Lost her...

[dangerdog]

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A lot of people warned me before I went to pharmacy school that "99.9% of relationships" won't make it out of the first year. Well... sadly I have fell victim to that percentage! I had a girlfriend for 3.5 years and we had been through the distance thing before in undergrad but wow... Apparently I was more dedicated to my career than her, or so she says. This happened back in November but its definitely always on my mind - I know this is random as heck but how do you just draw a line between your social life and your profession? I tried to but it seemed I was always talking about something related to pharmacy whether it was work related or about school...

We really need a general discussions thread... Sorry for the randomness I just can't believe I was dumped over having a sense of purpose! 😡

Hey, OP, I know how it feels. I dumped my 6 year gf just before pharmacy school. The funny thing is, I turned down medical school for her to take up a B.S position because she didn't think our relationship could survive med school (and I bought it). Then years later, she said my $65K a year wasn't keeping up with the Jones. So she cheated with her boss (who's married with 2 kids). I finally caught her and booted her out of my house.

Personally, I don't think most girls have a clue what they want. They usually do what they feel like and then give excuses to rationalize their actions. You ask the same girl why she did it, she'll give you 10 different reasons at 10 different times. This is one of the reason that motivated me to go to pharmacy school -- no, not for the big bucks, but to focus on what I want not what others want.

In my book now, career ranks higher than family. For better or worse, your skills are yours, regardless of relationships or employer. With the divorce rate at 50%, you really can't count on the other person to always be there for you. Life taught me that family IS important, but NOT more important than yourself. Because if a girl really wants a future with you, then she should know what's good for your is good for her.

Anyway, once back in pharmacy school, you'll be amazed how fast person with a new goal can recover. First girl didn't work out, but the second one understood me. She put up with me putting school first and wanting a prenup. After more than 2 years, she earned my trust and love, and we are planning on getting married.

The moral of the story? A girl who wants a future with you won't stand in your way; those who try to rein your in are probably doing it for selfish reasons.