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long distance relationships

Discussion in 'Medical Students - MD' started by Elizabeth, Apr 1, 2000.

  1. Elizabeth

    Elizabeth Junior Member 10+ Year Member

    Nov 24, 1999
    DuBois, PA
    Hi, next fall I will be moving halfway across the country away from my SO to go to medical school. Have any of you had long distance relationships while in medical school (successful or unsuccessful)? Any advice on how to make it work would be greatly appreciated!
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  3. Duo Degree

    Duo Degree Member 10+ Year Member

    Feb 28, 2000
    Ft. Worth, TX, USA
    It's hard! Fortunately, my girlfriend moved with me. It was a big step for her and I very much appreciate her effort to make our relationship work through medical school. I've already prepared her for the worst so that it won't end up too bad. I also let her read alot of books on the lives of medical students. I'm sure it will still be tough even though we'll be living in the same city! Good luck and I hope you'll have a understanding SO.
  4. carolyn

    carolyn Member 10+ Year Member

    Nov 15, 1999
    well, i'm not in med school yet.... but i've been away from my SO for over 8 months!!!! he's in boston and i'm in los angeles: 3000 miles away. it's tough.... but we manage to talk to each other EVERY NIGHT... we're a technologically savvy couple, so we email, instant message [AIM], use an internet audio phone [Firetalk], and do videoconferencing [Netmeeting] all the time. all it costs is a hundred bucks for the webcam and twenty bucks for a microphone headset, but it's worth it! plus, we save on long distance charges!! we've been able to get together every couple of months for holidays and what-not. i think the most important thing to consider is how strong your relationship with your SO is... you need a strong foundation in order for both partners to commit to "making the relationship" work despite the distance barrier and stresses and time vacuum of medical school. best of luck!
  5. drusso

    drusso Physician Moderator Emeritus Lifetime Donor Classifieds Approved 10+ Year Member

    Nov 21, 1998
    Over the rainbow
    Oh yeah, I've been away from my SO for 2 years! (She's in a PhD program and is, thankfully, finishing this summer...) Let me tell you that it takes an enormous amount of COMMUNICATION! I second all of Carolyn's comments and would like to add that online travel services like and Cheaptickets have been extremely helpful. It's very hard but can be done. Good luck...

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