@jdh71 and
@gutonc made this insightful point a few years ago. It stuck with me:
For the very best IM programmes: Step 1 >250, honours in IM, and AOA. Being from a top 10 medical school or PhD can replace AOA and/or honors. That's about it.
Research tends to be
vastly overrated by applicants, unless you actually enjoy research or can pump out
quality papers (especially first authorships). Just check out Charting Outcomes or the 2014 NRMP Program Director's Survey. (This of course varies like in, for example, Rad Onc or surgical subspecialities.)
So, basically, Step 1 is
all that really matters for your preclinical years. Everything else should be focused on 1) developing the clinical/people skills to shine during 3rd year and 2) being a healthy, happy human being who can stick with medicine for the long run (exercise, developing friendships, etc.).
And re: dating in your class. There's dating and then there's
dating. It's fine to pursue a healthy relationship, but just don't Tinder-plow your way through medical school. Your reputation
follows you like you wouldn't believe. It's worse than high school.