Monster Premed Roommate?

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I already got all the advice I need from the people that commented on this thread before a bunch of people started commenting nonsense, especially the last few comments.

Thank you all so much for the great advice you gave me! I highly appreciate it.

And for those of you that commented nonsense, just mind your own business and get out of my thread. Thank you 🙂
 
Mikedavis said:
I already got all the advice I need from the people that commented on this thread before a bunch of people started commenting nonsense, especially the last few comments.
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Except for a couple joke posts, I don’t think anyone gave you bad advice. You seem very sensitive and easily bothered, which is probably why your bully of a roommate is harassing you so much. That doesn’t justify his ****ty behavior, but it does provide you a way to slow it down or stop it until you can move out. Just don’t be a push over.

Thank you all so much for the great advice you gave me! I highly appreciate it.

And for those of you that commented nonsense, just mind your own business and get out of my thread. Thank you 🙂
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That’s not how it works. You posted on a public forum. You don’t get to control how people respond to it. If you don’t like what they say, just ignore them. It’s a useful feature.
 
Good lord, grow up and stop listening to him. Why do you give importance to what he says? Especially after you learned of his intentions.

Stop talking to him and request to move to another room (at my school it was possible so check it).


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Matthew9Thirtyfive said:
Except for a couple joke posts, I don’t think anyone gave you bad advice. You seem very sensitive and easily bothered, which is probably why your bully of a roommate is harassing you so much. That doesn’t justify his ****ty behavior, but it does provide you a way to slow it down or stop it until you can move out. Just don’t be a push over.



That’s not how it works. You posted on a public forum. You don’t get to control how people respond to it. If you don’t like what they say, just ignore them. It’s a useful feature.
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Yes, I admit the fact that I’m super sensitive and that’s why I get bothered by people’s words. But I’m trying my hardest to be thick skinned and not get bothered by people’s words. It’s a work in progress. Thank you for the advice, though.
 
Mikedavis said:
Yes, I admit the fact that I’m super sensitive and that’s why I get bothered by people’s words. But I’m trying my hardest to be thick skinned and not get bothered by people’s words. It’s a work in progress. Thank you for the advice, though.
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The fact that you see room for improvement in yourself and not just everyone else is already a win. You’ll get there. Just don’t let you roommate ruin you for being a good person. Not everyone is a douche canoe like him.
 
I'm so sorry for your horrible experience!

You will find SDN to be a great tool and from now on if you have questions about ECs, academics, or volunteering we will be your best friend. I can't guarantee everyone will give the best advice but I can guarantee the consensus will give you the greatest advice. Welcome to SDN and forget the toxicity of the gunner environment!

Although this was an untimely experience to run into your first gunner, good premeds do exist. My bestfriends are premeds/former premeds and I am so glad to have met them! I agree with @Catalystik on keeping your premed ambitions private. Trust nobody in college until they have given you reason to trust them. When making new friends throw out small trust bait to see if a person is worth trusting or if they are a gunner. This consists of asking for help on a low stakes task and seeing how a person behaves. If a person has given you reason to place trust them then tell them you are premed only if it will be to both of your advantages. If it will breed feelings of contempt or jealousy then keep things private!
 
Let's talk about reputation:

It only matters for professors and your loved ones/friends. If you are a good person then the perception others might have due to gossip does not matter. Although some people here are recommending sabotaging this guy focus on bettering yourself. Forget about him, move out, and move forwards.

Good luck! And I hope we can be part of your journey.
 
Sunbodi said:
Let's talk about reputation:

It only matters for professors and your loved ones/friends. If you are a good person then the perception others might have due to gossip does not matter. Although some people here are recommending sabotaging this guy focus on bettering yourself. Forget about him, move out, and move forwards.

Good luck! And I hope we can be part of your journey.
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Exactly. Don’t stoop to his level. He’ll just beat you with experience. Just be a good person, and your rep will be fine.
 
Out of nowhere, he just asked me when my birthday is then I asked him why he wanted to know. He then told me that he’s just curious, so I said to him, “ I’m not comfortable answering that question.” Then he asked me if I think he’ll do something wrong. He knew the answer, of course I knew he’s planning something evil. So I just told him that I don’t know him that well to tell him my birthdate. His questions are so blatant and show how much he is jealous of me.

And the thing that really makes me sad is that everyone thinks he’s a good person just because he doesn’t talk much, and when he does, he always says something that would make people say “awww”
Don’t get me wrong, he might have good intentions when he asked me about my birthday. But considering all of the evil things he did, I cannot trust him anymore under any circumstances.
 
Tenk said:
Quit being a chump and call him out on all this crap.
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How??? I don’t know what to say to him. What would you say to him if you were me?
 
Mikedavis said:
How??? I don’t know what to say to him. What would you say to him if you were me?
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Part of being an adult is having adult conversations. Calling someone out on their crap is literally just letting them know that you know what they’re doing and don’t appreciate it.

I would just tell him that yoi flat out don’t trust him given his behavior. He lied about the volunteering thing, tries to sabotage your academics, and is generally just an underhanded person. Until and unless he decides to change his behavior, you’d prefer that he just leaves you be.
 
I finally told him that I will not respond to any of his academic-related questions when he asked me how many hours I studied for an exam we have tomorrow. I told him that I have seen many things he did that caused me to have trust issues. I was so calm when I told him that I’ll never trust him. Oh, and we were eating lunch when we had this conversation and it was so awkward afterwards. We got in our dorm after we finished eating and the only word he said was see you. He took his backpack with him. I think he went to the library. Good for him.

I hope he will not bother me from now on, even if he does bother me, I would play it Low key aggressive. I hate being mean, so my only option is to be thick-skinned and laugh at every move he does to sabotage my educational career.
 
Mikedavis said:
I finally told him that I will not respond to any of his academic-related questions when he asked me how many hours I studied for an exam we have tomorrow. I told him that I have seen many things he did that caused me to have trust issues. I was so calm when I told him that I’ll never trust him. Oh, and we were eating lunch when we had this conversation and it was so awkward afterwards. We got in our dorm after we finished eating and the only word he said was see you. He took his backpack with him. I think he went to the library. Good for him.

I hope he will not bother me from now on, even if he does bother me, I would play it Low key aggressive. I hate being mean, so my only option is to be thick-skinned and laugh at every move he does to sabotage my educational career.
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Good start. Just stick to your guns and move out when you get the chance.
 
Mikedavis said:
I finally told him that I will not respond to any of his academic-related questions when he asked me how many hours I studied for an exam we have tomorrow. I told him that I have seen many things he did that caused me to have trust issues. I was so calm when I told him that I’ll never trust him. Oh, and we were eating lunch when we had this conversation and it was so awkward afterwards. We got in our dorm after we finished eating and the only word he said was see you. He took his backpack with him. I think he went to the library. Good for him.

I hope he will not bother me from now on, even if he does bother me, I would play it Low key aggressive. I hate being mean, so my only option is to be thick-skinned and laugh at every move he does to sabotage my educational career.
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Like that. Just find a new roommate. Guy is a loser.
 
Matthew9Thirtyfive said:
I think he meant that’s what you should say lol.
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Oh, I thought it was for me. I was practicing being a thick-skinned person as ya’ll told me. I was surprised when he said that after giving me a ton of advice.

I’m afraid I cannot say that to him...lol... I don’t have that much courage to be mean.

Thank y’all so much for the great advice! Wish you all the best!
 
Catalystik said:
I wondered too. It seems like OP just filled in random numbers, as they aren't his.
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I don’t even know what y’all are referring to. Maybe I made a mistake when I created my account.
 
Disagree with whoever said living in the dorms is a good experience. Living in the dorms is awful. You either get a ****ty roommate or you get obnoxious people next door. Definitely try to get a single if your dorms offer that for a reasonable price.

Edit: I guess this varies from school to school. I go to a party school and people go to the bars on any given day so that’s my perception. Getting a single is still a safe bet.
 
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Mikedavis said:
I don’t even know what y’all are referring to. Maybe I made a mistake when I created my account.
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Under your username, we see the date you joined SDN, number of posts, and then MDApps 5678 and MDApps 1234. Neither belongs to you.

To remove them go to your account and click Preferences. Scroll down to the MDApps area and delete the numbers.
 
doctorcocter said:
Disagree with whoever said living in the dorms is a good experience. Living in the dorms is awful. You either get a ****ty roommate or you get obnoxious people next door. Definitely try to get a single if your dorms offer that for a reasonable price.

Edit: I guess this varies from school to school. I go to a party school and people go to the bars on any given day so that’s my perception. Getting a single is still a safe bet.
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Varies school to school and person to person. I know people who loved their time in the dorms. I tried it for one semester and absolutely hated it.
 
[Time] said:
Well damn, I take it back!

I got a weird feeling the OP was trolling, but you're right.
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Why would I even want to troll? If you are this negative, keep your negativity to yourself and leave me alone. Thanks! 🙂
 
Mikedavis said:
Why would I even want to troll? If you are this negative, keep your negativity to yourself and leave me alone. Thanks! 🙂
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Don't try to suddenly be assertive with us. Try it on your roommate.

Also, people are pointing out inconsistencies. They tend to reveal the truth
 
chaim123 said:
Don't try to suddenly be assertive with us. Try it on your roommate.

Also, people are pointing out inconsistencies. They tend to reveal the truth
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You’re tripping, darling. The only thing I know about SDN is asking questions and responding answers. The terms ya’ll are using confuse me. Just because you have a negative mentality that does not mean I am too. If you cannot see the positive side of things, then you should be examining yourself first. You’re just full of garbage. Please get out of my thread and mind your own negative business. I’m sure you have plenty of stuff to take care of, so why waste your time and my time?

Oh, that feels so good to rant on someone trashy like you.

Bye!
 
chaim123 said:
Don't try to suddenly be assertive with us. Try it on your roommate.

Also, people are pointing out inconsistencies. They tend to reveal the truth
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Just so you know, just because I don’t choose to be b****y, does not mean I can’t be one. It just takes me a really long time to show my evil side cause I am way too patient. I think that’s why my roommate is thinking that I don’t know his backstabbing- cause I act like nothing happened.

Anyways, I don’t need more comments on this topic. The people that are extremely positive and nice, people that I would consider “real doctors” have me such a great advice, and people who are just plain rude judged me on something that I am not even aware of. Please, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything.

Thank you all loving people!i highly appreciate it.

To all trolls that keep asking me questions that I don’t even know the answers to, keep trolling. I wanna say the b word, but I’m holding my nastiness to myself unlike you all.
 
Mikedavis said:
You’re tripping, darling. The only thing I know about SDN is asking questions and responding answers. The terms ya’ll are using confuse me. Just because you have a negative mentality that does not mean I am too. If you cannot see the positive side of things, then you should be examining yourself first. You’re just full of garbage. Please get out of my thread and mind your own negative business. I’m sure you have plenty of stuff to take care of, so why waste your time and my time?

Oh, that feels so good to rant on someone trashy like you.

Bye!
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Please don't take out your frustrations on people who have already been in your position, have made it through, and are succeeding in this field. You came here for advice - some of it will be blunt, some of it may not make you feel good, but anyone on this site who is a med student, resident, fellow, or attending has been where you are, and has done something to get through it that you obviously need too.
 
chaim123 said:
Please don't take out your frustrations on people who have already been in your position, have made it through, and are succeeding in this field. You came here for advice - some of it will be blunt, some of it may not make you feel good, but anyone on this site who is a med student, resident, fellow, or attending has been where you are, and has done something to get through it that you obviously need too.
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Yes, but sometimes when people make assumptions and judge you for it, you really feel the urge to call them out. I understand what you’re saying and you’re absolutely correct, but some people who are just so negative just throw their negative energy at you and someone needs to stand up and say something about it. I wrote many times that I don’t even know anything about SDN except from asking and answering. Yes, I created my account when I was in high school, but was very ambitious and eager to become and doctor. I must have pressed the wrong buttons when I was creating my account. I don’t really get it when some people on this thread say that there are many inconsistencies in my story. I know my stories are accurate.

And for the stereotype, s/he should be called out too. In this day and age where stereotyping is not relevant anymore, for a person to question my identity based on just one text, that just shows how uneducated someone can be even though that person went to grad school. I guess school doesn’t teach people manners.

Thanks for being nice with your comment unlike these trolls.
 
Mikedavis said:
Yes, I created my account when I was in high school, but was very ambitious and eager to become and doctor. I must have pressed the wrong buttons when I was creating my account.
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I think if you had addressed the issue instead of ignoring the posts about it, it would have gone better. Understand that since SDN is anonymous you are going to get all types here. And just because you say you aren't a troll doesn't mean everyone else will always believe you. There is respect that has to be earned here.

Mikedavis said:
And for the stereotype, s/he should be called out too. In this day and age where stereotyping is not relevant anymore, for a person to question my identity based on just one text, that just shows how uneducated someone can be
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All I'll say is two wrong don't make a right. As a future physician you know that. Spoiler: I'm actually gay. I've experienced homophobia. I've never blamed it on someone's ethnicity or place of origin.
 
bluemamba7 said:
Lol bro I was vouching for you to keep this thread open, why are you now presenting troll like symptoms??? You makin’ me look bad
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Lol...honestly, this made me smile. “Troll like symptoms.” I was just so bored with the person who said that there are inconsistencies in my story. I don’t know if that person took psychology in college, but assumptions are what we take for granted and they become biased when they are making us unable to be impartial. S/he made assumptions just based off of my SDN account history that I am not even aware of. What a loser troll?( I’m not referring to you).
 
chaim123 said:
I think if you had addressed the issue instead of ignoring the posts about it, it would have gone better. Understand that since SDN is anonymous you are going to get all types here. And just because you say you aren't a troll doesn't mean everyone else will always believe you. There is respect that has to be earned here.



All I'll say is two wrong don't make a right. As a future physician you know that. Spoiler: I'm actually gay. I've experienced homophobia. I've never blamed it on someone's ethnicity or place of origin.
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True, I should have addressed the topic. But at the time, I was so desperate to solve my problems and did not think the questions about my account were relevant.
 
Geez after reading the last few replies I'm starting to feel sorry for the "evil" roommate.
 
Lol...the monster roommate doesn’t know what he’s getting himself into. I can be the nicest person alive, but when when someone touches me, I turn into a viper. The way I treat people depends on how they treat me.

A lot of people make a mistake of trying to use nice people, so take a lesson from my experience. Nice people can be mean too.
 
Mikedavis said:
Lol...the monster roommate doesn’t know what he’s getting himself into. I can be the nicest person alive, but when when someone touches me, I turn into a viper. The way I treat people depends on how they treat me.

A lot of people make a mistake of trying to use nice people, so take a lesson from my experience. Nice people can be mean too.
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And now I’m pretty convinced this is a troll post.
 
Mikedavis said:
I’m pretty sure you are from Africa or the Middle East cause that’s where stereotype is relevant.
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Honey, I think you're going to have to take a step back and analyze some of the posts you've made.

Yes, some of the individuals made passive aggressive posts but if you looked at it from their perspective many of them had reason to. Nobody in this thread used insults towards you that matched the gravity of the insults you're using.

Please be more mindful of the things you say when making statements such as the ones I quoted just now. They can be very hurtful and marginalize already marginalized individuals.
 
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