bigbuddieMD,
i feel your pain. but, don't blame it on "fate", "luck", or etc. you can't compare yourself with someone JUST b/c you heard a number for GPA, MCAT, and state of residency. you were not there to read their essay, their extra's, or their interview. in other words...don't be a Hater.
it's like what Sean Connery said in "The Rock". "welcome to the rock!"....uh, wait. no. oh!
"winners go home and fu@k the prom queen. losers complain about their BEST." and it's true. who even mentions "doing their best"???
and the Dean of Admissions at MCV was super informative when i interviewed there. coimpletely dispelled the msytique of admissions, and let me know that it was more than a smoke-filled room where The Man just make arbitrary decisions.
i just did a post-bacch a Finch/CMS. and believe me...i've talked to a lot of post-bacch'ers, M1s, M2s, and i talk to the faculty and administrators. it is NOT so arbitrary or up to Fate.
true...i look around, and ask myself...how the hell did this guy get in? he is failing his M1 classes, and doesn't even care? and many times, i asked how did so-and-so get in, and ~i~ did NOT get in???
but honestly, i've had to look with candid eyes at myself, and see how my resume and application really stood. don't talk to all your friends and family that say, "you'll be a great doctor".
i heard that. and i can honestly say, that when i applied last yr, and the yr before, all to no avail, that i was NOT ready. sure, i felt ready, i KNEW i was mentally capable, etc. but...my resume was not as strong. my mindset was not there yet. etc, etc.
so don't hate. just keep trying. but be honest with yourself, and do not try to kid or delude yourself. when you look at avg GPA and avg MCATs....those are AVG's. that means there are tons of people MORE qualified, and that those AT or BELOW the mean, usually have something else that is extraordinary about them. depending on the school, it could be that they published papers as authors, they dug ditches in Guatemala, or started a free clinic in south central LA. or maybe they are underrep'd, disadv'd, or something else.
you can't know that, and you can't "guess" why committees are trying to "guess" at. b/c yes, AdCom's have to GUESS at who will be the student that most fits with their mission and philosophy. but is it "luck" or "fate" that guides their guess? maybe. if that makes you feel better, then use that euphemism. but don't be a Hater, (i used to be the bitter-est and most hater-rific of them all. but that's the wrong approach).
i know it sucks to wait, and to be denied, but you have to keep the faith, and you have to be honest with yourself. re-eval yourself, and improve. but harbor no false illusions about yourself or your app. that would only hurt you. then apply again. and then f@CK the prom queen at night!