So I recently started seeing someone who I have been friends with for a while. We are both going to medical school together and are finishing up our third year. He always says how compatible we are, we also similar goals and values in terms of our career, family and goals. He always makes subtle comments about future plans.
We are both in dedicated and have our step 2 exams in a month so we agreed to prioritize our studies. Prior to this we used to spend a lot of time together and things were great. Now we occasionally text and have not hung out in a few weeks which I was completely fine with since we both arent the biggest texters to begin with and I know he has been studying for literally 12 to 15 hours most days. I recentyl found out from our mutual friend who is also his roommate that he on a date someone this weekend and got with her. Apparently she is this young college student and is significantly younger than the both of us. While I understand that it is just a fling and a quick hookup, I do not know how to feel. I am hurt bc I really do think we are so compatible but I do not know if this is something I should be upset about if we are not official and he does not have the time this month to pursue something serious. I am also conflicted though bc if he had time to take her out why not want to spend that time with me. It makes me wonder if he just said these things to me to say it or if he genuinely cares for me.
Dedicated and board studying has been really intense and mentally draining and this situation has left me confused. I also do not know if I am being unreasonable or too harsh on him. I guess I really do think we are compatible and i can see him as someone I can be with long term and I know he has expressed this to me too.
I just wanted advice on how to go about this situation.
We are both in dedicated and have our step 2 exams in a month so we agreed to prioritize our studies. Prior to this we used to spend a lot of time together and things were great. Now we occasionally text and have not hung out in a few weeks which I was completely fine with since we both arent the biggest texters to begin with and I know he has been studying for literally 12 to 15 hours most days. I recentyl found out from our mutual friend who is also his roommate that he on a date someone this weekend and got with her. Apparently she is this young college student and is significantly younger than the both of us. While I understand that it is just a fling and a quick hookup, I do not know how to feel. I am hurt bc I really do think we are so compatible but I do not know if this is something I should be upset about if we are not official and he does not have the time this month to pursue something serious. I am also conflicted though bc if he had time to take her out why not want to spend that time with me. It makes me wonder if he just said these things to me to say it or if he genuinely cares for me.
Dedicated and board studying has been really intense and mentally draining and this situation has left me confused. I also do not know if I am being unreasonable or too harsh on him. I guess I really do think we are compatible and i can see him as someone I can be with long term and I know he has expressed this to me too.
I just wanted advice on how to go about this situation.
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