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Sorry, this is all I needed to see.he told me that he wants to be with someone closer but still wants to keep the door open between us. He said he would be willing to see me but when i asked to be exclusive he said no.
Maybe so, maybe not. Either way, someone who treated you as a burden rather than a priority or was unwilling to make compromises shouldn’t be worth your time.I am just so confused on why he invested so much into this to begin with. Is there a possibility he will come crawling back?
As a guy, he definitely sounds like he wants to "mess" around as an intern while also knowing he can rely on you in case he gets "bored" or needs attention. And we all know what he means by "still willing to see you"....lol. Best thing you can do is stop worrying about scenarios that could have saved your relationship, stop viewing his social media/stories and get back in the dating game. It's gonna be hard for the next couple of days trying to forget about him but that's how the game goes. Eventually, you'll think about him less and less and one day you'll wake up and it won't hurt at all.
It’s possible. Would you really want him back knowing what you know now?I am just so confused on why he invested so much into this to begin with. Is there a possibility he will come crawling back?
N=1 I found my future wife while dating in residency. Frankly, it’s a lot easier to start a relationship with someone local than to maintain a long distance relationship.Is it that easy to mess around in residency? I thought residency was busier than medical school? Almost feels like this man is looking at residency with rose colored glasses
This is context-dependent. Everyone has different preferences for their relationships. Generationally, younger (Gen Z/late millennial) are more receptive to open relationships. In the right context, if both partners are receptive and using strong communication, a conversation like this can be bridged, even if the relationship started monogamously.It’s possible. Would you really want him back knowing what you know now?
No matter who he has been up until now, I can’t overstate how disrespectful his asking you to become non exclusive at 6 months is. That’s showing his true colors. Maybe he will become more mature with time, but you should not sit around hoping it will happen.
I am just so confused on why he invested so much into this to begin with. Is there a possibility he will come crawling back?
Is it that easy to mess around in residency? I thought residency was busier than medical school? Almost feels like this man is looking at residency with rose colored glasses
I cannot reiterate this enough. The only thing I am going to add is that it might be a little longer than a few days. It might be a month or two. It really just depends on how much you like the guy. But it will get better. He will pop into your head less and less and the negativity will come less and less. But one day you will wake up and it won't hurt anymore. That day will come.As a guy, he definitely sounds like he wants to "mess" around as an intern while also knowing he can rely on you in case he gets "bored" or needs attention. And we all know what he means by "still willing to see you"....lol. Best thing you can do is stop worrying about scenarios that could have saved your relationship, stop viewing his social media/stories and get back in the dating game. It's gonna be hard for the next couple of days trying to forget about him but that's how the game goes. Eventually, you'll think about him less and less and one day you'll wake up and it won't hurt at all.
Fair enough in principal, but that usually comes either in the setting of a) a new relationship where both partners are still feeling things out, or b) an already committed relationship.This is context-dependent. Everyone has different preferences for their relationships. Generationally, younger (Gen Z/late millennial) are more receptive to open relationships. In the right context, if both partners are receptive and using strong communication, a conversation like this can be bridged, even if the relationship started monogamously.
While I do not personally prefer this lifestyle (and I have seen it end badly for others), think we should be careful in immediately dismissing the situation callously, and evaluate where our personal biases may be coloring our perceptions.