Meeting non-med students

[sunflower79]

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What do you all do to meet people outside of school? I find it kind of a challenge because I moved to a new state for school and my circle of friends are all from school.

peace 🙂
sunflower

 

[uclacrewdude]

work out

 

[stomper627]

Ditto on the work out....also study at other colleges nearby, coffee shops, cafes, etc. Also try studying in a bar for happy hour.
Best bet is still the gym.
stomper

 

[::Seabass::]

our gym IS the medical center gym

only old creepy guys talk to you in coffee shops

I agree sunflower, this is a VERY hard task.

 

[surge]

Actually, it's one of the biggest reasons I chose Yale.

The med school is a part of the campus, and New Haven is a college town.
I always meet people at coffee shops, studying in the undergrad/other grad school libraries, attending plays, random lectures, concerts and other events on campus. Also, eating in the undergrad/other grad cafeterias. Some of the people I hang out with now I've met totally randomly on the shuttle. I'm also a grad affiliate for one of the undergrad residential colleges.

Man, I just realized how much I love the university feel - good thing, too, given that I'll probably never get out into the real world. 😀

 

[uclacrewdude]

Originally posted by seaworthc
our gym IS the medical center gym

only old creepy guys talk to you in coffee shops

I agree sunflower, this is a VERY hard task.

yeah dude, most med center gyms suck butt, so go to a real gym. this actually doesn't help me out very much, b/c i hate working out in gyms instead of outside ...

 

[Jalby]

Why would you want to meet non-med students?? I'd say clubs and gym and all of your life outside of school.

 

[stomper627]

Originally posted by seaworthc
our gym IS the medical center gym

only old creepy guys talk to you in coffee shops

I agree sunflower, this is a VERY hard task.

Get a real gym membership somewhere. Most school gyms are not that great, but good for people who are not serious about working out.
As far as "old creepy guys"? No, get some self confidence and hit on a guy yourself. Not difficult...why is it that we are suppose to initiate the conversation? Arent women liberated?
Its not hard to meet people...you just have to go to places to meet them or be seen. Gyms, churches, work, beaches, parks, libraries, bars, clubs, social clubs, ski slopes, etc.
Get out of the nerd life....and into a real one...or quit complaining.
stomper

 

[uclacrewdude]

Originally posted by Jalby
Why would you want to meet non-med students?? I'd say clubs and gym and all of your life outside of school.

why would you wanna be around the same people 24/7?

 

[KyGrlDr2B]

I'd imagine this would be really hard to do. I moved to a different state to start medical school and have basically lost touch with most of my old friends. My high school friends took very different paths than I did (not going to school, getting married early, etc) and I don't even know where most of them are anymore. The few people I still talk to from college are also in med school, but at different schools, so it's basically via email only. So needless to say, I have zero friends outside of school. Add to that the fact that my boyfriend is also in med school and I can't escape this place! 😱 Even though I like my new friends, I don't want to hang out with them 24/7 because it reminds me of school. It really sucks.

 

[DW]

Originally posted by uclacrewdude
why would you wanna be around the same people 24/7?

exactly. i took me about a month into my first semester of med school before seeing the same people all the time drove me insane. While some of my classmates are really cool people and we hang out a lot, i've kept my own healthy distance from the class in general to maintain what little sanity i have. Got any hobbies, running, music, art, volunteer work, whatever? Does your alma mater have a young alumni group anywhere in the city your med school is located? Find an interest group, however random it is, in your town and join it. I dont have a gym membership right now cause the nyc clubs are $$$$, but they are a great place to meet guys and girls alike. I'm not the most extroverted person in the world, but it really isnt hard to just go out and meet people who share other non med school interests with you if you give it some effort.

of course, being in new york makes it a little easier, but whatever 😉

and stomper makes a great point.....sometimes you ladies need to take the initiative, its 2004 people....you might get some suprising results 🙂

 

[Jalby]

Dude. It was a joke.

 

[GoodMonkey]

Originally posted by DW
and stomper makes a great point.....sometimes you ladies need to take the initiative, its 2004 people....you might get some suprising results 🙂

i am all about initiative. 😉

i have a part-time job, which helps w/the friends-outside-school thing, b/c i can socialize w/some of them that i like ... i also sing in a chorale on campus (mixed university chorale - i think there is one other med student in the group of about 120) ... i am involved w/a local nature preservation/ecology group and run on occasion with a running club or two in the area. and never underestimate the power of a friend-of-a-friend. 🙂 if you are spending all your time w/med school people, maybe some of those med school people have friends outside of school ... when you invite your friend somewhere, tell them to bring along a friend if they'd like. social circles tend to expand slowly, but they can expand. 🙂

 

[tofurious]

Match.com
HotorNot.com
AmericanSingles.com

And there's that for Harvard kids only site...

 

[stomper627]

Originally posted by tofurious
Match.com
HotorNot.com
AmericanSingles.com

And there's that for Harvard kids only site...

Ah yes...internet dating...for those that are too shy to ask in person, or too nerdy to go out and socialize in person. IT IS NOT HARD TO MEET PEOPLE!!!! YOU HAVE TO GO TO PLACES TO DO IT!!! PUT DOWN THE BOOK FOR 1 HR/ DAY AND GO SOMEPLACE WHERE PEOPLE ARE!!!!!
F@#$ing dorks!!!

 

[cjw0918]

As cheesey as it sounds, internet dating may yield a few surprises. In November of my first year of med school, I posted an ad in the personals section on yahoo.com. It was a normal ad with a picture, nothing racy or too exciting. I was basically just looking to meet some non-med people to get away from that whole med school scene. I got lots of replies, mostly from very dorky lonely guys and a few from unsavory married slimeballs who were very easy to weed out. I picked three seemingly normal, nice guys who had really funny e-mails and decent pictures and starting dating them one at a time. The first two were both very nice guys, but no chemistry. The third guy was a mechanical engineer, funny as hell, and cute as he could be. Our first date was Feb 14 of 02 and we just got married Oct 19 03. It was really the last thing I expected. Another girl in my class did the same thing and now she is marrying a great guy in April. At the least I found reading the replies entertaining and lucky me, I found a great husband. You never know until you try. Good luck!

 

[Jalby]

Originally posted by stomper627
Ah yes...internet dating...for those that are too shy to ask in person, or too nerdy to go out and socialize in person. IT IS NOT HARD TO MEET PEOPLE!!!! YOU HAVE TO GO TO PLACES TO DO IT!!! PUT DOWN THE BOOK FOR 1 HR/ DAY AND GO SOMEPLACE WHERE PEOPLE ARE!!!!!
F@#$ing dorks!!!

Please. I've met some of the hottest women on internet site and they have taken me (with their contacts) into some of the best clubs in Los Angeles. And if you like Asain women, there are millions of hot ones online. Judging from your social skills, I'm not sure you would be able to meet many cool people in person.

Websites I would recommend, in order:

Free sites:

myspace.com
friendster.com
www.blackplanet.com

Small fees

www.hotornot.com
www.lavalife.com

large fees
www.americansingles.com
www.match.com

 

[::Seabass::]

Originally posted by stomper627
Get a real gym membership somewhere. Most school gyms are not that great, but good for people who are not serious about working out.
As far as "old creepy guys"? No, get some self confidence and hit on a guy yourself. Not difficult...why is it that we are suppose to initiate the conversation? Arent women liberated?
Its not hard to meet people...you just have to go to places to meet them or be seen. Gyms, churches, work, beaches, parks, libraries, bars, clubs, social clubs, ski slopes, etc.
Get out of the nerd life....and into a real one...or quit complaining.
stomper

holy sh1t, I'm partying my ass off in New Orleans and come back to this?!?!?

FIRST our gyms rock. second I used to play soccer in college, DIVISION I. I'm not as hard core as I was, but I don't like sissy stuff, I use the gym for weights and generally run outside.

SECOND I don't have self confidence issues, and I usually have a couple guys pursuing me. have you lived in Houston? it isn't a single friendly town. I met more guys in my first 2 hrs out in New Orleans this weekend than I have in a whole semester in Houston (and no, I wasn't on Bourbon St). people are so damn uptight here (well the places our class has discovered to go out so far)

THIRD I'm a lucky one, I probably only have to study half as much as many of my classmates to get in the mid 80s so I'm really trying to find stuff to do, I even went to the museum and I'm not even that much into art. thats how bad its getting.

damn, I got some guy begging to see me again from Friday night, and guess who brought him into the conversation I was having....

 

[care bear]

Originally posted by Jalby

www.blackplanet.com

jalby, aren't you white?

haha, it's cool to be an equal-opportunity dater 🙂

 

[Jalby]

Originally posted by care bear
jalby, aren't you white?

haha, it's cool to be an equal-opportunity dater 🙂

Once you go black.......

Remember, I was the one who said that your icon was friggen hot.

 

[care bear]

haha i can change it back to naomi if you like. or you can just find much better pics of her plastered all over the internet 🙂

 

[Jalby]

Originally posted by care bear
haha i can change it back to naomi if you like. or you can just find much better pics of her plastered all over the internet 🙂

That's alright. I like the pics of you just as well. Now if you could just convince BushBaby to change her icon back...

 

[care bear]

Originally posted by Jalby
Now if you could just convince BushBaby to change her icon back...

thanks. 🙂

and hm, maybe if *you* were willing to grace the pages of sdn w/ a personalized avatar, bb and others might become a little more willing 😉

 

[Jalby]

If I e-mail a pic, can you show me how?? I have no idea.

 

[carrigallen]

we've seen Jalby's hot pics in the lounge already. 😉

 

[Jalby]

Originally posted by carrigallen
we've seen Jalby's hot pics in the lounge already. 😉

Those are still around??? I thought they were long gone. That was like from 2 years ago.

 

[care bear]

Originally posted by carrigallen
we've seen Jalby's hot pics in the lounge already. 😉

when? i must have missed it. 🙁


you have to shrink it to 50x50 pixels (which is teensy!) and then in your user menu under 'options', there's a space for custom user avatar.

in the meantime though, the lounge could use a re-post!