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I’m an MS0 who is finding being an accepted incoming medical student is unexpectedly causing a lot of different types of tensions among my peers. (In the interests of full disclosure, I had to defer matriculation to July 2023 because of the pandemic delaying a major surgery to this fall, and I was strongly advised not to recover from major surgery while simultaneously starting my first semester in med school.)
My super-clever, astute and empathetic life partner who I intend to marry is a DACA recipient who is lower-income but his education has been severely impacted by his inability to get federal financial aid due to his immigration status. (My plan is that he will obtain citizenship through me in the near future s/p marriage so he can afford grad school). He feels insecure whenever he hangs out with my wealthier peers and friends (residents / med students) whose advice helped me get into medical school.
At times, when wealthier peers from college, in medical school or medicine hang out with my partner and friends from foster care, the youth shelter, etc. at social functions there has been unexpected significant discord. My poorer friends often feel the lines of conversation initiated by wealthier peers are out of touch with their socioeconomic reality; both peers groups often feel hurt when I end up trying to mediate instead of “choosing sides” and get asked “why didn’t you stand up for me ?!”
Among my poorer peers there’s a strong stigma against being a class traitor. It’s our ingrained culture to make fun of the antics of the wealthy when we struggled with poverty for so long. I also have a habit of making jokes at the expense of the wealthy as part of class solidarity. Is it wrong to expect wealthier peers to take these jokes in stride? After all, that’s simply how many poor patients will feel although they might not express that to my wealthy peers’ faces.
I also cannot understand why so many of my wealthy colleagues and peers who are in various stages of medical training so hostile and defensive to disadvantaged colleagues. Socioeconomic disparities in how we grew up will simply mean that wealthy colleagues will simply never truly understand the struggles of our communities first-hand. I never thought that would be so controversial to express.
My super-clever, astute and empathetic life partner who I intend to marry is a DACA recipient who is lower-income but his education has been severely impacted by his inability to get federal financial aid due to his immigration status. (My plan is that he will obtain citizenship through me in the near future s/p marriage so he can afford grad school). He feels insecure whenever he hangs out with my wealthier peers and friends (residents / med students) whose advice helped me get into medical school.
At times, when wealthier peers from college, in medical school or medicine hang out with my partner and friends from foster care, the youth shelter, etc. at social functions there has been unexpected significant discord. My poorer friends often feel the lines of conversation initiated by wealthier peers are out of touch with their socioeconomic reality; both peers groups often feel hurt when I end up trying to mediate instead of “choosing sides” and get asked “why didn’t you stand up for me ?!”
Among my poorer peers there’s a strong stigma against being a class traitor. It’s our ingrained culture to make fun of the antics of the wealthy when we struggled with poverty for so long. I also have a habit of making jokes at the expense of the wealthy as part of class solidarity. Is it wrong to expect wealthier peers to take these jokes in stride? After all, that’s simply how many poor patients will feel although they might not express that to my wealthy peers’ faces.
I also cannot understand why so many of my wealthy colleagues and peers who are in various stages of medical training so hostile and defensive to disadvantaged colleagues. Socioeconomic disparities in how we grew up will simply mean that wealthy colleagues will simply never truly understand the struggles of our communities first-hand. I never thought that would be so controversial to express.