Med Students don't have time for a relationship?

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Depends. How hot are you on a scale of 0-10?
 
sak91 said:
The guy that I was seeing over the summer basically told me that he doesn't have much time for me anymore. He's a second year medical student. Every time I bring up plans to hang out, he's busy with something or he needs to study. My friend who is a first year told me that she doesn't see how anyone in med school could have time to date someone. Is this true? Opinions from current students?
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You'll have time, if you make time. Perhaps those people just have poor time management skills?
 
If you are in a committed long-term relationship when you enter school and your partner is not extremely needy there is no reason why it can't work.

I can see why it might be difficult to START a relationship in med school with another person who isn't a medical student. If they really want to however, they could still make it work.
 
Time in medical school is what you make of it.
 
In short, he doesn't like you enough (or think you're cute enough) to pursue in the heat of med school. If he thought you were hot and had a great personality, assuming he was looking for a relationship, then he'd definitely make time for you
 
Eh, if this guy is giving you the "I don't have time" bit...trust me, you need to drop him like a hot potato and find something else to fixate on. Even President Clinton had time for Monica Lewinski when he wanted to. Don't embarrass yourself. On to the next one, sweetie.
 
If you care about someone enough, you'll make time for them.
It's as simple as that.
 
if you gave him a home-cooked meal and a blowjob every time he came over, you'd still have a boyfriend.
 
sak91 said:
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A relationship can definitely work and grow during medical school. My husband is in his fourth year of med. school, going into rad. onc. (so he studies a ton and works very hard). While his schedule is busy, we made time to date during first and second year, and even get married (and go on a honeymoon!) in the short break between second and third year.
If he really wanted the relationship to work, he'd make time. Heck, if guys in the military can make relationships work while overseas, then med student doing a rotation in surgery can make a relationship work. Sounds like his "I don't have time" is a dumb excuse to me, so I'd move on and find a guy who respects you enough to be honest with you.
 
Think about all the times you have said "Sorry, I can't go out with you, I'm super busy on Friday" to a guy.


Yeah, it's just like that.
 
There can't be this many guys going into the medical profession with such serious misogynistic mental issues. Can there?
 
We can joke around about being misogynistic but we can't joke around about being racist.
 
Anastomoses said:
There can't be this many guys going into the medical profession with such serious misogynistic mental issues. Can there?
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it isn't misogyny to want a girlfriend who can cook you a meal and give you a blowjob

drop the victim act
 
Anastomoses said:
There can't be this many guys going into the medical profession with such serious misogynistic mental issues. Can there?
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BJ+Sammich=misogyny? Why?

Methinks you troll -_-
 
I'd say well over 70% of med students from my school are dating someone/are married and close to 100% of the female med students are in some form of a relationship.

Med school just seems to attract conventional-risk averse people/boring people
 
PrideNeverDie said:
it isn't misogyny to want a girlfriend who can cook you a meal and give you a blowjob

drop the victim act
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There's no victim act. You're acting like a twit and I'm not a victim of your stupidity so I'm not sure how anyone became a victim. Trying to tell a random female (whose circumstances you're clueless about) that the source of her failure to secure a boy is her unwillingness to perform fellatio and to cook is PURE MISOGYNY. How dumb do you have to be not to see that?
 
Anastomoses said:
There's no victim act. You're acting like a twit and I'm not a victim of your stupidity so I'm not sure how anyone became a victim. Trying to tell a random female (whose circumstances you're clueless about) that the source of her failure to secure a boy is her unwillingness to perform fellatio and to cook is PURE MISOGYNY. How dumb do you have to be not to see that?
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she came on this forum to ask for our opinion. you are clueless to her circumstances as well so the problem could be lack of blowjobs and home cooked meals. yet, you jumped to conclusions and called me a misogynist.

blowjobs and cooking don't degrade women. plenty of women who cook and give blowjobs are loved and respected by their significant others. the only one insinuating that these qualities make women inferior is you. doesn't that make you the misogynist?
 
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Arkangeloid said:
Think about all the times you have said "Sorry, I can't go out with you, I'm super busy on Friday" to a guy.


Yeah, it's just like that.
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This.

If he liked you enough he'd make time for you.

And on PND's point, he probably would like you more if he had a home-cooked meal and a BJ waiting for him everytime he came over.
 
Anastomoses said:
There's no victim act. You're acting like a twit and I'm not a victim of your stupidity so I'm not sure how anyone became a victim. Trying to tell a random female (whose circumstances you're clueless about) that the source of her failure to secure a boy is her unwillingness to perform fellatio and to cook is PURE MISOGYNY. How dumb do you have to be not to see that?
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If there is one thing I have learned in SDN it's that yes they really are that dumb. The cluelessness here knows no bounds
 
touchpause13 said:
If there is one thing I have learned in SDN it's that yes they really are that dumb. The cluelessness here knows no bounds
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the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. It's been true since the dawn of time. If you think that's misogyny, then so be it. I cook for my wife and pleasure her too. is that also sexist?
 
touchpause13 said:
Right because bashing someone for being a pre med on a pre med forum is a true testament to your vast wealth of knowledge
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this is allopathic
gain insight into the male mind
get into med school and start classes
then your opinion will be valid here
 
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lol...reading this thread was a great use of my time at the OB/Gyn's office today...thanks guys 😉
 
touchpause13 said:
Right because bashing someone for being a pre med on a pre med forum is a true testament to your vast wealth of knowledge
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This a medical student forum. Says so right at the top. "Medical Student Forums > Allopathic".
 
VisionaryTics said:
This a medical student forum. Says so right at the top. "Medical Student Forums > Allopathic".
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Sorry im doing this on my fone it doesn't show it that way. I just click on titles of threads that look interesting and assumed it was preallo since I recognized a lot of the posters from there. :shrug:
 
He would have time if he wanted to. If he had just started first year he might get a pass for panicking or something, but if he is year 2 and claims to not be able to make time, he just doesn't want to.

The majority of my classmates are in a serious relationship, engaged or married. A number of them have kids. It's all possible.
 
as1212559 said:
He would have time if he wanted to. If he had just started first year he might get a pass for panicking or something, but if he is year 2 and claims to not be able to make time, he just doesn't want to.

The majority of my classmates are in a serious relationship, engaged or married. A number of them have kids. It's all possible.
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Can you imagine that---set to make 250k+ for life and you're tied down with a wife and kids?? Why do med students have no concept of perspective.
 
qldman said:
Can you imagine that---set to make 250k+ for life and you're tied down with a wife and kids?? Why do med students have no concept of perspective.
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I don't get you.

Besides, the gubment could slash that $250K to $90K 👎

Hope that doesn't happen though.
 
Cyal said:
I don't get you.

Besides, the gubment could slash that $250K to $90K 👎

Hope that doesn't happen though.
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I don't know about you man, but for me, part of the nice aspects of having disposable income and a nice place is to get more and hotter women and to have more and more debauchery . You have your entire life to get married and live a boring life, why waste it during the best years of your life?
 
I don't understand the assumption that as soon as you get married your life turns to ****.
 
touchpause13 said:
I don't understand the assumption that as soon as you get married your life turns to ****.
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Because you lose independence and individuality and replace it with complacency and a bit of security.

And the changes that occur between 20 to 25 let alone 25 to 30 are enormous---I cannot imagine being with the same person or being tied down in those years when you are still growing as a person. I mean I honestly cannot imagine how it could work.
 
qldman said:
Because you lose independence and individuality and replace it with complacency and a bit of security.

And the changes that occur between 20 to 25 let alone 25 to 30 are enormous---I cannot imagine being with the same person or being tied down in those years when you are still growing as a person. I mean I honestly cannot imagine how it could work.
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Marry someone who doesn't suck at life?

ANYONE who thinks marrying is being "complacent" is someone who would be boring regardless of single vs. relationship. If you think that your life will be boring in a LTR, it will be a personal choice that YOU make. Remember, it's all on YOU. If it's your partner's fault, don't blame relationships, blame them for being sucky.

AKA a copout excuse.
 
qldman said:
Because you lose independence and individuality and replace it with complacency and a bit of security.

And the changes that occur between 20 to 25 let alone 25 to 30 are enormous---I cannot imagine being with the same person or being tied down in those years when you are still growing as a person. I mean I honestly cannot imagine how it could work.
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I just have a fundamental different view of the world than you do. I dont really feel like ive lost anything being married. Im a better person when im with my partner and we've lived together for years.

I do understand that its not for everyone, that's fine. I just am rather annoyed with the attitude on this thread that not getting married is inherently better. Obviously what works for me wouldn't work for you, which is totally fine, but it doesn't make either one of us better than the other.
 
qldman said:
Because you lose independence and individuality and replace it with complacency and a bit of security.

And the changes that occur between 20 to 25 let alone 25 to 30 are enormous---I cannot imagine being with the same person or being tied down in those years when you are still growing as a person. I mean I honestly cannot imagine how it could work.
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Umm what?

Speak for youself dude. You can grow together with someone. When you get past 30 and have "grown as an individual" you will be set in your ways. Basically an old curmudgeon. Good luck trying to mesh with someone when you become so rigid in your old man ways. I prefer growing with somebody, because I know I will change from 30-35 and 35-40 and every five years after that. So whatever dude. PS I got the married the most carrying, friendly, gorgeous women who makes a buttload of money. The trick is you gotta nab em when they are young or you get left with the leftovers. Sorry. By the way if when you mean by complacent, you mean match in a competitive specialty in one of the most competitive locations, then cool.
 
qldman said:
I don't know about you man, but for me, part of the nice aspects of having disposable income and a nice place is to get more and hotter women and to have more and more debauchery . You have your entire life to get married and live a boring life, why waste it during the best years of your life?
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Fundamentally different worldview bro. If that is your thing, cool. But definitely not for me.

I look it like this. I am a resident making 50K a year with opportunity to moonlight and make a cool 10-25K a year extra starting next year. My wife makes 6 figures and we have plenty of disposable income. I want to be young and travel the world with my soulmate while I'm young and able to enjoy places better. Not when I'm an old dude, I mean sure I want to travel and spend money when I'm old too, but I want to do it during the best years of my life with someone I care about. Not some random chick that is in it for the $. I see no fulfillment in that. Maybe you do.
 
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