Moving in w/SO?

[Boogsie]

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Is anyone considering doing this before med school or has anyone recently done this?

What are the pros and cons?
What is the #1 thing you considered (or will consider)?
Is it a distraction or an extra boost of support?
What about bills?

Please share your thoughts and experiences (both positive and negative)?

Thanks in advance!!

 

[armybound]

I'm moving in with my SO in December, after I graduate.
Pros and cons.. you're going to be living in sin, you sinner! just kidding. things can be stressful. It can make or break a relationship. you may find out habits they have that you don't like. you may find that having space and time alone is actually not such a bad thing. finances become an issue.

 

[Quix]

Pros:

Typically is cheaper, considering you aren't trying to maintain two separate households.
Will let you know how you function sharing your personal space with someone.
Seeing your SO constantly.

Cons:

Can strain a relationship when one (or both) of you is very busy.
No personal space.
Seeing your SO constantly.

 

[Textuality]

I've been living with mine since June, and I'm loving it 🙂

Pros: Coming home to hugs and comfort. Spending lots of time together without having to waste time commuting to see each other. Sharing a one bedroom apt is cheaper in terms of bills. easier to set up surprises for each other! (like hiding romantic gestures in hampers/clothes etc).

Cons: You're more in danger of getting "too" comfortable with each other, haha. So there might be less passion every time you see them since you now see them all the time. You kind of trade off some hot-and-heavy for some sweet-and-comfortable. Not a bad thing necessarily.
Although, it might make long-distance relationships next year harder if you're going away for med school since you'll be used to seeing them that much more 🙁



Personally, I think it's great and definitely worth it for the support and coziness and sappiness 🙂 Keep in mind, my SO and I have been dating over 2 years, and are pretty committed, so if that's not the case with you then things might be different.

 

[Bananas Foster]

Moved in with SO last May,

Let me say its a learning experience hands down, and if you hope to marry the girl or guy, I would actually recommend waiting a long time to make sure you have a good idea what you're getting into before moving... this has broken a relationship or two.

For me, finances and cleanliness weren't too big of issues, moving in together actually streamlined both those issues for us because, honestly, it was easier for me to take responsibility for my own life knowing it would affect her. But schedule has become a big problem and so has personal space issues. Unfortunately I don't see this getting better as I enter med school either.

For me, its largely been a distraction but its been nice having her near whenever I need her. Life's just one big fun distraction anyways. On the upside we handle bills very well, but this might be because we both love excel and have been good on keeping track of things.

 

[Doctorverardoll]

My boyfriend and I took living together in stages. This summer (May-Aug), I subletted from my bf's roommate. It was a good transition, as we had roomates and our own rooms. We hit a couple of rough patches this summer and it was nice to have a retreat. This September we moved into our own place. We have a bedroom and a separate office, I think set aside personal space is needed.

bills: I buy groceries and cook, he is in charge of cable/internet

Pros: I like having someone at home (I don't like living by myself). We both have crazy schedules, so we can actually see each other. I don't have to worry about the plants or fish when I go on interviews. We are really working on our communication skills.

Cons: Dealing with our little idiosyncrasies. We are both moody and have difficulty in expressing our feelings. It was a lot less noticible when we did not live together.. but we are working on it. I often have to work overnights (for example 2 12hr shifts this weekend), and it is hard to be woken up by a chipper bf asking telling some ancedote (he's like a little kid.. he always needs to be in the center of my attention) or coming home to someone who had a fun friday night.

That said it has been a great learning experience and a way to save $. I would do it again. Not sure if it will change come med school.