depressed because I'm feeling bogged down and all I want is a giant hug.

My boyfriend works opposite schedules from me. He's asleep while I work and on days we both work (or if I have class) I don't get to see him. I call him on the way to and from work or school. I would find a way for you two to talk about your day at the very least. Snapchat the highlights from your day or send a text at the end of the day. I've also seen couples who keep letters to open "when you're lonely" "when you're tired" "when you're sad" and that kind of thing.

 

[Lannister]

My boyfriend works opposite schedules from me. He's asleep while I work and on days we both work (or if I have class) I don't get to see him. I call him on the way to and from work or school. I would find a way for you two to talk about your day at the very least. Snapchat the highlights from your day or send a text at the end of the day. I've also seen couples who keep letters to open "when you're lonely" "when you're tired" "when you're sad" and that kind of thing.

OP likely finished medical school many years ago.
Glad you're finding a way to make it work, though!

 

[futuredoctorfoodie]

OP likely finished medical school many years ago.
Glad you're finding a way to make it work, though!

So... I definitely did not see the date on this haha thanks!